had a good cry today...

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had a good cry today...

I have been planning for weeks to attend DS's field trip to the apple farm with him today. In fact, I took a "volunteer" day at work.

A few weeks ago the teacher sent home a form asking if we wanted to volunteer and a permission slip. I promptly filled it out and sent it back the next day. Fast forward to today.....

I showed up all decked out in my rain boots with my boy and he was so excited we were going together. His teacher looked at me with a funny look on her face and said, "are you just here to drop him off?" I said, "No, i'm here to go on the field trip."

She then proceeded to completely embarrass me in front of the other moms by letting me know (very loudly) she never received my request and they already had enough volunteers (and a lot more about how I failed to follow the process correctly). I was very polite and calm and tried to explain that I sent everything in, ect and I even called last week to confirm with the office. Then I apologized and asked if I could drive myself and meet the kids there since I already told DS I was going. She then said NO! They can't have me go, even though it's a public place....

Not to upset my DS I took him aside and told him "mommy made a mistake and can't go this time, but that he would have so much fun anyway." Poor thing, the look on his face broke my heart Sad

I cried all the way home! First, I had to miss the trip & time with DS, after taking the day off work. Then she totally embarrassed me in front of all the other moms.

About 20-minutes after I left she called me to say that there were other moms from other classes coming on their own and not as volunteers, and now I could come :rolleyes: After all that!

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oh Amy that is awful!!! I would have cried too!!! You poor thing. That is really upsetting. I don't understand why you couldn't go??? Sounds like she was on a bit of a controlling power trip. That is terrible. So sorry!

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I would totally let her know in a polite and calm way that she handled it completely like an ***. You did follow directors and it was the office mistake not yours and there was no need to make you feel that way etc.

I am so sorry you had to deal with that.

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"HaganBaby" wrote:

I would totally let her know in a polite and calm way that she handled it completely like an ***. You did follow directors and it was the office mistake not yours and there was no need to make you feel that way etc.

I am so sorry you had to deal with that.

Seriously, she needs to be corrected! That is horrible. And I agree, you need to be the mature on here.

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Oh seriously, that is making me mad for you. I would totally have cried too. Sorry you have to deal with someone so unprofessional and careless as your son's teacher. Sad

So did you end up going?

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OMG that's awful!!! I swear some of these teachers make me want to throw something (as you can tell, both my sons' teachers are pretty crappy and uncaring)!! I would have cried like a little girl as well... but at least you were able to go! I would still put in a compalint about the situation, especially since you confirmed with the office... and more than that, that his teacher felt the need to belittle you in front of other people over a simple mistake.

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Oh boy. I'd have to take her to the side and tell her how that made you feel. That was awful and I would have been in tears right there in the class! Wow, how rude of her!

I missed ds's first field trip last week. They were going to the pumpkin patch and parents were welcome but not siblings and I didn't have a sitter for dd. Sad

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Um I teach kindergarten and I would NEVER turn a parent away like that! If you sent the form back and she lost it, it's not YOUR fault. She could have just have you fill out another form this morning and then let you go. Or like you offered, let you drive yourself. I have parents drive themselves to the field trip every year. That teacher makes me mad for you. Very unprofessional.

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That is horrible. I would cry too!
I know I have gotten the note saying they already have enough volunteers but if I wanted to meet them at the field trip location I am more than welcome too. So shocking she would tell you no!

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That's awful. I would complain - she should never have embarrassed you in front of everyone like that. And she can't deny you going to a public place with your own child! I would be very upset too...and I definitely would have cried!

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Oh, you poor thing! I would have cried too, seeing my son's face like that. :cry: What a terrible way for his teacher to handle the situation! I hope you ended up getting to go anyway and had a great time. ((HUGS))

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How awful! I'm with everyone else and I would have cried too. Althought then I think my next stop would have been right to the principal's office to have a little talk with him/her about the way you were treated in front of other parents. That was totally unprofessional of her. How dare she talk to you as if you were a child. UGH

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I hope you went and had fun. How confusing for your son!

And what a stressful morning!

I know how that can be when you are really looking forward to doing something with your child and then you have to miss it.

I totally would have reacted the same way!

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What a biotch!!!!! I would have cried too.

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I didn't respond to this yesterday because I was tempted to use words that are probably inappropriate for this forum!

I just have to echo what Katie said. As a former preschool teacher, I took many trips to the pumpkin patch and I would have never turned a parent away like that. The more the merrier, especially when the kids start running out into the field to pick their pumpkins.

Sorry you had to go through that. :bighug:

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Yea, what the hell was up that lady's butt anyway! How rude! I would probably complain about her behavior to the principal, and ask that he/she handle it delicately as to not cause issues for your kiddo, but that lady needs to be called out. Did you go after all?

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Omg! That teacher was out of line! I would gave cried too. Then I would have called the office. Inane glad she called you after the incident to say you could go but what the heck? Dies she not have young children herself?

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you guys are great, thanks!

Yes, I did end up going and she of course went out of her way to be super nice to me. And it was fine that I went, it wasn't like it cost money or created confusion!

We actually had DS's conference today and she did apologize again for the misunderstanding. I politely let her know that she did not need to embarrass me in front of everyone and from now on I will be sure to email her immediately when I send paper work to school to be sure she gets it! I could tell she knew she screwed up, which is good Smile DS conference went very pleasant after that!

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Oh good. I'm glad it was all resolved pleasantly enough. Smile
But yeah, you were totally in the right to be upset at the time. I'm glad you got to go anyway!

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I'm glad she straightened it out with you.

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Wow, someone who can admit their mistakes is rare. So glad she apologized to you! She needed to!

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That is great news Amy!!
So glad it all worked out so well & now it seems you will be even closer w/ his teacher. That's usually a bonus.