Why did I feel this way.

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Why did I feel this way.

When my mom died in Aug a family member gave me an "I am sorry card" with 60 $ in it. Well I never spent it and just tucked it away. Yesterday he was looking for somthing and found it. Then on his way to work he yells "I am teking $10 out of that money I found." I yelled "NO your not, I want to put aht in Peters savings." He left the money but now I feel crummy.

Why do I want to hold on to it?
DH gives me everything I have and I won't give him $10?
I don't even want to put it in Peter's account, I just had to say somthing fast. :cry:

Now DH has not money for lunch. I guess I did have some background for my feelings, he kept barrowing money from our wedding money and now it is all gone and he never put any of it back in the bank like he said he would, and last week he barrowed from Peter and it still has not returned. I am the only one on Peters account so he can't get to it any time he wants but the money was some that had been givien to him and I had not taken to the back yet last week.

He is getting better about saving money in the bank but when he see cash he wants to spend it. Sorry I am rambling. I am not sure if this post is over greff or a vent about DH and money. I feel so bad complaning about money sice he is the one that works.

Gezz it was 10 bucks why is my head spinning?

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It's okay Juls, It's completly understandable. I think the reason you want to hold on to the money is because of the meaning behind it. Talk to David and let him know how you are feeling, I am sure he will understand. ((hugs)) sweetie, you will know when it's the right time to spend the money.
BTW, Dh used to be the same way, he still is a little. I set him down one night when we got paid and showed him how much our bills were compared to what we made. Since we have been sticking to a budget he knows exactly we have to spend on just bs and what has to go to bills and things. If you need to talk I am here.

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"Becky_lynn" wrote:

It's okay Juls, It's completly understandable. I think the reason you want to hold on to the money is because of the meaning behind it. Talk to David and let him know how you are feeling, I am sure he will understand. ((hugs)) sweetie, you will know when it's the right time to spend the money.
BTW, Dh used to be the same way, he still is a little. I set him down one night when we got paid and showed him how much our bills were compared to what we made. Since we have been sticking to a budget he knows exactly we have to spend on just bs and what has to go to bills and things. If you need to talk I am here.

I agree. it is kind of like a last memory of your loved one. Do not feel crummy. you have nothing to be guilty for. You may never spend that money and that is OK. There are things that i have kept from loved ones that i have never parted with like money. I even have a piece of birthday cake that i received from a very dear friend. he was like a dad to me. I wanted my dad and jeff to walk me down the aisle but Jeff died before I got married so I carried a picture of him in my bouquet so it was like he was there too. anyways, I still have that cake after 12 years and i do not think that I will ever be able to part with it. I hope that you are feeling better. I just made myself very depressed now Lol

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I think it's understandable...the money was from something connected to your loss...it's not about the amount of $$ but the sentimental feeling.

I have a little wrapper in my jacket pocket from a mint that I got in the cafeteria of the hospital the day I found out that there was nothing they could do for my grandfather. An empty mint wrapper is probably a strange thing to hold onto but it makes me feel better so I'm not going to question it.

I'm sorry for the loss of your mom. Don't be hard on yourself...it's hard to know how we will react with grief and what will set things off.