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.hilary.'s picture
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Appt cancelled :(

I don't know WHY I am SO upset about this but I really am! I've had a total of just three midwife appointments, and today was supposed to be my fourth. On the first appointment, we walked into the office and were told our midwife had literally JUST left for a birth and we would have to come back the next week. Today I got a call about three hours before our appointment and were told we were being rescheduled for Monday because of another birth. Of course I can't be mad at her for going, I'm just so sad this has happened again. I almost cried! I'm kind of embarrassed at how upset I am...but I think it's because I've had NO ultrasounds and still have to wait a few weeks before I get one, and I have heard the heartbeat only once and I was so looking forward to hearing it again today. Each appointment is like a big milestone and now I have to wait again Sad

I know it's irrational, I just can't help it and had to vent!! Sad

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Its not irrational. As pregnant women, we look forward to our visits. I had that happen a couple of times with my first daughter but I go to Kaiser now so even if my midwife gets called out, there are plenty of of other physicians. It is almost heartbreaking when we can't do what we've been waiting 6 weeks to do. I feel for you, but you'll get over it....at your next:D visit

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It is not irrational at all. Don't beat yourself up for feeling bad. It is very disappointing and you have a legitimate reason to feel upset for having to wait again.

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Plus it's just one of those days where absolutely everything is going wrong :eek: sigh....! Thanks ladies. Smile

JuneorJulyBaby?'s picture
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:bigarmhug: I would be mad...but that is why I like a bigger practice with a few doctors because there is someone that is going to be there for me!

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That would be so much better I think! there are only four midwives at my practice. I will be assigned a backup as my pregnancy progresses, so they can guarantee someone will be at my birth and each midwife doesn't take too many women with close due dates. But it is still so frustrating even for just these little things! I have a ton of questions I wanted answers to ASAP too... :confused:

Although I should remind myself I am lucky to have one I guess. There is such a shortage and huge demand. Most of the time you can't even get a midwife, if I hadn't called as soon as I got my BFP, I'd be stuck with a GP who still does deliveries...and there's only a handful of those!!!! :eek: kind of a crazy health care situation up here!

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Heehee! If it's any consolation--- you're still ahead of me! I've only had 2 appointments so far, and still haven't caught the hb. Sad

With DS1, the sonographer had to cancel on me twice! Third time, I was able to get my one and only u/s. Now that would make anyone grind their teeth! Biggrin Good luck with getting your appt rescheduled, and I hope everything goes smoothly for you from here on out!

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I'm sorry that happened Sad I know that's disappointing. For my 11week appt my dr got called to a delivery, but I was able to see her partner. But I was still kinda sad that I had to go 6 weeks without talking to my OB. I had a lot of questions that I just felt more comfortable asking her instead of her partner.

You will get at least one u/s, right? I think you said it was at around 20 weeks, right? I'm not sure how it all works up there....do they have regular OB's, or just midwives or GP's that do deliveries?

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Feel good though that it is safer for your baby to NOT have an early ultrasound, and not have more than one. So as disappointed as you feel, it's not a bad thing to wait!

(I am in canada too, so yes, we are LUCKY to even have midwives. I have one too only because I called in the day I found out. last time I decided at 20 weeks I wanted a homebirth, and all the midwives were booked up. I had an unassisted homebirth which was great, but had to do all my prenatal stuff with a god-awful OB.)

Since there is such a shortage I am seriously considering becoming one myself once my kids are older.

I've only had 2 prenatal appts too. Try signing up for prenatal yoga or some other prenatal class or support group, and then you will have something else baby-related to look forward too! Biggrin

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At least you know that your midwife will be at your birth. My midwife will be at all of my appts., but the one on duty when I go into labor may not be her.

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"katiek68" wrote:

I'm sorry that happened Sad I know that's disappointing. For my 11week appt my dr got called to a delivery, but I was able to see her partner. But I was still kinda sad that I had to go 6 weeks without talking to my OB. I had a lot of questions that I just felt more comfortable asking her instead of her partner.

You will get at least one u/s, right? I think you said it was at around 20 weeks, right? I'm not sure how it all works up there....do they have regular OB's, or just midwives or GP's that do deliveries?

Yep, I get one on July 8th. They won't disclose the sex to me though, even if it's in full view...so we will be paying for a private 3D ultrasound a couple weeks later to find out. We have a few OB's but most pregnancies are handled by your GP, I think. Many of them don't do deliveries though, so you get referred to one who is. I think there's a handful in my city who still handle births. Midwives are also covered under our health care, but they are even harder to find! I'm lucky I got one.

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Wow! That is so different than in the states! I wonder why there's such a shortage? No one wants to be an OB in Canada? They are a dime a dozen here it seems like.

Why won't they tell you the gender at your ultrasound? That seems pretty ridiculous to me, but that's just my opinion. Be sure to look at lots of u/s pics online before your appt so you know what to look for in girls and boys Wink

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I'm so sorry Hilary! I know how frustrating things like this can be, especially since this is your first baby. You're not missing much though (IMHO) as I sat for almost two flipping hours waiting to see the my doctor's stupid nurse, only to have her give me about as much attention as she would an ant! I think I would have rather stayed home and slept lol! Here's hoping all goes well with your appt next week!

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That is so disappointing. I know how much we all look forward to these appts (at least I do) and esp. since it's your first baby, you LIVE for those appts. ((HUGS))

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Thanks ladies! You have all made me feel much better and I feel a lot less silly for being upset. Thank you Smile

"katiek68" wrote:

Why won't they tell you the gender at your ultrasound? That seems pretty ridiculous to me, but that's just my opinion. Be sure to look at lots of u/s pics online before your appt so you know what to look for in girls and boys Wink

It's such a crazy story and I am not sure what exactly is the truth! From what I hear, it's because appointments were "taking too long" because the techs would spend time trying to get babies to move if they weren't showing the goods. Things were getting backed up and they weren't able to get enough people through each day. And I know I sound like a broken record, but ultrasound techs are REALLY in short supply! I had to book my 18-20 week appointment at about 8 or 9 weeks along.

"Veni Vidi Vici" wrote:

Try signing up for prenatal yoga or some other prenatal class or support group, and then you will have something else baby-related to look forward too! Biggrin

this is a good idea!! I am planning on signing up really soon Smile

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Just wanted to say that I'm sorry you are stuck in such a hard situation but have to say that it made me feel lots better about my own ob problems. Because DH is military I have healthcare through the base and can not have a specific ob or midwife. I see someone different every appointment and whoever is on duty when I go into labor will be the one to deliver my baby but at least there is always someone there for my appointments. Hope your next appointment goes well and it really stinks that they won't tell you the sex even if they can see it with no problems.