Announcing the Gender

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Announcing the Gender

I know many of us are planning to find out the gender of our babies (and some of us already have!). Are you also planning to tell everyone the gender or keep it a secret? I have been debating this in my mind. On one hand, I'm not sure if I will be able to keep the secret. One the other hand, I am worried that once everybody knows, they will buy us tons of gender-specific baby items. I don't mind gender-specific clothing, but I really want to keep the major items (like car seats, pack and plays, and high chairs) gender neutral so we can use them with our next child in the event that we have the opposite sex. For those of you who have BTDT, did people go hog wild buying you girl/boy things?

Also, did any of you see the spot on Good Morning America about gender reveal parties? What do you think? I can't imagine having a whole party just to reveal the gender, but the idea of having a pink or blue cake that is revealed when cut might be a fun way to reveal at a family dinner or something.

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We are going to tell everyone, but only cause there's no way I can keep it a secret. And we plan on registering for gender neutral car seat, stroller, high chair etc, so we can use them for future children too. If you do a registry then hopefully people will check it and get the stuff yall pick out.

But, to tell our parents, we are going to get a picture frame that's gender specific that says some thing about Grandkids, and then in the picture place we will put "IT'S A .......!!" and then put the baby's name. We have kept our names a secret so far so it will be two surprises, one for the gender and one for the name. I just wanted to do something original that we'd remember forever for our first child. We talked about doing the cake thing but I we thought doing the picture frame thing would be easier, and be a keepsake.

About the gender reveal party, I have a friend that did this, and it was so cute! The invite asked the guests to wear pink or blue, depending on what they thought the gender was. And the grandmas got to cut the cake to reveal the gender. The only thing is, and this is just my opinion, but it seems a little arrogant to throw a party for yourself like that. It's like throwing your own baby shower. It just seems kind of weird to me. But that's just me. Like I said, the one that my friend had was super cute.

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The only thing is, and this is just my opinion, but it seems a little arrogant to throw a party for yourself like that. It's like throwing your own baby shower. It just seems kind of weird to me. But that's just me. Like I said, the one that my friend had was super cute.

I kind of felt the same way about it, but I did think the cake idea was kind of cute, and I could see myself doing that for a family dinner.

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We told everyone... I had to if I wanted to have a shower, as I hate yellow and green lol! The pink or blue cake idea is really cute... you could also just dye white cake pink or blue and just do white frosting to cover, and your guests would find out once you slice into the cake what the gender is!

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I will definitely be telling people! Since this is your first, you can just let people know you want to keep the big items gender neutral and register for such things wherever you decide to register for your shower! People won't mind and if I was buying you something big I would certainly want to get you something you wanted.

I love the idea of the cake at a dinner or something! Fun!

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i totally thought this thread was about what gender your baby was.....

I think i have finally decided to wait until delivery to find out. So our party willl also be a welcome baby kind of thing or a bris depending on the sex.

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That sounds like a very cute idea for a revealing cake at a family dinner. Love it!

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We will be revealing the gender too (we find out for sure this Friday!). We have already told most people that we think it's a girl (my perinatologist made a gender guess at my NT scan). We already have all the big stuff like stroller, carseat, etc. which is pretty gender neutral, so we don't have to worry about that. Basically all we really need is girl clothes and diapers and wipes, and I'm sure all of our family and friends will go crazy buying girly stuff, ha ha. We didn't find out the gender with our first baby and we got a LOT of green and yellow blankets at our shower, lol.
Have you started a registry? I would go ahead and maybe start thinking about registering for the gender neutral big stuff you want.

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The idea of the cake is neat for the baby shower but i couldn't see having a whole separate party just for gender announcement.

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I posted earlier about wanting to do a gender reveal party. We were planning a big cookout at our house at the end of July/beginning of August anyways so we thought about just revealing the baby's gender then when all of our family is present. We should be finding out the gender the week after the 12th because that's when my next doctors appointment is. However, it will be so hard to keep the baby's gender a secret until then. So I am unsure of what exactly will happen. I will probably be so excited that I'll call everyone as soon as we walk out the door of the doctors office!

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We told the gender with DS by mass texts as soon as we left the ultrasound. Smile We had registered for all the big items in gender neutral colors so we got what we asked for. Everything else we got was all geared for a boy. However, it is nice that so many people stocked us up so I didn't care what colors they were.

We are going to do a gender reveal party for this LO. Most people IRL are 100% sure its a girl so it will be fun to see if they are right. Not exactly sure how we will reveal it but it will be over a dinner at our house. Our families are all so excited about this LO that they are really excited to come to the party. No one is bringing gift, in fact I have an idea of favors for the guests. We will be inviting our parents, siblings and 2-3 friends. I don't plan to invite a bunch of people that could care less and would rather just find out through FB or text.

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For DS1, I picked up a pair of boy booties to take home to convey the results to DH. Smile Still have them hanging on the wall in the computer room. Smile

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We are pretty sure we are going to wait to find out with this one. I love the idea of the cake to reveal the sex, though. Josh and Anna Duggar did that when they were pregnant with their first. They had the doctor write down the gender and sealed it up and sent it to a baker (Cake Boss--TLC loves cross-over advertising), who made the pink cake with neutral baby stuff on the outside, and so THEY didn't know the sex until they cut into the cake on the Today show--pretty cool. With their second, they had them tell only his mom and then hired (the show probably paid for it) a plane to write the "male" symbol in the sky over the Duggar's house. I thought those were both kind of fun.

As for wanting the big stuff to be gender neutral--I was the same way, and was glad I did it because I had a girl and then a boy. We actually didn't have very many people give us big stuff--people gave us gift cards which we used to get that stuff ourselves. The few people who gave us big stuff got it off our registry, which had gender neutral stuff for the big stuff