My 16 year old cousin died this previous Friday in a car accident. She was my Aunt Anne & Uncle Randy's only child, because they found out after having her that they couldn't have any more. Needless to say, they are having a very rough time of things.
While I was growing up, "Auntie Anne" was my absolute favorite aunt, and I was always at her side. There are more pictures of her holding 3-year-old me at her wedding, than of her and Randy. While my heart cries for her, I can't even imagine what she is going through.
My husband and I are expecting our first child in April. We are considering using my cousin's name, Allyssa, as the middle name if our child is born a girl. We would like to ask Anne and Randy first before doing this however. How and/or when should we broach this topic with them? Any thoughts?