Baby shower question

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Baby shower question

I am not sure if we have discussed this yet. Is it normal me to be the one who does the raffle prize and the party favors for my own shower? I have never heard of this. Also it was just dropped on me and the shower is on Nov 6th. I feel like it is so little time to come up with the stuff.

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I have no idea. I did nothing for my shower. I gave my boyfriend's sister a few of my friends' addresses and when I showed up it was practically like a surprise party because we knew nothing about the party details! I feel like you could probably get a the prize and favors without too much effort. Don't go nuts and stress yourself out! For a prize, maybe a gift certificate of some sort? You can pick up so many different ones just at the Vons. And for favors maybe you could get some ideas online (e.g. http://www.babyshower101.com/baby_shower_favors.html) or see what they have at Sees?

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At first I really felt like I should have nothing to do with my shower. It seemed tacky...like inviting people to come to my party and buy me stuff. But, as the clock winds down and my calendar is getting full, I just told my mom that we needed to set a date, otherwise I could make no guarantee that I would be available if anyone intended to surprise me. So, I am planning to help my mom out a little bit if I can. I came up with a few games to play and my DH rented the venue. I'm sure mom will do the decorations, food, and favors, but I kind of put my former expectations aside, because time is running out!! P.S. My shower is on the 6th too!

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I'm having my shower the 6th too! I think the guest of honor isn't supposed to provide anything but their presence....

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"JuneorJulyBaby?" wrote:

I'm having my shower the 6th too! I think the guest of honor isn't supposed to provide anything but their presence....

This has always been my experience....this is so strange. I am getting a gift card for Cheese Cake factory for the raffle. And I bought the cute star cookie cutters that say a star is born. I am going to wrap them in tulle and tie a cute Thank you on them. DONE. Just sort of inconvenient that is all.

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That's kind of short notice but it sounds like you've got it handled.

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Well, in my past showers I didn't do anything except show up. With this one I had to send the invites, badger people for rsvps (which really bothers me and I'll have to post elsewhere about!), buy the gifts for the games, and do some of the food. This was all sprung on me this past week as my mom and her bff were planning it, but my dad lost his job and now my mom can't help out at all financially. So bottom line, I guess it doesn't really matter who does what as long as mommy to be has a good time!!

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"joyjim" wrote:

This has always been my experience....this is so strange. I am getting a gift card for Cheese Cake factory for the raffle. And I bought the cute star cookie cutters that say a star is born. I am going to wrap them in tulle and tie a cute Thank you on them. DONE. Just sort of inconvenient that is all.

You people have FANCY baby showers! Those are wonderful gifts! We are just having people over to my mom's house for food and fun LOL

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"JuneorJulyBaby?" wrote:

You people have FANCY baby showers! Those are wonderful gifts! We are just having people over to my mom's house for food and fun LOL

LOL...I was thinking that too. I'm not expecting a big fancy shower. My mom is usually pretty good about planning things like this, but it will probably be fairly simple. She has done so much for me already during this pregnancy, and already spent a lot of money on baby stuff. I don't want her spending a lot of money to put on a shower.

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LOL, I actually have no idea what to expect. There could be 5 people there....I have not been involved until yesterday. I feel weird so I want to give nice gifts since they are from me. I cannot afford it though. DH is off on workers comp since May, we have both car insurances due this month, earthquake ins, homeowners and property tax due....oh and Christmas and a new baby.....did I mention that this is our 4th.....I would likely have said no thank you if I new it would get like this. Am I ungrateful?

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"JuneorJulyBaby?" wrote:

I'm having my shower the 6th too! I think the guest of honor isn't supposed to provide anything but their presence....

This.

I don't think you sound ungrateful at all. I've never heard of the guest of honor supplying that stuff. I would have easily supplied it for my shower but I don't think my hostesses would have wanted me to.

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I don't think it sounds ungrateful at all! Money is tight for alot of people and since you didn't ask for the shower I don't think those who are organizing should expect you to be buying gifts and favors. It's one thing if you offer but for someone to say "Hey I am throwing you a baby shower so I need you to buy this, this and this for it" isn't nice. That's my opinion anyways.

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I don't think you should feel ungrateful at all. And as the guest of honour, I think it is really strange for you to be expected to help out with your own shower...! I'm sure it works for some folks and that is great Smile but you shouldn't be expected to do anything!

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Not to make this a bigger deal, but....the shower is November 6th...a week and a half away and no one has recieved their invites.....ummmmmmmmmmmmm

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Oh no! Are you pretty aware of the guest list? You shouldn't have to add too much to your plate, but I guess you could make a few phone calls to the people you most want to be there just to check that they received their invites and/or let them know about it and you hope to see them there.

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Holy moly no invites yet???? What is going on?????

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