hi toddler mommas! i need help. asher is going through a phase where he cannot stand for me to leave him, and just the thought that i might leave him is enough to send him into hysterics. he is fine and happy at home, plays independently, etc. but as soon as we pull into the church parking lot or a friend's driveway, he starts crying and insists that i hold him and not put him down. even when i'm holding him, he is still fussy and starts screaming if an adult approaches and tries to talk to him. i used to leave him in the church nursery every sunday (because who can focus in church with a toddler in the pew?) but two sundays in a row they had to come get me out of church because he had been crying inconsolably for 20-30 minutes. and this is an environment that he is familar with. i have two close friends who have kept him many times at their houses, and now when we just go over there for a playdate, he freaks out thinking he is being dropped off. i can't even imagine actually dropping him off with them (even though they owe me hours because i've kept their kids) because what if he just screams the whole time? in the next couple weeks i have two weekly activities starting back up for fall (a bible study and a mom's group) where he will have to be left in child care situations and i'm just dreading it...knowing they might be coming to pull me out of the meeting because he won't calm down. and honestly, i need my time away from him! he is fine being left at home with DH or the one babysitter he knows well, but that's it. i really don't know what to do. any thoughts? how do i help him cope with these separations?