Job vent (OT/long)

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fireflies11's picture
Joined: 03/26/11
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Job vent (OT/long)

I know it may be the hormones talking, but I hate my job!!!!

I feel so guilty saying that because I know many people are unemployed and would love to be in my shoes. I work as an property estimator for an insurance company. It is so flexible, I come and go when I please & I have a sweet company car. I have a full-time income but most weeks I only work 30-hours. I work from home a lot so I can be with DS. And I make a great salary. I know I should be thankful, but I seriously hate what I do Sad People can be so rude and I see a lot of fraud which often is overlooked because it's not cost effective to investigate everything. Plus I work with all older men and they are total "good ole boys" who think I can't estimate construction jobs as well as them because I am a woman. And I can tell they resent me because I can't do large fires anymore as it's not healthy for baby to be in burned houses. Every day is just so draining and stressful!

I have other opportunities to change jobs but I can't right now because I will get 5-months maternity leave and most of it will be paid. So I have to stick it out until after my leave. Because of that I feel so stuck! If I wasn't pregnant I would leave in a heart beat!

I quit after DS was born in 2005 with no intention of returning. But when DS was three DH's business went under and I had to go back to work. I was offered this job at a great salary so I just couldn't say no. I took it hoping it would only be short term. Anyway, I hope I can quit after baby, but DH needs a new job (his doesn't make enough for me to stay home). Even though I make enough for him to be a SAHD, neither of us want that.

Sorry for the vent ladies!! I had a bad day Sad

Joined: 09/01/10
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Sorry you had a rough day :bigarmhug:

I know what it's like to work at a job you hate. In the past I've had jobs that I hated and it made me miserable almost all the time. I'm sorry you are "stuck" in that situation for a while.

I hope that you are able to find something else after the baby is born.

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Joined: 04/21/11
Posts: 1973

**HUGS** I know how you feel. I have a high stress job. I am a nurse and work with substance abuse patients. That means I work with 18 patients who are coming off drugs and it really is a nightmare! Some days are better than others but most days I could pull my hair out. I am so thankful for my job but so wish that I could be a SAHM but financially we just can't do it. My hubby would have to work two jobs so we could survive. I am thinking about finding a new job once this little one gets here. I want something closer to home and working Mon-Fri dayshift.

OliveOly's picture
Joined: 08/03/08
Posts: 158

Sending hugs your way. I know that it is hard to not like your job and being pregnant makes the stress level climb even higher. Just remember that you are never given more than you can handle even though it often feels over whelming in the valley of life. I often have to remember the following scripture from Philippians 2:14 "do all things without grumbling or complaint so that you will prove yourselves to be blameless and innocent children of God."
Hang in there.

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Joined: 01/31/10
Posts: 1505

That sounds just awful. Lots of hugs for you and I am sorry for what you're going through! I wish I had some suggestions for does sound like you are caught between a rock and a hard place. I hope the next few months pass quickly, at least!

fireflies11's picture
Joined: 03/26/11
Posts: 613

Thanks for all your kind word of support ladies! It helps Smile
I think I just need to focus on the good and move on knowing it will not always be this way.

Soooooo looking forward to November!!

JuneorJulyBaby?'s picture
Joined: 10/20/08
Posts: 2479

So sorry you have to deal with a job you hate Sad No fun at all! There is a light at the end of the tunnel at least. Maybe start a countdown to help pass the time? Good luck

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Joined: 11/06/06
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I'm sorry! That would be so difficult. I hope you can find something else after your leave. A 5 month leave is awesome, though!

sugspop's picture
Joined: 02/22/07
Posts: 1418

There are days I HATE my job too... and I have a lot to be thankful for as well! I work from home and make my own schedule! What could be better! And it challenges me... but it gets old. Same BS gets tough to deal with day in and day out. I am finally getting some benefits from them and the boss is going to give me 3 months half pay for ML... but I will believe that when I see it (she isn't trust worthy). My DH is going to quit his job towards the end of my ML, and I will need to stick this out for a few months or so after that. We are planning to move and I will look for another job after the move.

Hang in there! I know the feeling!

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Joined: 04/06/11
Posts: 5454

Don't ever apologize for a vent, we're here to talk about more than just babies! I'm honestly glad for a change in topic sometimes lol! I'm so sorry you're going through this. I feel the same way about my job, but at least you get the perks of being able to be at home a lot and paid maternity leave?? That's incredible! I'm really hoping that DH can find something better than what he has now so that I can just stay home. I've been thinking about maybe asking if I can drop down to just part time (I'm a concierge and I don't think it would be a problem) after baby comes... I just don't know. Right now we can't afford to not both work, and I'm freaking out about when he is born, how I won't be able to afford to take more than a couple of weeks off. Anyway, here's hoping that your job situation works out for you. Even though the money might be good, if you're not comfortable it's not going to be worth it.