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    I feel as though I have no energy and keep having thoughts of the nature of "it would be great to go with dad." I'm not getting along with dh either--don't know why, but i feel very alone today. I guess the phone hasn't rung too many times since dad died. People are funny around me now.
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    Big HUGS. Please take a deep breath it will get better. my Dh thought the same thing when his dad passed. Take one day at a time and don't let things get to you. don't let people get to you. If you need to talk to someone please pm me or email me at ehanning@usa.com.


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    I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time. Over time it will get better and I know that isn't what anyone wants to hear. Just take it one day at a time. If you need to talk feel free to drop me a pm or you can e-mail me at acceb437@hotmail.com. I'll help anyway that I can.

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    Those thoughts of "it wouldve been great to have dad here to do this" will continue. I keep telling myself dad is here with us in spirit, like at my sons 4th bday party just 3 nights ago.

    I remember wondering why several of my friends pulled away when my dad died. I later talked to a couple who thought I wanted space, but what I really wanted was company. But everyone is different and people often arent sure what to do unless theyve been where you are to know how to extend themselves.

    Sorry about dh. Tell him you are having a tough time and feeling alone and that youre glad he is here. He'll get it.

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    {{{HUGS}}} to you. I know exactly how you feel. My dad died when I was 6 mos. pregnant. Everytime my 19 mo old does something new or cute, I just want to call dad and tell him. He never got to meet my only child. I just tell myself that he's watching over us, and sees everything we do & hears everything we think about him. It gets me through the rough spots. Yes - I still have rough spots almost 2 years later, but they are getting easier to deal with. Go tell you DH that you need a big ole hug & that you miss your dad - a lot. Hopefully that'll help him understand the depth of your grief. I ended up having to call my friends & let them know that it was okay to come over/call, and that it was okay to talk about Dad. He's just physically gone - don't make him mentally/emotionally gone too. It doesn't quit hurting, we just learn better how to deal with it. {{{HUGS}}}

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    {{HUGS}} My dad died almost 12 years ago.. He didn't get to see my graduate or have either of my children.. The pain is fresh for you since he died not too long ago

    Im sorry you are going through this tough time

    We are all here for you even if you don't know us

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    Oh my sweet Linda. I fully understand how you feel hon. I can honestly tell you that the pain never goes away but in time it does get a little easier. On Thurs. will be my dads 2nd b-day in heaven. And it is still such a hard pill to swallow. The bad days will soon be fewer. And the sweet memories will fill those days. I look at little James sometimes and wonder how unfair this is, that my little boy will never see his papa. And never be able to laugh at something funny he did. My dad was the one who got Skyler to crawl. And now that James is starting to make some interest in crawling. I don't have my dad here to help him. You know I am always here if you need to talk. I have a feeling that I have already been where you are right now. And the best thing I have found is talking with someone who understands how you feel. (((((HUGS))))

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    Thank you so much sweet ladies. You are all such wise and loving people. You said just the things I needed to hear. It's been a rollercoaster and I've had such horrible feelings of bitterness and jealousy of people who have their fathers with them. I just remember my last conversation with God, when I asked him to please not take my father now--I need him to know my children. I don't even think I'll ever have children. I've never felt so low, it's like there is nothing to be happy or excited about. Sorry for the downer ladies.
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    Linda,

    I am sorry that you are feeling this way. have you thought about getting counseling from a grief counselor? grief takes time to overcome and it can put a strain on your marriage but tell your husband how much you love him and how much you appreciate him being there. I wish I had more advice and I wish I could reach through this computer and comfort you. hang in there hun, things will get better.

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    Thanks Tina. I am looking for a counsellor now, despite my apprehension about talking to strangers about this...
    Linda & Alain
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    Madeleine and Noelle joined us on November 18th, 2005!

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