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sleeping issues

So how are your 9/10 month olds sleeping at night?

I'm having trouble with the fact that my LO is still not STTN more often than once every two weeks or so. She gets put down in the crib around 7pm, goes to sleep within 15 minutes. but then she's up again around 10pm, I feed her in bed, she falls alseep in our bed and we transfer her to the crib. She's then up again between 2 and 4am, I feed her in bed again, and we transfer her back again to the crib and she's up for the day at 6am. It's just too many times a night and I"m tired! Any suggestions for me? I really don't think she needs to feed twice a night anymore, but not sure how to solve this problem?

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I am NO fan of crying it out b/c I think babies cry when they need you BUT after being reassured that Hadleigh did not need the calories of a night feeding we finally let her cry it out. For her it was habit! Not to say that's the case with your little one though. Hadleigh had 3 rough nights and has pretty much slept through the night since unless teething or sick.

Here's where sleeping changed for us: I read that when you lay them down already asleep and they wake up they "are lost". Meaning they remember where they were before falling asleep and now they are in a different spot. I thought that was crazy but then we started rocking Hadleigh for a few minutes, getting her calm and settled and then putting her in her crib awake with music and the projector. She totally stopped crying when she woke during the night and now soothes herself to sleep. I can take her up love on her and tell her night night and lay her down, start the music and projector, and VIOLA... she goes to sleep. I wasn't sure I bought that theory when I first read it, but I do now!

She has done really well self soothing back to sleep (I watch her on the monitor) until about 2 weeks ago. I think some of that is separation anxiety which is the stage we are in... AKA I can't leave my mommy!!! She used to grab her glow worm, light him up and go back to sleep. Now she cries a bit and then finally realizes she's ok. I've gone up a few times to calm her down but I always leave her in her crib and soothe her there. I know if I picked her up she would cry again when I tried to put her down.

I hope you find a solution quick! Thats a long time to try to function on nightly interrupted sleep... I would be a real bear if that were me! Good luck!!

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Lana will be 11 months old on Saturday (:eek:) and she STILL is up 1-2 times a night. It's so strange to me b/c DS had been sleeping 12hrs straight for months by this point. She goes to bed at 7:30pm and is usually up for the first time by 3am. About a month ago, it had reached the point of being up 3-4x a night. And she wouldn't go back to sleep with me nursing her - she would reach full panic mode if I tried any other soothing method.

I recognize that at this age, she doesn't need to be feeding at night. She certainly doesn't need the calories - it's nothing more than habit. I decided to try to train her. The first night was awful - she cried like it was the end of the world. It was like she was saying, WTH?? Take your shirt off - quit messin around! LOL. But it only lasted about 20 min or so. The next night she slept until 5am. It's gotten better, but like I said, she's still up at least once. I try to let her fuss a bit and she's getting better about putting herself back to sleep.

All of this is to say that I feel your pain. I know that I haven't reached my breaking point to do what it takes to really sleep train...I just keep hoping it gets better on it's own. :rolleyes: As long as she's making progress, I'm hopeful

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"sewgirly" wrote:

I've gone up a few times to calm her down but I always leave her in her crib and soothe her there. I know if I picked her up she would cry again when I tried to put her down.

Ditto!

Tigh wakes up once at night every other week or so and sometimes there are a couple nights in a row if his teeth are hurting him or if he is sick. We leave him in his crib and pat his back. Its difficult not to just pick him up, but we have learned picking him up only makes him get fussier when we put him back down. So, I've spent time sitting next to the crib, holding his hand from outside the crib, patting his back...etc, all while he is still in the crib. We turn on his music/projector if we need to as well. He has not had a night feeding in months because he doesn't need it and the reason he wakes up crying when he does is due to being scared or being in pain, not because he is hungry.

GL with your LO - I'm sure we will all have different techniques to share and you'll find the right one for you.

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We really were not a fan of the idea of CIO either, for the same reasons PP mentioned. However, at Sophia's 6 month appointment I brought up her sleep habits to her peditrician. She was still waking up at night, but she wasn't really wanting to eat. She said it was absolutely my decision and I shouldn't do anything I'm uncomfortable with, but she told me there were some TWO YEAR OLDs she saw that were still unable to put themselves to sleep and got up at night. It was her opinion that this really wasn't much of a problem, as long as their parents didn't mind putting them to sleep and getting up with them.

After talking with my husband, we decided to try CIO. Really, it took Sophia 2 nights to adjust and she was fine. Now she'll whine for less than five minutes for naps and doesn't cry at all when we put her down at night. We do rock her at night until she's very relaxed then put her down.

She also doesn't cry when she wakes up now. We know she's awake cause we'll hear rustling around in her room and she'll start playing with her crib toys.

IMHO, I think using the CIO method was being nicer to her than continuing to feed her/pick her up when she woke up at night. Now she seems much happier when she goes to sleep, much happier when she wakes up, and she sleeps better. She sleeps about 11-12 hours a night and takes two 1-2 hour naps a day.

Of course, when she's sick she'll wake up in the middle of the night and we cuddle her and feed her. Wink But now it's to the point where when she gets up at night we KNOW there's something wrong cause she NEVER gets up in the middle of the night and RARELY cries when she wakes up.

GL and KUP with whatever you decide to do!

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Gabby is still up twice a night. Doesn't bother me. I'd love to sleep 8 hours through the night but William didn't STTN until he was 14 months and I expect to hit that milestone again with Gabby. I won't sleep train or let her CIO. Losing sleep is just one of the crappy parts that goes along with having a baby IMO.

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"sewgirly" wrote:

I've gone up a few times to calm her down but I always leave her in her crib and soothe her there. I know if I picked her up she would cry again when I tried to put her down.

I hope you find a solution quick! Thats a long time to try to function on nightly interrupted sleep... I would be a real bear if that were me! Good luck!!

I've tried that and it makes her SCREAM her head off. I really would like more sleep so I don't get frustrated as fast at DS. He's total toddler stage and lack of sleep makes me want to scream at him sometimes!

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she would reach full panic mode if I tried any other soothing method.
All of this is to say that I feel your pain. I know that I haven't reached my breaking point to do what it takes to really sleep train...I just keep hoping it gets better on it's own. :rolleyes: As long as she's making progress, I'm hopeful

Yes, holding and rocking do not help me either. Seems like I have to offer the boob even if she sucks but doesn't eat... Sad I also haven't quite hit my breaking point, but I can feel it coming....

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We know she's awake cause we'll hear rustling around in her room and she'll start playing with her crib toys.

She does wake up that way in the morning and after nap. for some reason in the middle of the night she wakes up crying, but at no other time - Maybe I should try a brighter night light??

"AliciaD" wrote:

Gabby is still up twice a night. Doesn't bother me. I'd love to sleep 8 hours through the night but William didn't STTN until he was 14 months and I expect to hit that milestone again with Gabby. I won't sleep train or let her CIO. Losing sleep is just one of the crappy parts that goes along with having a baby IMO.

Ethan STTN by 6 months so this is new territory for me, which is why I'm at a loss! He just SSTN on his own with nothing new from us. He needed help falling asleep, but once he was down he was out like a log. He's still that way actually!

I expect to lose sleep having a baby, but I'm becoming concerned that Olivia isn't getting enough sleep herself. She's only napping for about 2.5 hours during the day and then getting maybe 9-10 a night? it just doesn't seem like enough sleep for her age IYKWIM? I also work outside the home three days a week and feel like a zombie some days, not good for work, my family, or myself...

Anyway, thanks for all the support ladies, much appreciated. I think I'll try a brighter night light first.

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Looks like they should be getting about 14 hours per 24 hour period. I've been putting Gabby in her crib upstairs where its quiet and shes alone and she sleeps so much better now. She sleeps in the dark. Do you use a blanket? Both mine loved sleeping with their crocheted blankets.