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haysmama's picture
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Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one who has trouble with this potty training thing. It was a nightmare training Hayden and Kate has been much easier, but we are still having issues. I'm so ready to have this behind me. Anyway, Kate has been wearing panties for 2.5 weeks now, diaper at naptime and bedtime. She has been really good about going when we tell her to, but she rarely volunteers to go on her own. When she does say she wants to go it's always to get candy. And forget pooping in the potty. Hasn't done that once. I've even seen her giving the "look," rushed her to the bathroom and she wouldn't go. I put her in a diaper because we were leaving for church and didn't want the nursery worker to have to deal with cleaning it up. Sure enough, she pooped there. Any advice on getting her to tell me she needs to go or on how to get her to poop in the potty?

Vicky, I remember Hunter struggling with the poop thing. How did he figure it out and how long did it take?

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Ryken rarely tells us he needs to go, maybe once a day. We always have to ask him and we usually end up dragging him to the bathroom. He hasn't had an accident in 3 weeks though! I'm really happy about that.

It took Ryken a couple weeks to get the hang of pooping on the potty when we first started. I bought a little package of airplanes as a treat if he pooped on the potty. He always asked about them and when he finally did poop on the potty he was so excited to get them! He reverted and started pooping in his pants for about a week- it actually started after he had that accident when we were at the mall, Beth! Biggrin I'm not really sure what caused it, but he finally started going poop on the potty again.

As far as the candy goes, I would try to get rid of that soon. I only gave him candy for about a week when we first started. I'm not sure how to go about it because I just stopped giving it to him and he didn't seem to notice.

Good luck! I'm sure it will soon be a thing of the past. It really does suck cleaning poopy underwear. YUCK! I really, really hated that! I would much rather change a poopy diaper.

Nichole U's picture
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Sorry you're having a hard time, Beth. Hang in there. She'll get the hang of it soon enough. Of course not as soon as you would like, but she will get there.

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"haysmama" wrote:

Vicky, I remember Hunter struggling with the poop thing. How did he figure it out and how long did it take?

I am sorry you are going through this. Hunter was potty trained for pee in April but not till end of June for poop. So it took him 3 full months before accepting to poop in the potty. He would just go in his pants. I wouldn't put a diaper on him so he would just do it in his underwear, grosss....
I tried everything. Stickers, big rewards (like a kidder surprise egg), a lot of encouragement, sitting him there for long period of time with a book. I even tried making him blow a balloon on the toilet (I read somewhere it uses the same muscle and he would just poop without noticing...NOTHING worked.....
UNTIL one day we were at my parents pool and was about to change him from pants to swimsuit and he started running around naked. Then he felt a bowel movement and didn't want to poop on the floor so he ran to the potty and did it !!! The following days I would leave him bottom less in the house and he would go on the potty. I did that for about 1 week. He NEVER went in his pants again!!!!!
THe only problem I still have is that he prefers to poop in the potty and don't want to go on the big toilet at home. He will go at my MIL and his Godmother because they don't have a potty. But I guess it's better then in his pants!!!
Hope this helps! Good luck to you Beth!

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We are still struggling with poo here too Beth. Jakey hasn't had an accident in weeks (unless he's pooing in his pants :roll: ). He normally poos in the morning before getting out of bed when he still has a diaper on. Its so frustrating cause he even wakes up dry 9 times out of 10 and i've stopped putting a diaper on even during nap time and he always wakes up dry. I would stop giving her candy and tell her she can get it when she poos on the potty. Kate seems like a smart cookie so I don't think it'll take her long once she puts her mind to it Wink

Nichole U's picture
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That's a great idea, Melissa! No more candy until she poos in the potty.

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Hi there!

I am having the same issues. Caitlynn won't even try to poop on the potty and she gets a bit hysterical when we try it. She is wearing panties all day, though. It took me leaving her alone with her potty chair all day (I was in the adjoining room doing a small remodel while she watched Disney movies) to get her to use it. I haven't figured out the poop thing yet and Caitlynn has taken to holding it for 3 days so she doesn't have to go. Ugh! I have gone back to allowing he to poop in her pull-ups in the evening so that she doesn't become constipated.

As my mom told me, "Even the stupidest people in the world know how to use the bathroom, so she'll get it soon enough." I am holding to that thought as we go through this.

Good luck!

On a side note, my DH's dad trained him using M&Ms and now, as an adult, he has a serious sweet tooth. Rich desserts are his favorite reward. Beware of the candy and use it sparingly. Smile

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We're having some issues too - mostly with communication. Claire has been fully potty trained for a couple months now, the problem is she never tells us when she needs to go! We mostly just anticipate when she'll need to go, and take her. She doesn't have accidents at home, but she's just started school where they require them to be fully potty trained and able to communicate their needs, and she's had two accidents so far Sad Obviously with 10-12 kids in the room, they can't keep track of when she's last gone, so they don't take her unless she says she needs to go. She's about to get kicked out if we can't figure this out!

She also really doesn't like pooping...she'll hold it as long as humanly possible so by the time she can't hold it anymore (once it got up to 5 days!!), it's really painful! This, of course, makes it a vicious circle Sad

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Thanks for the suggestions ladies. Kate already has a major sweet tooth, which is why the candy is such great motivation for her. I have tried offering a marshmallow for going poop and that only frustrated her. She wanted to poop right then and get that marshmallow! But she just didn't need to go yet. Other times when she did need to go and I brought up the marshmallow, she refused. Today when she asked for candy I told her no a few times and she threw a couple of fits over it. She did come tell me she needed to go today a few times and I gave her the candy when she asked because I was trying to reinforce that she came and told me, which I realize now probably just confused her. Why is she getting it sometimes and not others? She probably wasn't able to reason that out. She goes to preschool two days a week and they don't give her candy for going potty. I even asked her, "Does Ms. Rosa give you candy at school for going potty?" one time when she was asking me for it. She told me no. I probably need to ask her teacher what she does because Kate has been a little monster when I've told her no. I was thinking that she would kind of forget about the candy the more often she went, but it seems to be the opposite. It's now part of the routine.

The one REALLY irritating thing is that she'll come find me and say in this snooty voice, "Mommy, I pooped" all smiley like she's so proud of herself. UGH. It takes everything in me to remain nice about it...I just calmly explain that poop goes in the potty, not in her panties and that it's yucky to poop in her underwear...then I get to clean out poop panties. It's getting old. I feel like I just stopped cleaning Hayden's poop underwear... He wasn't fully trained until the end of May. :rolleyes: So tired of cleaning up poop! One nice thing is that Anderson literally poops once a week. lol So at least I get a break there!

Sorry to hear others are having trouble. I have to admit, though, that it does make me feel a little better. Like I said in my OP, I was feeling like I'm the only one struggling. It's nice to know I'm not the only one with stubborn kids! Smile

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"Sweet Nutmeg" wrote:

As my mom told me, "Even the stupidest people in the world know how to use the bathroom, so she'll get it soon enough." I am holding to that thought as we go through this.

LOL...That is definitely true!

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"MandyMommyto1" wrote:

We're having some issues too - mostly with communication. Claire has been fully potty trained for a couple months now, the problem is she never tells us when she needs to go! We mostly just anticipate when she'll need to go, and take her. She doesn't have accidents at home, but she's just started school where they require them to be fully potty trained and able to communicate their needs, and she's had two accidents so far Sad Obviously with 10-12 kids in the room, they can't keep track of when she's last gone, so they don't take her unless she says she needs to go. She's about to get kicked out if we can't figure this out!

She also really doesn't like pooping...she'll hold it as long as humanly possible so by the time she can't hold it anymore (once it got up to 5 days!!), it's really painful! This, of course, makes it a vicious circle Sad

That sounds rough. I'm surprised her school requires full potty training at age 2. Some kids just aren't ready yet. I really hope she figures it out soon!

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Katie-Yay for Ryken! He probably had butterflies when he met Kate and that's why he had an accident- LOL! Glad he's back on track now. Wink

Vicky-If nothing else works I may just have to let her go bottomless and hope she won't go on the floor. But if she does I guess that's just one mess to clean up because I wouldn't let it happen again! I'm glad Hunter has it down now!

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I got Liberty a book that talks about the potty. It took her a while, too, to come around to going #2 but she did eventually get it. I really do believe they do things in their own time, and once they do, they'll go like they've been doing it all their lives! Liberty does perfect all day long during the days, she wears her panties, and even when we're out she'll tell us she has to potty and goes by herself. It's only at night that we're still having issues and have to fight with her to get her into a pullup because she thinks they're for babies. I try and explain that she'll go pee-pee while she's sleeping and it's like she doesn't believe me lol! Oh well, I know she'll come around... anyway, good luck with your LO!