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Emotional rollercoaster...

So is it just me or are you ladies crying at the drop of a hat like I am? I feel like such a complete mess, and I know it's just the extra hormones because I'm not normally like this, but I'm going crazy! I swear it seems like I'm crying every day for one reason or another. Today I got upset because my son's dad couldn't come pick him up and I just started crying all over the place (my oldest child is from my first marriage), then when I was leaving to come to work and I kissed DD goodbye she says, "bye mom, you going to work?" And I lost it again, I know because I'd much rather stay home and care for her and my other babies... not to mention the house is a wreck and is never fully clean because DH and I work full time. I just wanted to grab her and hold on to her and not let go. I'm so tired of my crappy job anyway... just working in general. The work that I do should pay so much more than I'm making. I swear I made as much working retail in the mall ten years ago (no offense to retail workers, but I have marketing and management experience under my belt now and because of this crappy economy I'm getting screwed). And of course anytime DH isn't in the mood or too tired to DTD (and believe me, I bug him every day for sex lol) I take it so personally and start balling my eyes out! I don't know what to do... :confused:

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I TOTALLY understand what you are going through. Like, I could write a book about all the things I've cried about since I've been pregnant. It seems to be my reaction to everything now, and I totally can't help it. It's just what I do, haha. This morning my husband said something about how I snore really loud now that I'm pregnant, and I just lost it. I cried HARD. it was completely ridiculous and after a few minutes I didn't even remember what I was crying about. The only other time I remember being this emotional is right after I got on the birth control pills--the extra hormones made me crazy for a few months.

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Awww, sorry your emotions are out of whack! My moods are completely out of whack. I'm the wicked witch of the east lately... my poor family. Hang in there girl!

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Me too. I totally understand! I cry at anything. And I cry a lot! I just have to start thinking about my baby and I will cry. Or think about how much I love DH...instant tears. OR of course if he bugs me, lots of tears haha Wink I have always been VERY emotional and cried easily, but this is too much! I am getting a bit tired of it, lol

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Oh yes, I am pretty sensitive to begin with but throw pregnancy (and then breastfeeding) on top of the mix and I am a mess. I tear up at EVERYTHING! For instance, yesterday I looked at DH and started bawling and he was like "what's wrong?" and I said "we're going to have 2 kids soon!" LOL.

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I've cried way more lately too. I cried Saturday as I talked to a doula about my DS' birth and how I plan for this one to go down. Then I cried yesterday reading my pregnancy journal from DS. I cry at commercials, songs, people's comments, etc. Its embarrassing!

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:bighug:

I can relate!!! It's hard being a pregnant, working momma!!

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This is me. I can cry about anything and everything. I especially cry when I look at Brynna these days. I still have this overwhelming feeling of guilt for bringing this new baby in and changing her little world. Makes me really sad. Then I cry even harder because I feel guilty for feeling that way about the baby.....lol. It's a vicious cycle once I get started on thinking about it.

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Jessicah, I know exactly! I'm tearing up just reading your last post! I don't know what's wrong with me. DD asked me again today when I was getting into the shower, "You going to work mommy?" and I totally lost it! I cried myself to sleep last night thinking that DH won't want to stay with me after this baby comes and he'll want to go find someone else and have way less stress! I dread coming to work every day and tears roll down my face in the car on the drive over! I almost started crying with my last check in (I work as a concierge at a timeshare resort) because he didn't want to sign up to do the tour! I'm a complete wreck...

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I've had moments when I want to scream at our patients. I work with substance abuse people who have been involuntarily committed to our facility. So I work with drug addicts who don't want to be off drugs but their families think otherwise. They will test you with everything they have. They challenge you, tell you how worthless you are at your job, etc. There have been days when I've seriously had to leave the unit for fear of inflicting bodily harm on some smarta$$ that I am just trying to help have some quality of life. So I am either crying or wanting to kill someone. All part of my crazy emotional rollercoaster....lol

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Ok, I'm with you girls on the crying part now. I just teared up as I realized I completely missed Harry Potter in the theater here! Sad

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I am actually crying while I type.

My SO had a bad day in court dealing w/ possible spousal support for his lame ex who just chooses NOT to take care of herself...

This is NOT why I'm crying.

I'm crying b/c it's my anatomy u/s day today & it's supposed to be MY HAPPY DAY DAMMIT, not that stupid b's day in court!!!

I AM SO PISSED & HURT RIGHT NOW!! I feel like telling him to not even bother going w/ me to the u/s....

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And sorry to all of us Sad

Pregnancy is unlike anything....it makes us all a lil crazy & whole lotta emotional.

We get the wrecked bodies & everyone else has to deal w/ our temporarily wrecked minds....Muahhhaaahaa.

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And sorry to all of us Sad

Pregnancy is unlike anything....it makes us all a lil crazy & whole lotta emotional.

We get the wrecked bodies & everyone else has to deal w/ our temporarily wrecked minds....Muahhhaaahaa.

You said it girl! :bighug: Sorry you are dealing with that on what was supposed to be your happy day! Hopefully you will feel better and refreshed after seeing that little babe. Smile

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"lesleynka" wrote:

I am actually crying while I type.

My SO had a bad day in court dealing w/ possible spousal support for his lame ex who just chooses NOT to take care of herself...

This is NOT why I'm crying.

I'm crying b/c it's my anatomy u/s day today & it's supposed to be MY HAPPY DAY DAMMIT, not that stupid b's day in court!!!

I AM SO PISSED & HURT RIGHT NOW!! I feel like telling him to not even bother going w/ me to the u/s....

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this nonsense. I know how difficult ex's can be sometimes (DH's is no walk in the park!). I know how hard it is, too, when it doesn't seem like your DH or SO cares when you're having an U/S, something that means the world to us as soon to be moms. When I was pregnant with DD and was having my anatomy scan, DH had the day off and everything and we were all ready to go when I got off work. I called him to make sure he was on his way to meet me there and he said, "OK, I'm actually watching Lucas (which is our friend's baby, and apparently she didn't have anyone else to watch him) so I guess I'll be bringing him, too." I blew up and told him that children weren't allowed in the U/S room, which he should have known that to begin with. And even more than that he should have called and asked me if that was OK knowing how important that U/S was to me! I ended up telling him off and going by myself... I was so pissed! I swear some men just don't get it!

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"lesleynka" wrote:

I am actually crying while I type.

My SO had a bad day in court dealing w/ possible spousal support for his lame ex who just chooses NOT to take care of herself...

This is NOT why I'm crying.

I'm crying b/c it's my anatomy u/s day today & it's supposed to be MY HAPPY DAY DAMMIT, not that stupid b's day in court!!!

I AM SO PISSED & HURT RIGHT NOW!! I feel like telling him to not even bother going w/ me to the u/s....

Oh no! I am so sorry you have to deal with this when we are already so emotional Sad

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I know all too well about the crazy ex's. My husbands ex wouldn't let us have his son because of the child support. She didn't want to work and relied on his money to contribute (she lived with her BF and their son) so her BF wouldn't make her work. We knew she never used the money for Billy because she would always call us and say that he needed shoes, clothes, etc and she had no money (all blown on drugs/alcohol). Where do guys find these crazy people!?!? Thankfully we finally got custody of his son and she basically has disappeared and we haven't heard from her in 7 months.

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Jessicah, that's horrible! DH's ex isn't into drugs or anything like that, thank God (she's hardcore LDS) but she's always given him a hard time about seeing the boys. She moved back to Idaho from Las Vegas when they split (that's where all of her family lives, and DH's BTW) and has been a total tyrant when it comes to him seeing the boys. He has never once been late on a child support payment in five years and we have joint custody, but since we can only get up there 4 or 5 times a year it's hard. She makes it harder on him because she throws a fit when I go up to Idaho with him... even though we've been married for almost five years now and have two children together and another one on the way! She never lets them stay the night with us, even though we're at his dad's house and they have plenty of room, and she determines the times that the boys are dropped off and picked up, it drives me up the wall! But DH doesn't want to "rock the boat" (so he says) because he hardly gets to see them... it's so frustrating!

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That sucks Krystal! When DH and I got together he had no visitation rights or anything to his son (they were never married) so it was totally up to her mood when and if he got to see his son. He was paying child support at that time and never seeing his child. So I finally told him to get his act together and we saved and took her to court and got the visitation set up. Finally it got to where his son wanted to live with us because he saw how stable the environment was (he was 5). So we started trying to get full custody when he was about 7 which was so hard because we couldn't prove she was unfit and my SS wasn't old enough to decide where he wanted to live. Finally when he was 9 some stuff happened and she decided to sign him over and give us full custody. This all happened on Christmas Day 2009 and we've had him ever since.

Sorry for being a thread hi-jacker! LOL

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Thank you all ladies!! And yes, ex's...ugh, make us want to pull our hair out!

Update on it: U/S went great even though we were both exhausted & overemotional. He actually fell asleep in the waiting room. lol
He could've taken a deal given to him by her attorney & he came SO close to taking it today. We don't have a lawyer. We have been doing it all on our own using library books. And California IS NOT a nice state to split up in.
Anyways, he is going to fight it. Tomorrow they see the judge. I'll be a wreck again. =/

Thank you again for all the support!! And yes, emotions jack us up.

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**HUGS** to you Lesley!! It's such a hard thing. I couldn't imagine having to pay someone spousal support. I mean you're an adult, take care of your darn self!!

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**HUGS** to you Lesley!! It's such a hard thing. I couldn't imagine having to pay someone spousal support. I mean you're an adult, take care of your darn self!!

Thanks Jessicah & that's what I'm saying!! It's like child support! I can see if she stayed home & was a great SAHM, but damn, she sat around & smoked & drank all day. =/ We are pretty sure she is meth'd out up in WA state now.

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Gross. I hope something is done so you don't have to worry about her anymore. Wonder if there is anyway to request a drug test through the court?

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I doubt it. So bad news, they gave her the most they could....$800 a month. This is an emergency order so the same rules don't apply & it may change depending on the actual case outcome.

It's horrible. I cannot let his relationship w/ his ex destroy the way of life for my girls. I would be better off living on my own w/ my 2, soon to be 3, girls.

Idk, i just have no clue. I guess we will test the waters for a few months & see. I have been open w/ him & he knows my situation. He mostly agrees w/ how I see things.

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That blows!! I often tell my husband we would be better off financially if we divorced. We would get more money back on taxes and everything. I told him we should just sign the papers and then continue to live as man and wife....lol

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I can't believe spousal support exists!

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I often tell my husband we would be better off financially if we divorced. We would get more money back on taxes and everything.

My ex & I did an uncontested divorce. I basically did it all & just promised not to screw him. He's lazy & it would take effort to participate so I pretty much could've done or asked for anything, but I didn't. I turned in the judgement a week ago so now I wait. My main reason to get the divorce done was b/c of taxes! Last year we filed jointly & he thought he deserved 1/2 the return even tho he only made 1/2 of what I did & all the credits (like early saving, childcare costs, etc) were mine. Grrr. Not doing that again. =/

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"Jenn0113" wrote:

I can't believe spousal support exists!

I hear you!! But unfortunately our government believes it is our parents!! Sad

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Jessicah, what a merry Christmas that must have been getting his son full time! I know DH wishes that we could see his boys more often, but the fact that they're in Idaho is so hard on him...

Lesley, my ex and I also did an uncontested divorce... hell, we went together to the same lawyer, that way we could split the cost of the $500 divorce! He pays child support every month on time and has for six years, and it's not done through the state, he just does it. I got lucky to have such a quick and clean divorce! Now if I can just get him to stop dating 18 year olds (he's 31!) lol!!!

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my ex and I also did an uncontested divorce... hell, we went together to the same lawyer, that way we could split the cost of the $500 divorce! He pays child support every month on time and has for six years, and it's not done through the state, he just does it. I got lucky to have such a quick and clean divorce! Now if I can just get him to stop dating 18 year olds (he's 31!) lol!!!

It sounds almost exactly the same as us. He pays support w/out an order & we do visitation & everything on our own. We are very civil even though I am sure he just wants to punch me in the face. lol.

And EWWWW! Tell him NO! lol

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We have no plans to really divorce...lol I hope that my post didn't imply that we would really do that. It just makes being married hard because you miss out on alot of stuff that single people get. And I totally realize that single parents have it alot harder than married ones Smile

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I didn't think you were lol! I do know what you mean, though. I have some single girlfriends that have two kids and they get back, like $8000 every year come tax time! I just don't get it!!

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Yes, filing single is best I think. You can file by yourself if you are married, but filing married filing separate gets you the LEAST! Sad It really isn't fair at all.

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"Starryblue702" wrote:

I didn't think you were lol! I do know what you mean, though. I have some single girlfriends that have two kids and they get back, like $8000 every year come tax time! I just don't get it!!

This is my point! If DH and I were divorced he could claim his son and then I can claim our two kids and we'd get back so much money!! I mean the amount we'd get back is ridiculous. It would almost be worth it. Who needs a paper to say you love someone anyways? LOL

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"_Jessicah_" wrote:

This is my point! If DH and I were divorced he could claim his son and then I can claim our two kids and we'd get back so much money!! I mean the amount we'd get back is ridiculous. It would almost be worth it. Who needs a paper to say you love someone anyways? LOL

True, but leave it up to some shmuck husband to use it as a get out and cheat card lol!

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Then you've already gotten your divorce papers and he's gone....lol

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LMAO this is so true! I might have to post to you guys from prison if DH ever cheated on me though... lol!!!

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"Starryblue702" wrote:

LMAO this is so true! I might have to post to you guys from prison if DH ever cheated on me though... lol!!!

Ditto