I just let my mother go, in Aug. I was 38 weeks prego and of course wanted her to see my baby and she wanted the same. But when your body gives up on you even your will to live is not going to always be able to keep you alive. My mother died with cancer in her brain. She went to treatments everyday and they only made her tired and sleep, we decied to stop them. She spent 13 days only taking a few sips of water she had decied to stop eatting. We could have givin her a feeding tub but decided not to, becasue it is natural when you body starts to shut down that you stop feeling hungry or eatting. She had brain activity and was able to talk and let us knwo if she was thirsty but at the end she even stoped askeing for that. Life weather we want to admit it or not ends.
She was only 49 and about to she her first grandchild, I was not 100% sure at the time what to do. She had a DNR but we kept her cuffy gave her O2 and morphine until she passed. At the end she was in alot of pain she we gave her twice the amout of morphine and she went to sleep. But I don't belive I "put my mother to sleep" like she was the family pet, and I can tell you why. Only a few days earler she seemed to be in the same pain and we gave her the dubble dose and she went to sleep but 8 hours latter woke back up. After seeing that I belived she would not die until ready and all we where doing was keeping her pain free.
You will never know what it is like to watch a loved one live in this state unless you live it. My views on it have changed in the last year. I loved my mom so much and wanted her to help me as I was becomming a mother but you can't do things for people for your own needs, you have to do what is best for them (there chooice). I personal would have wanted the tube but she did not so we did not do it, even thougth at the time Dad was 100% incharge of her medical care and she did not have a will.
Someone else posted above and I agree, this was my mothers body but not my mother, she had been gone a while.
I feel for any family about to loose a member but I don't think it is up to us to decied when a person dies. I feel bad that it has lasted so long for this family. HUGS to them.