On another note, we had suspected Finn had reflux as he seemed uncomfortable after eating, seemed worse when flat and had a very painful shrill cry throughout the day. The first pediatrician did not suggest putting him on anti-reflux and I didn't push the subject because I thought maybe we could manage with a wedge under the head of his mattress and keeping him upright for awhile after feedings. Well I mentioned how the reflux didn't seem to be getting better during the appt today and this ped said let's get him on something because he sounds uncomfortable (I didn't tell her how this past week I had started crying too when he would start shrieking as I felt so helpless that I couldn't comfort him). So Finn is now on Zantac twice a day. Had his first dose tonight and I don't want to jinx anything but he really seemed like a different baby in just the couple of hours before I put him down for bed. He seemed content and was cooing more. No shrill crying during that time, just a little whine when he got hungry. And when I got him ready for bed he just kind of melted in my arms and went down easy. I remember how uncomfortable I felt when I had reflux during my third trimester so I can only imagine how he must have felt. I wish I had pushed to get him on anti-reflux med sooner but better late than never. I hope this is a sign of better things to come
AM update: Night went well...slept for 3-5 hr stretches and when he did wake his cries were not the usual piercing cries that make me cringe. Not quite as smooth of a morning. Gave him his second dose of Zantac around 6am since he was up. Started out pretty good, only some fussing for hunger, etc. But then full on shrieking by late morning...I got so frustrated and took it out on DH (granted he was sleeping in and I felt it wasn't fair). We kept missing Finn's morning nap. Finn fell asleep in my arms three times but as soon as I would start moving to reposition (or even think about moving him to his crib) he would wake up. DH finally got him down for nap around noon so I'm hoping that will help some. Sigh...I know the Zantac won't be a cure-all and I need to work on get my diet fixed. Even with all of that, I suspect he will still be a pretty high need kid and I just need to learn to go with the flow more.
Sounds like you're doing a lot -- hopefully it all helps! Rory's poop is sometimes yellow, sometimes green. He poops often and with force LOL I go through a lot of baby clothing!
Rory is high needs....I haven't cut out dairy and I have no reason to believe he has an allergy or reflux (no blood etc). The kid just needs a lot of contact. We have a pretty strict bedtime routine and he is 13 weeks now and nights are really very good now but it's really only because I set a routine around 2 weeks old and I've never changed it. Naps are a total loss though. I can't be that structured all day. He only naps in my arms and he wants to be held just about all day. I do the best I can. I hold him a lot but sometimes I have to do something and I put him in the swing, bouncy chair or pack n play and he fusses or out right cries and I do what I have to do. Basically from 8-9 I put him down from 9-1 or 2 he sleeps in his crib from 1/2-7 he's in our bed and the rest of the day he's pretty much held. DH reminds me eventually he'll be running around and I'll miss having a baby to hold....
Evan 12/10/09 9lbs 5 and 1/4 oz 21.5"
Rory 12/2/11 10lbs 12oz and 23"
I am glad you are getting some answers but sorry you have to deal with the milk/soy protein intolerance as well. The diet is really not that tough once you get used to it. Here in Canada all foods have to say what allergens they may contain - so I know if it says "may contain traces of dairy/soy..." I can eat it, because the "traces" mean it is only processed on machinery that may have come in contact with dairy/soy but does not contain it. My sweet snack now that chocolate is off-limits is sesame snaps. I met with a nutritionist at the hospital and she gave me a big list of no-no foods, including hidden dairy like casein and whey. You could likely google it and find it. I strongly recommend to cut out both dairy and soy - I wish I had done both right from the start instead of wasting time just doing one. And be patient - it can take a while to see results. I kept questioning what I was doing for the entire 3 weeks it took for the blood to disappear. Good Luck!!
As for the reflux, Ryan was on Zantac and then prevacid. We did not see a noticeable difference in DS. Sorry you might have already tried this but... do you put Finn down for a nap as soon as he shows signs of being tired? If my DS is fed and dry and starts fussing I always know it's time for a nap. Having LOTS of naps is key to him not fussing all day long. As soon as he rubs his face, his eyes get small, or he get sort of cranky he goes in his swing or bassinet with a soother and he normally falls right asleep.
I appreciate all the support from people. I've been feeling kind of isolated recently because I don't feel comfortable leaving the house much because of Finn's crying. When I was picking up the reflux med at the pharmacy, Finn was crying so hard that people came up to me to ask if he was hungry a couple of times (I had fed him just before). DH has been working a lot (Finn was crying whenever DH would try to hold him this weekend). I know we all have our highs and lows so I try not to be "poor me" because I am very fortunate in the big picture. I think when I start back to work it will be nice to get a break from this and resume some of my pre-baby life...it will make me appreciate my time at home more.