New AAP guidelines on TV

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New AAP guidelines on TV

There is nothing like new fodder from the "powers that be" to make you feel like you are failing as a parent. IMO, we all suck at it anymore. We move our kids to bigger carseats too early, we feed them processed food, we let them watch secondhand tv or *gasp* actual episodes of Sesame Street or Dora...we are horrible, horrible parents. ROFL Okay, I am being sarcastic, but the media sure does what it can to make every parent feel like they are never doing a good enough job causing us all to become neurotic messes under constant pressure to make sure we are doing all the right things. After all, if I say that I did not feel any guilt after reading some of this, I would be lying. I feel guilty about my twins' development every day. I never feel I am good enough as a parent anymore. Maybe it is because I watch TV!! ROFL

Anyway, here is an article about it.

http://www.wired.com/wiredscience/2011/10/infant-tv-guidelines/

Oh, and please note that all of the comments above are in good fun. I take my kids' development seriously, but when you work full-time and you have 3 kids, your time is pretty stretched. Quite honestly, other than my DH watching sports when the kids are downstairs, we rarely have the TV on. My girls have watched maybe 6 total Dora episodes ever. Jake and the Neverland Pirates and Mickey Mouse Clubhouse may have snuck in on occasion when I had to get something done and my girls refused to play, but instead hung on my legs screaming at the top of their lungs. We just don't have time for TV in our house. However, I can never say that we are a TV free house, nor do I think that is realistic for our family. We do try to limit electronic media when we can though. Although, I will admit that my tots have a Sesame Street app for learning to count. Ah, Ah, Ah, let's count 7 cuppy cakes, 7! Lol

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Ok so it sounds like you are, in all honesty, a much better parent than I am. After work I pick up my kids from daycare, we play outside for 15-20 minutes and then come in to make supper. Since DH doesn't get home until an hour after me, the TV is turned on (either Dora or Sesame Street) so I don't have to worry about the kids getting into trouble while I make supper. YUP I'm the horrible mom that uses TV for a baby sitter so I can know where my kids are at while I'm making their food.

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I'm a Horrible Parent when it comes to the TV. It's always on. Since we work 2nd shift out Schedule is much different then other families.

She watches allot of TV/Movies but she also loves to go outside so it doesn't bother me. Not to mention she has learned allot from what she has seen. I'm pretty happy with how her learning progress is going. I know they say TV rots the brain but We do monitor what she does watch. She loves Sponge Bob, but she also loves Yo Gabba Gabba, Go Diago Go, Bubble Guppies, Olivia, and Ni Hao Kilan. Right now for Movie obsession she really has taken a Liking to Tangled. She always wants to watch it. She even asks for it by name.

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"MrsRiggert" wrote:

Ok so it sounds like you are, in all honesty, a much better parent than I am. After work I pick up my kids from daycare, we play outside for 15-20 minutes and then come in to make supper. Since DH doesn't get home until an hour after me, the TV is turned on (either Dora or Sesame Street) so I don't have to worry about the kids getting into trouble while I make supper. YUP I'm the horrible mom that uses TV for a baby sitter so I can know where my kids are at while I'm making their food.

Hey now, I am not a better parent than anyone else. I let my son watch a lot more TV than the girls watch. I think it is because we are just busier than we were when he was little. They have watched The Little Mermaid and Cinderella. I think I put those on one Sunday for a fun movie afternoon. Now, you take your kids outside, which is more than we do. I am too exhausted when I get home to contemplate chasing my twins around in the backyard. I am horrible about it. I always just pray that the girls got outside time at daycare. Biggrin I know my DS got enough time between daily gym, recess, and his afterschool care, so I don't worry about getting him outside during the school year.

I just read a couple of articles about this recommendation and about parents that are getting rid of TVs in their homes, and felt like people are just going to extremes again. Everything is bad for us. So, this was my little vent while posting the information to everyone.

"XplatinumXpixeyX" wrote:

Right now for Movie obsession she really has taken a Liking to Tangled. She always wants to watch it. She even asks for it by name.

We don't own Tangled, but I want to get it for the girls for Christmas. My DS learned a lot by watching TV. Of course, now that he is almost 8, he is obsessed with TV. All I hear is, "Can I watch TV?" "Can I play the Wii/DSi?" "Can I watch a movie?" He does it as soon as we step in the door! Grrrrr! We did not have language issues with him either though, which made it easier to allow TV.

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ehhh I have things I worry a lot about TV isn't one of them. Evan LOVES Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. We have a few episodes downloaded for crabby evenings LOL When I'm home I never just have the TV on, never did and don't now. DH however can't sit w/o it on. Oh well. I suppose if I had some real developmental concerns I might make adjustments but Evan seems perfectly on par to me so we'll continue to watch some Mickey and DH can leave golf on all day on the weekend and we can fret about something else Smile

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Yeah, I have Mickey Mouse and Jack and the Neverland Pirates recorded on our DVR just for Josiah :oops: It's nice to turn it on when I want a shower or need to cook or just need to distract him. He really doesn't watch THAT much right now, but I know as the weather gets colder tv time will increase. Most of the summer the kids watch hardly any tv...but they make up for it during the cold months.
Oh and do I hear you on the older kids. My oldest is always asking for tv or her DS. We've limited her DS to weekends only, though she couldn't have it this weekend because she told me she didn't have homework last weekend, proceeded to play her DS every free second of the weekend and then on Monday morning 'remembered' she had homework. Ugh!

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I am also an awful parent according to this. When DBF is around, he will often turn on ESPN, and while the boys don't want it, it is 'secondhand' TV. They even say "game!" when they see that its on and they are showing highlights from various sports. I also use TV as a babysitter for the 20-30 minutes or so that I cook dinner. I usually turn on PBS kids, so whatever they have on, its usually Curious George or Arthur at that time. The boys also love the Wii, the even point to it and say "wii! wii!", but the only thing they ever 'watch' on there is me doing Wii Fit. Sometimes on rainy days I turn it on for 20 minutes or so so I can work out a bit and they are entertained. Oh well! I do feel guilty about it sometimes, but I try not to worry.

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Secondhand TV from DH is definitely happening in my house. My DH has to have sports on every minute that he can. I do my best to keep the kids occupied with other things when I can, but I have things I have to get done too. I also feel like I have other things to worry about than if my kids have had too much secondhand TV.

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My kids get PLENTY of second hand tv. Though with my older kids I've realized some of it they are paying attention even if I think they aren't. I used to turn the news on while I was getting the kids breakfast and getting them ready for school...till my oldest asked about some awful event that was on the news (can't even remember exactly what it was) and then I realized I probably shouldn't be doing that, so now it's pretty much news after the kids are in bed. But the kids still get more than enough second hand tv.

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"mandi04" wrote:

My kids get PLENTY of second hand tv. Though with my older kids I've realized some of it they are paying attention even if I think they aren't. I used to turn the news on while I was getting the kids breakfast and getting them ready for school...till my oldest asked about some awful event that was on the news (can't even remember exactly what it was) and then I realized I probably shouldn't be doing that, so now it's pretty much news after the kids are in bed. But the kids still get more than enough second hand tv.

Biggrin I will admit that there have been a few instances where the girls also get secondhand TV from their brother. We put on a Disney show here and there while they are in the same room. So, they have seen Wizards of Waverly Place, Phineas and Ferb, and such. They mostly play, but I probably need to stop that too. I was so much better with my DS. Ah, the joys of parenting more than one child with a huge age gap! Lol

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I really feel like of all the things to worry about TV and 2nd hand TV just aren't that high on the list. We spend lots of time reading, looking at pictures, talking about animals, doing sounds, letters, counting, drawing on and on So if DH wants to leave the TV on all weekend......or if I need an hour to answer work e-mails and Mickey is on....I'm just not going to worry. Maybe that's the wrong attitude but he really is very active and engaged so I just can't spin myself out worrying about a couple hours of TV and 2nd hand TV......