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Jenn0113's picture
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It's started....

The constant "is anything happening?" "any more contractions?" "is she moving more or less?" "do you think it will be soon because I have xyz to do the next few days". Ugh - I was hoping that I would get to skip this part but nope - going through it now and literally clinching my teeth with every question to keep from being rude.

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I know how you feel! Walked in at 6:45am and first thing I heard was "OH my gosh you're still working!?!?!" and then "I can't believe you're still pregnant as big as you are." I know people mean well when they ask these questions. People freak out on me if they think I make an odd face. I can't wait until next week.

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I'm w/ you both. Now when people ask me how I am I just respond w/ "still pregnant."

Ed's mom called last night & asked about the pregnancy. She is pretty involved in his life & I don't mind that at all, but when he told her that we were planning to induce on the 28th she said that the 21st or the 24th would work much better w/ her schedule. =/ Idk if she was kidding...and even if she was she probably wasn't FULLY kidding. Ugh, I told him, "sure. I would love to induce on either of those dates. Why don't you have your mom call my ob & let her know those work better." lol

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Why on Earth would she want you to be induced on Christmas Eve? Not exactly and ideal time to have a baby and you certainly won't find an OB who would schedule that given it's a holiday. Don't you just love how everybody wants you to accomodate them when you are giving birth.

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Lesley- that's my answer too...

Person at work: "How are you feeling/doing?"
Me: "Still pregnant"

I guess it doesn't bother me much just because I am used to it from Nicholas. I don't know what it is but I am just on this constant "high" almost- probably because I am getting sleep, and I'm in a great mood at work. But now when I get home, it's like a 180 and I just lay on the couch and cry. Ugh...horomones.

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Angela - you can't come on here and be all Polly Positive about the last few weeks, it makes me look bad for complaining! LOL - totally kidding. I am glad that you are feeling so good....I have days here and there when I feel that way but they are getting few and far between.

Here is my scenario:

coworker: Hey! How are you feeling?
me: ugh, pg and miserable.

Smile

I also get the whole "when is your last day? you are working the whole time? OMG - that's gotta be so hard" Um, yes, yes it is!

I have already let my family know that no one needs to feel obligated to come see us in the hospital. I'm hoping that gets me off the hook with more of the old "here are the days that work for me" stuff.

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I can try that "you don't have to come to the hospital" stuff but that will NOT work with my family or DH's. We are a very close knit family and they will all be there for Ryan's arrival. I know we probably had 15 people in the waiting room (seriously, no joke) when Brynna was born and I expect no less when it's Ryan's turn. Everybody is so excited for this baby so keeping them away will be impossible.

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Annoying!

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Jessicah - That's how it was with Deacon too. I had no less than 20 people up there in the waiting room and at least that many more stopped by that night to visit. This time only our moms and my granny and possibly my dad/stepmom will be waiting while I am in surgery (this is if I go with a csection). I've already warned everyone that I don't plan to have anyone come back to recovery to visit so I am more than fine with everyone waiting until I am in a room to come by. My SIL and bro let everyone come back 2 at a time to recovery and I felt like it was so uncomfortable to stand by and watch who they "picked" next. Its almost like they ranked the parents/grandparents/siblings by who was more important in order to decide the visiting order. I refuse to do that to anyone so everyone can wait an extra hour or three.

Like for instance...this is the order they took everyone back: Our mom and SIL's mom. Then our granny and grandpa. Then our stepmom and our dad. It was so awkward to see who was next each time they came out. Why did grandparents go before parents? Make sense? So THAT and the fact that I want alone time with MY new family is why I don't want people up there just sitting for hours on end.

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I totally agree Jenn! We have already told everyone that our kids will be the first ones in to see and hold Ryan. I want that time with just us in the room after the baby is delivered. After that then whoever wants is free to come in as they are allowed. Brynna is most excited for this baby and we've agreed that she will be the first to hold him after they get him cleaned up and such. I think seeing her reaction is one of the things I am most looking foward to.

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Me too, I can't wait to see Deacon walk in the room to meet his sister. I plan to have her in the bassinet thing next to me and I want to love on him a bit before he gets her. I want him to see that HE is still just as important to me.

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I told Bill the I wanted him to be holding the baby so that when Brynna came in she could get in the bed with me and I could hug and kiss on her. But I have a feeling she is going to want to ignore me and just see the baby....lol

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when I had dd I made them bring Jamie in so he could see her with ME able to see. I was so worried that they would show her to him while I was still in recovery.

This time, dd and ds both saw Luke while I was in recovery. Things kind of happened to fast to plan it out.

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Angie - with Deacon I was still being stitched up when DH took Deacon back to the room. Everyone was in there waiting so they all got to see him without me seeing their reaction. I was really sad about that. This time I plan to be holding her as I am wheeled to my room from recovery.

The weird thing is that with my last csection I didn't go to recovery but with a planned csection you are in recovery for 2-3 hours. Interesting. However, if I VBAC I think it will be so much harder to keep people out of the room vs a recovery room behind locked doors - lol.

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with dd and ds1 I was only in recover for about an hour, maybe. This time I was there for almost 4 because they couldn't get my bleeding under control. Everyone who was in the waiting room left before I even got back to my room. No one got to hold Luke until the next day but everyone saw him first.

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All of that is the reason I don't want a c-section! I want to be able to see everyone's (especially my daughters) reaction when they see him for the first time. I want to be able to show him off to everyone. I think I'd be really sad if I didn't get that opportunity.

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"_Jessicah_" wrote:

All of that is the reason I don't want a c-section! I want to be able to see everyone's (especially my daughters) reaction when they see him for the first time. I want to be able to show him off to everyone. I think I'd be really sad if I didn't get that opportunity.

When I had my last 2 c-sections, immediate family- my mom and my dd (at the 2nd) were allowed to come into recovery. This time as far as I understood they can come to recovery this time as well. I guess it would depend on your hospitals policy. The baby now stays with the mom/dad while surgery is finished. Unless something is wrong.

Our hospital changed the visitation rules- at first I thought it was odd but it does make sense. The waiting room has been changed and has only approx 6-10 chairs. We were told that is for a reason!
Spouses, a support person, children then 4 people on your list can visit. for us, grandparents will be the 4. It is too bad that my sisters and my aunt who will be visiting from out of town can't come up as with the c-section I will be there at least 3 days. But those who have vaginal are only there for 1-2 days- so instead of cramming a million visitors in - they have to wait till they go home. Which I think is a good thing- helps the recovery period and especially for new moms that may need the time to recover, work with nurses...

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Nicholas won't be one of the first to meet his sister. MIL is going to be in the delivery room if all goes as planned so she will meet Emily first and then depending on the time that I have her, my parents and Nicholas will come together to meet Emily for a little bit and then go home. I don't want to interrupt Nicholas' schedule too much so he will either come in the morning before lunch or in the afternoon after naptime. If I have her past 5pm or so it will probably be the next day. Clif may go home to sit with Nicholas while he sleeps so my parents can come for a bit but their main "job" is to watch over Nicholas for us. It's very exciting and I know people want to meet her, but my understanding is the first 24 hours are going to be a little rough with checking Emily's blood sugar and she may have to get an IV if she isn't doing well Sad

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Lol yep, I think that's the way it is with everyone! Don't worry, it'll all be over soon... and then you might miss it lol!

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I felt so horrible the night I delivered we told everyone they would have to wait until the next day at least. Also that night everytime I stood up I was in a puddle of blood....That would have sucked with company!!!

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We haven't figured anything out about the kids. I guess we can just ask Ryan if he wants to be there or not. He's old enough to decide. My mom, as much as I love her & she helps me, acts like I am birthing HER child. Imo she should be the one w/ the girls while I am in labor, but she HAS to be in the room.

I guess we haven't really planned anything b/c we don't really know how things will go. If it seems that induction will be it then we will start planning I guess. I am really hoping that's not what happens tho.

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We let my 12 year old step-son decide what he wanted to do as well. It's planned for him to go to his grandma's house and he will come after the baby is born to meet him. I know he would be bored outta his mind just sitting there doing nothing all day waiting for the baby to get there. My mom and DH will be in the delivery room so someone else will have to be in charge of Brynna until she can come and meet her brother. But I know that won't be an issue because like I said I am sure there will be like 15 people in the waiting room and they can all keep her occupied.