My baby cousin

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My baby cousin

My cousin Mia and I are super close.She just delivered her 4th son on March 9th and he was stillborn.It was such a super hard event for me.I have been waiting for this baby and drove all the way from PA to Ohio to be here when he was born.I feel so bad becouse I feel like I shouldnt be feeling so bad still.I am trying to be as helpful as I can yet I cant get him off my mind.I havent slept for thinking about him and then when the say passed when he would have been 1 month old I was a terrible wreck seeing my cousin be so upset and knowing what we are missing.I dont want to say anything to her becouse I dont want her to think that I am over shadowing her greif which clearly worst than mine. I just miss him so much he is such a precious child almost flawless.

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Don't feel bad for being upset. It is a terrible thing for anyone to have to go through. It's good that you were there for your cousin. I'm sure that she needs someone like you that she can talk to. It is completly normal for you to be upset and it will take some time to get over it. The first year will be the roughest. I know that it doesn't seem like it now but it will get better. It is so hard for me to give advice on this. It hurts anytime I hear of a child dying. I don't know if you are religious or not, but God had a purpose for this child.
((hugs)) I am so sorry. If you need to talk I am here.

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I am very sorry for your loss. Only time will ease the pain. It is always so much harder when you hear of a child passing away. Let your cousin know that she is in my thoughts and prayers. If you need to talk, I am here for you.


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You are a terrific cousin and it's great that you are so close to her.

Sounds like you are doing everything in your power to be there for her and it's your closeness to her that makes you miss this baby so much..

When the time is right, I think she would find comfort in knowing how much you love her and miss her baby..that her baby impacted others and was loved from the very beginning of his conception not only by her.

Just continue to be there for her and let her know how much you love her and her little angle.

My mom's first was stillborn and 40 years later she still grieves for him.

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I feel very sorry for your loss. Only time will help you to forget this grief. I pray for your baby cousin. I think God will help you and your family to cope with the loss and provide you his warm blessings.

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Oh darling! I can completely relate to you as my sister gave birth to her daughter who was stillborn back in 2001. I was SO devastated and I suppose we all revelled in grief for a while. I'm sure your cousin would never think of you as overshadowing how she feels for her lost son. If anything, she would probably be glad that you care, ya know? Grief hits us all in different ways and yes for a mother is hard but will also effect all involved.