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I didn't know...

How hard this would be near the end. Seriously. When you're a FTM every tells you how hard it is when you're *really* pregnant, but I guess I was kind of naive about it. I am a mess. Physically, this is just plain hard. I mean, I knew it wouldn't be easy working full time up until my due date, but this is ridiculous. By the end of the day, I can barely walk...I feel so heavy, my ankles are swollen, my back hurts, etc. And don't get me started on my emotions. I have pretty much one way of dealing with stuff these days, I cry. When I am happy, sad, or mad. I don't know how DH puts up with me.
I had my 37 week appt on Monday and I think my OB could see how miserable I was, because she told me not to go back to work after Thanksgiving next week (my school district gets the whole week off for Thanksgiving). So I have two more days of work, and those can't go by soon enough. I nearly lost it today at school when my kids were being crazy today and tattling on each other constantly.
I feel kinda guilty because I feel like all I do is complain lately, and there are women who try for years to have babies and can't, and would give anything to be in my shoes. But it's so hard. I don't know how some of you are having your 3rd or 4th babies, lol. At this point, I can't see myself going through this again.

People keep telling me that after the baby comes I will completely forget how miserable I was....is this true? I guess I just need some encouragement.

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Awww! I feel for you. I don't know how you are still managing such a demanding job Sad If it gives you any hope, I was feeling exactly the same way before I stopped work - physically miserable and mentally exhausted and crying all the time. I was a wreck. When I stopped work, I started feeling much better physically and my emotions have leveled out a little (but not entirely Wink ). I'm glad you have only two days left and hope that when you stop, you get at least a couple weeks to yourself to relax and recharge and feel better before baby arrives Smile

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I'm sorry hon. It will all be worth it when you are holding your little one. That is why you will do it again. I am slowly remembering how hard this is. Crazy since I have done it several times before. You can do this....it will be worth it.

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"katiek68" wrote:

People keep telling me that after the baby comes I will completely forget how miserable I was....is this true? I guess I just need some encouragement.

My pregnancy was ok. My birth and recovery were the traumatizing parts lol. It took me a good 6 months to want to TTC again. So it didn't happen "right after holding my baby in my arms" but after I had time to recover and for the experience to not be so raw in my mind.

But here I am pregnant again and I AM SO FREAKING EXCITED!! Biggrin The bad memories will fade, and you'll know the struggles are worth it in the end.

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Katie, I am feeling exactly the same way! And I am one of those people who tried for years to get pregnant. Sometimes I feel so guilty for feeling the way I do. I used to always think that if I could only get pregnant, I would be so happy and I would never complain, but seriously, I have become the biggest whiner of all. I feel so bad for my DH and he takes such good care of me. I am seriously considering taking a sick day today as I type this because I worked late yesterday, overdid it, had BH all night long, and I'm feeling miserable. I feel like someone has a vice grip on my rib cage. I can't even imagine being in a classroom. I don't think I could do that at this point. I have a hard enough time with my desk job. You girls who have to work on your feet or work long shifts amaze me. Take advantage of your doctor's orders and enjoy a little time off to rest before the baby gets here...and don't feel guilty at all!

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Don't feel guilty. I said it from the beginning that I don't like pregnancy very much, but believe me, I am going through it again because it is SO WORTH IT. If you look at in the scheme of life, this is 10 (or less) short months that will bring you a lifetime of happiness with the beautiful child that YOU created. The aches and pains and discomfort is temporary and will go away after baby is born (some sooner than others).\

Just try to push through the last few weeks and you can do it. I'm glad you are listening to your OB about ending work. I couldn't imagine being on my feet dealing with kids all day (hats off to the SAHM's that are pg too, you have it rough!). The only reason why I am going to work till my due date is because I can sit at my desk and do work at my computer towards the end.

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**HUGS** And just so you know every pregnancy is different. This pregnancy has really thrown me for a loop. My first pregnancy was a breeze compared to this one and I loved being pregnant. This one has been really rough with the discomfort, nerve pain in my legs, BH's, constipation...need I go on?? So even though I already have one child I am just now finding out how miserable pregnancy can really be! But as others have said the misery is worth it in the end and I don't want to say you forget how bad it is but I think you actually remember it alot less worse than what it actually was. Does that make sense? LOL

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:bigarmhug: I can totally relate! These last few weeks are the hardest. It's been 6-years since my last baby and I had forgotten this part. I think it's worse because I'm older too.

The good news is, your body will recover and you will start to feel better soon!

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Yep, never fear....memory loss is here! =/

I have this belief that if making & having babies weren't worth it than the world would be filled w/ single-child homes. You will forget about it & maybe next time you won't even have a pregnancy that is this difficult. Like Jessicah said, they are all different. This has been my tough one emotionally. Physically they have all been pretty easy on me.

You will get through it. And you can come here to vent anytime you need to. We will know exactly what you are talking about it.

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Oh Katie, you ABSOLUTELY forget how miserable you felt once you're holding that precious little piece of you (just like you forget the pain of labor... but that's a story for another day lol!)!! Don't you worry, every single one of us feels your pain, and that's what we're here for! I sometimes wonder myself how DH sticks around, since all it takes is a sideways glance from him that I think is odd to push me to tears!! My last day of work (thank God) is Monday, and I'm done. Just remember, it will all be over soon, and you will miss that LO being inside of you... but it's the most amazing feeling in the world to stare at that little face that you created! Hope you feel better today!

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Wow, thanks, y'all. You guys are great. Today wasn't too bad, mainly because the PTA had a Thankgiving lunch for us and I didn't have to worry about packing my lunch Smile And my long term sub came all day to shadow me, so I had a little bit of help for the day. I just got home and I've got my feet up. I only plan on getting up to get food and go potty...housework can wait.

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Glad to hear that you are feeling better and that you had some help at work.