Well, this is probably a lesson for me to step away from Facebook...but I have been so annoyed lately!!! So a week or two ago, I posted a status in the morning just saying that I would give anything for a good night's sleep again since I have been having so much trouble. Several people (parents, of course) jumped all over it, saying "oh it will get worse!" "what is good sleep? I don't remember anymore!" and it just really set me off!
I was about to post something not very nice but I deleted the whole status before I said something I would regret. Then today I posted how happy I was because I got TWO naps in on my day off, and someone else jumped in to say "enjoy naps while you can" and I just about lost it again. It's probably sleep deprivation or hormones talking I know, but why when I post something pregnancy or sleep related do I end up with so many snarky comments?!? As if I don't know that a baby will keep me awake at night?!?!?
PLUS when I'm working full time and growing a baby, sleep is very important!! I should be allowed to feel upset if I can't sleep, and then be happy when I can! Whew, thanks for letting me vent again ladies!!!
I TOTALLY understand what you're talking about! Why do BTDT parents feel the need to say that to FTM's? It's really irritating to me, too. Every time I mention something about not sleeping well people don't hesitate to say "Just wait, it only gets worse!" I've just gotten in the habit of telling people that I feel great when they ask me how I'm doing. Even if I'm lying, I wont have to hear the comments about how much worse it will be after I have the baby. Another one that bugs me is when people tell me to "enjoy every second because it goes by so fast"...I want to say "Thank you, Captain Obvious!" lol I think its the hormones making me super sensitive.
Yikes! I hope you enjoyed your naps anyway.
♥ Amanda ♥
♥ Mom to: Jesse 16, Jacob 5, Ethan 3, Eli 2, & baby Andrew ♥
I am totally with you on this one, Hilary and Katie. I get the same kinds of comments on facebook and I have also resorted to telling everyone that I feel just peachy keen. You should friend me on facebook, so I can fire back at your snarky commenters...LOL
That's actually my boyfriends BIGGEST pet peeve right now. I was trying to let those comments slide before but he gets really upset about it for the same reason as you -- as if he doesn't KNOW that the babies are going to keep him awake all night and that the next year (to 18 years) will be completely without sleep. He's not stupid!
It's along the same lines as my newest annoyance: people telling me to enjoy sitting around doing nothing on bed rest. I actually got some great advice right off the bat from another woman who had been there with twins and she warned me that people are going to say things like "store up all the rest while you can because you'll never get to relax again," but that's just not possible. BUT, for the sake of the babies' and my health, do relax as much as I can now. It was phrased more eloquently, but you get the drift.
I realize most people aren't intentionally being assholes when they say this stuff, but yeah ... I hear ya!!
It's the same for btdt moms too, I get the whole....just wait, 2 is so much harder! Ugh! Rude!!!
And sheila is right, it's not possible to store up sleep so that's super annoying.
I haven't even posted about my pg on FB because I'm not able to refrain from snapping back. Lol. I may post tomorrow about starting my 3rd trimester. We'll see.
yes!! its very annoying. I try to never complain about anything pregnancy related unless it's to someone else who is pregnant.
And honestly, I guess every baby is different, but having a new born isn't nearly as bad as people make it sound. Some people like it better than others for sure, but I think a lot of people like to make it sound like the most difficult thing in the world. Just like labor horror stories. People like the drama and to make themselves sound important by acting like "its not so bad for YOU,,,, look what I'VE been through!!!"
although I'm sure twins or babies with colic are a different story
Baby #3 due July 6 2013
Jenn, I hear that too about three kids. "How will you ever deal with 3, 3 is so hard" UGH..
but FWIW, I actually always get more sleep when baby is born. At least it was for maybe 2-3 hours at a time without having to pee, roll over, get comfortable, adjust my hips etc etc etc. lol.