I am 28 and am not pregnant yet. I lost my mom in January in a very sudden car accident. I lost my dad about 2 1/2 years ago, my paternal grandmother 15 days before my dad and the only grandfather i ever knew a year and a week after we buried my dad. So I can truly relate to the immense loss you feel when your mother is no longer here.
My husband and I are hoping to have a baby sometime in the near future. I am happy, just a little scared and sad all at the same time about doing this without both of my parents. I already have high blood pressure so I may already be a high-risk pregenancy. Any tips on how to not thing about the sad parts as much and keep my stress down would be great.
I'm not sure if anyone will read this, but I wanted to reply to alrankin.
I lost my mom very suddenly 4 and half years ago. I had been married, but I hadn't had a child yet. When I finally decided that I was ready to have a child (which took a long time), I really struggled with not having her there. I cried many times about it and frankly still do. Yet I did have to figure out how to deal. My best friend told me at one point something that did seem to help me. She said, "What better guardian angel for your daughter than your mom?"
This thought offered me comfort. My mom - the woman I loved and trusted more than anyone else in the world - is now watching over my daughter and keeping her safe and comforted at all times. While nothing replaces her loss, I know she is always with me and with my daughter.
I'm not sure if that will help or if you'll even read it, but I thought I would try.
My sincerest condolences to everyone here who has had to suffer a loss.
I read your post and its really heartbreaking. I m so sorry for your loss. Its such a horrible tragedy and so painful to you. My friends mom also diagnosed with breast cancer and died last year. My friend crying all the time when his mother passed. Its so hard time and I can't see my friends face.
He felt so lonely, I tried to give him console but he cried again and again. I know mother love is very important for child and we needs our parents. There are no mean to live in this world without our parents. God give you difficult time and you should live in this world. I know its very difficult to you. Death is reality of life and death spares nobody. Everyone going to heaven one day. Be strong and think about your future life because life is very big.
My prayers and wishes always with you.
May God bless you.
(((((((((HUGS FOR YOU)))))))))