Contraception questions....

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Contraception questions....

So this is our second kid. I (hope, think, know...not sure what word to put here....) this will be our last. I always wanted more, but I married late, and we are not rich. (Daycare is killing us!) In fact, until DD, we had planned on not having kids! So I was sitting at the Dr's office the other day thinking about the contraceptive choices available. I was thinking if I have to have a C-section, it would be a convienent time to get my tubes tied.

BUT, I am just not sure I "FEEL" ready to be done with kids, even though I know it is the best for our family. At the same time, I turn 37 two days after this kid is supposed to arrive, so it's not like nature isn't going to take care of this for me soon anyway...

I m not into the IUD thing. The shot makes me fat. So does the pill, but not as bad. Should I even be thinking about a permenant 'fix'? Just wondering.....

What are you guys' plans (if any)?

gaidinsgirl's picture
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I asked this a month or so ago too. ( I will try to find the link). I am not ready to be done, but I know we should be. I think I am going to go with the IUD.

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jeepbaby's picture
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Ah, must have missed that one. I am just not sure I am ready to make this decision....

gaidinsgirl's picture
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I know I am not. I can't put too much thought into it yet, I just know if I don't make a decision I will TTC again and I don't think we should. Sad

sugspop's picture
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DH will probably get the big V.

fireflies11's picture
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In the same boat. I don't *think* we want more, but we definitely don't want to lock the door and throw away the key!

My doctor asked and I gave her the big "I don't know." I looked at my chart later and she wrote: "condoms"

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I think I'm going with an IUD. I also wanted to say, don't be too sure your age will limit your fertility. My sister is 43 and just had an oops kid.

Panonim's picture
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:confused: I hate thinking about this sort of thing. I just want to bury my head in the sand!

I would like to be done. DH would like a 4th. Realistically, I think we are done. But I am scared to think of anything permanent. And I don't really want to deal with pills, IUDs, etc. :rolleyes:

So yeah.... where does that leave us?! We'll need to figure something out.

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My ex had a V so I thought I was done.... Introduce Ed (who also wanted NO MORE kids) & a new relationship & all of a sudden we are both about to have a new daughter.

He is supposed to get a V. If I have a c/s I will get a tubal, if not idk, we haven't talked about it. It is just expected that he will have his surgery b/c we are hoping a c/s for me is unlikely.

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I would say just stick with the pill route and watch what you eat. At least that's not permenant, and the "insertable" contraceptives freak me out!

DH is getting the snip, as this is my fourth, his fifth, and our sixth together! We're definitely done with babies!

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I am in the same boat as you. I am 37...we got started late having kids too. I just don't know. If I were younger, I would probably try for another, just because I kind of like the idea of 3 kids, and DH would like more too, I think. But this pregnancy has really confirmed to me how much a toll it takes on me. I asked my dr. about a tubal (since I'm going to have a scheduled c-section this time) and he said it takes about 2 1/2 extra minutes to do - not bad. But he also said he hesitates doing anything permanent, (he is a dr. who will def. tell you his opinion, ha ha) He then went into the other options, like IUD, etc. I am not sure. If I don't do the tubal, I don't think I want anything hormonal. DH wasn't too keen on the V. :rolleyes: So I am not sure what to do.

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Just my 2 cents for people like Kim, etc that aren't 100% sure yet. I would say DON'T do it. I think permanent should only be done for those that are certain.

Just don't want anyone to regret a decision they made during a miserable stage of pregnancy. You might change your mind when you see & get to know your beautiful child. Smile

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I have no idea what I'm going to do for this!! We are definitely not done. We have one more in our future, and we are hoping to start trying for that one in Dec 2013. Basically I will have my one year off work, go back for a year to build up some money again, and then start trying. This one took 9 months to conceive so I'm hoping the next time around it happens a little faster, as we want them close in age. But I don't know what to do in the meantime. IUD's freak me out way too much, same with Depo. I don't like the pill, I was on it for seven years before going off for TTC and I prefer myself without the pill, lol!

I'm planning on breastfeeding for a long time. What can you do for birth control when you're still nursing??

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".hilary." wrote:

I have no idea what I'm going to do for this!! We are definitely not done. We have one more in our future, and we are hoping to start trying for that one in Dec 2013. Basically I will have my one year off work, go back for a year to build up some money again, and then start trying. This one took 9 months to conceive so I'm hoping the next time around it happens a little faster, as we want them close in age. But I don't know what to do in the meantime. IUD's freak me out way too much, same with Depo. I don't like the pill, I was on it for seven years before going off for TTC and I prefer myself without the pill, lol!

I'm planning on breastfeeding for a long time. What can you do for birth control when you're still nursing??

Took us 9 months to conceive our first, and a whole, whopping 2 weeks to conceive this one! Just a warning as it seems to take a lot less time the 2nd time around. I did the pill in between pregnancies, and there are certain types of pills you can take while BFing.

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Have you taken a look at the spermicide sheets/strips that women put in? I REALLY love them, but unfortunately I am allergic to them.

My ob suggested them to me. You can just get them at any drug store & you can insert them up to 3 hours before dtd! Woo-hoo, nothing permanent, no hormones & no stopping for contraception.

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"sugspop" wrote:

Took us 9 months to conceive our first, and a whole, whopping 2 weeks to conceive this one! Just a warning as it seems to take a lot less time the 2nd time around. I did the pill in between pregnancies, and there are certain types of pills you can take while BFing.

YES.. took us ten YEARS for the first, ten months of trying for the second and got this one first month trying. Eeek.

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We are going permanent. The plan right now is tube tying in the hospital. Even with vaginal birth they can do it while I'm in recovery. Makes really easy if i get an epidural.

The other option is to wait 6wks PP and do essure. It's an in office procedure, requires no pain meds, takes 10 minutes. It takes a few months to finally close up the tubes but it's permanent and that's what we want.

If I wanted reliable BC and I wasn't quite ready to go permanent but still pretty sure it was the right thing for the family, IUD is what I'd choose. I hare taking the pill and I always forget.

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".hilary." wrote:

I'm planning on breastfeeding for a long time. What can you do for birth control when you're still nursing??

They usually put you on the mini-pill, which is a progesterone only pill, I believe.

I am also another one who can testify that it sometimes doesn't take as long for the second- it took us 13 months for our first, 6 months for our second, and this one was the first try! I haven't been on BC since 2005...except for a few months I took the mini-pill while BFing DS1.

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If I have a c-section I am getting a tubal. DH is going to go for a V consult while I'm on maternity leave if I don't have a c-section He'll get the V done in the summer when we can ship Nicholas off to my parents for a week.

In between the birth and the big V we will be using abstinence the first 6 weeks and then probably mini-pill (so it doesn't affect breastfeeding).

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Oh! This reminds me, I keep meaning to ask my OB but maybe one of you will have an idea ...

When can I get an IUD after a c-section? I mean, can they just pop one in during the c-section? Or do I still have to do the scary-long-needle-to-the-cervix method?

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"triplespiral" wrote:

Oh! This reminds me, I keep meaning to ask my OB but maybe one of you will have an idea ...

When can I get an IUD after a c-section? I mean, can they just pop one in during the c-section? Or do I still have to do the scary-long-needle-to-the-cervix method?

I'm pRetty sure you have to wait the six weeks. Uterus will still be shedding alot of tissue and the cervix still is open a little so it could get flushed away.

When you do go in for the IUD, take some ibuprofen to help with swelling and or pain. I didnt find it too painful just slightly worse than a papsmear.

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I believe that right with the IUD- 6 to 8 weeks after. I didn't get mine till my ds was 6 months but My friend got her done at the 8 weeks after.

I told my Dr that do the tubal when I have my c-section- We are done after this baby- but still the whole permanent thing is a scary thought although we have decided no more babies. He could go in for a V- but who knows what could happen if he doesn't go right away. So my chart is marked and going to stick with a tubal.