Thank you all for your reponses!
I don't *think* it's reflux. My reasoning there is Nick's crying is so inconsistent. Once the crying is out of his system he is back to all sunshine and roses. I would expect reflux would cause symptoms all the time, or with most of his feedings? I would like to take him to the pedi... but DH went in to work today to fill out some paper work. They dropped the bomb on him that we don't get healthcare for TWO MONTHS!!!!!!!!!!!! Totally insane considering he is a physician assistant working in a family practice. He said he would call the operations' manager tomorrow and get it straightened out. Long story short we just moved 2,000 miles for him to take a job at a rural health clinic to get loan repayment. Nick hasn't had a single shot yet! I'm a little angry they don't offer insurance for two months... and slightly perplexed DH didn't think to ask about it!
He does like being in the carrier! But I have to keep moving all the time. He likes to be held, but once you sit down he bursts into tears again. He likes to keep moving. I also have... slightly embarrassing... a mild prolapse still from the delivery. Walking around holding him works great, but its hard on me physically.
I'm grateful his crying has never made me angry, its more it makes me want to burst into tears too. I do feel frustrated and exhausted, but mostly I just want to comfort my baby. I have so much guilt when I leave him in his crib to cry. I feel like an awful mother. Luke has been having so many tantrums lately. I think its the combination of the two, one of them is always crying it seems! DH is home with me for another week, he starts work next Monday. Hopefully things settle down by then. And hopefully we get health insurance NOW. Nick will be so behind on shots otherwise!
Baby #3 due July 6 2013
oh boy you have been hit with everything at once! As far as shots go,
i believe the state/county health departments have some sort of free immunization programs. I'm sure you can do that until insurance kicks in.
DH Mike 2/10/01
DS Caleb 11/19/05
DS Jonah 11/25/11
I'm sorry you are going through these long cring jags with him. Finn started crying for several hours on end a couple of weeks ago and was/is difficult to console at times. Would go from happy content baby to angry shrieking baby quickly with no obvious cause. We determined a large part of it is reflux related so we got a wedge for the head of his crib, make sure to keep him elevated for several minutes after feedings and burp him frequently during feedings which has helped cut down on his long painful crying episodes. We also started a bedtime routine because he routinely fell apart between 5-7pm so that is when we try to help him wind down and go down to sleep for the first part of the night...it takes a while to settle him down but now he seems to expect it and gets quite cranky if we go too far past that time. He is still not an easy child and has his moments but I find I am pulling my hair out less in frustration now.
I hope you find some solutions to make it easier on both of you because it is so frustrating and wearing when you feel like you have tried everything under the sun.
Carolyn... Why do you think he's crying so much? I've never had a baby just cry and cry and not be able to be consoled in any way. does he have colic you think? Have you asked his pedi about it? I'm so sorry you're going through all of this, I can't imagine how sad it must make you to have a crying baby and feel like you can't help him in any way...
Krystal & Donovan - 12/2/06
Reagan - 10/2/02
Maximus - 3/10/05
Liberty - 12/11/08
My angel in Heaven 1/7/13
Do you have a swing? Rory HATED it for a while but I just kept trying. There are times when I'm home with both boys I simply have to put him down. What else can I do? And he'd fly in to a fit every time. Consistently I'd put him in the big swing (I have a travel swing too and it doesn't have the same effect) and over time it has worked. Having the ability to put him down has made me feel a little more sane and given me time to play with Evan which helps him too. We've also worked ourselves in to a fairly flexible schedule. Up around 7, 8-10 he swings/naps -- it can vary sometimes he only gives me an hour. 10-12 play etc then about 11:45 I have to get lunch ready for Evan so Rory goes back in the swing and 12-2 he naps -- varies again but roughly. Then 2-4 Evan is up and we typically play upstairs I try to get some tummy time in etc. 4-6 is hard I want him to nap but I can't seem to get him to anywhere but my arms he's all swung out by then. And 6-8 we play but he still does some crying/crabbing. 8 I start bed time and usually by 9 he's in bed. Sleeps 9-1ish sometimes 2 then 2-4/5 and 5-7 he usually comes in bed with us. I never had a schedule with Evan and it never mattered but it seems to matter much more to Rory's overall - he's a happier baby when that rough routine is followed. On days I blow it all up for whatever reason he sleeps much worse at night and fights sleep overall. Having a more difficult baby has been a learning experience for me!
on another note I've wondered if I had a slight prolapse myself......I haven't gone back to the doc and lately I've felt totally fine but initially I wondered. Then I googled it and scared the hell out of myself!
Evan 12/10/09 9lbs 5 and 1/4 oz 21.5"
Rory 12/2/11 10lbs 12oz and 23"
Does he have any particular physical symptoms when he cries? That might help you pinpoint the problem, if it's physical.
I was having trouble with my LO up until very recently, too. (Though not to the extent you're describing.) I bought a Moby, which he loves, but he also got upset if I sat down. So I tried white noise; I put the extremely LOUD stove fan on. He instantly stopped fussing and fell asleep very quickly. To combat the sitting down problem, I found this website:
and play it next to us constantly while on the couch or glider with the Moby. It works really well; he can't fight it and settles nicely. Maybe it'll give you some relief from the crying and relief for your feet, even if only for a little bit?
Good luck! I hope it stops soon; my bil and sil had a colicky baby and I remember how tough it was on them.
When my first son would cry and cry.. we'd turn on the vacuum or hair dryer. Sounds really silly, but it worked!
The other godsend was our swing.
It turned out he did have GERD. He didn't so much have a lot of spit up either.
*hugs* hang tough mama!
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Carolyn that sounds so hard!! I am sure you have tried everything so I don't know if this will help at all. But when Elaina gets fussy and is fed and clean, I find I have to do several things at once to calm her and she will fight them at first but will eventually soothe. When she is really upset I swaddle her tightly and she cries through it but I know it will work eventually so I keep her swaddled. Then I put her in the swing (closely supervised of course since I can't strap her in lol!) and tuck her favourite soft blanket all around her. Still crying of course!! Finally I turn the swing on high, turn on the white noise (our swing has one that is like lapping waves on a beach, it's magic), and lastly I give her a pacifier. that will pretty much always do the trick! At first I thought nothing was working because she cried through everything I did, but finally I just waited it out and within a minute or two of having all those comforts in place, she would calm and go to sleep. One way or another I hope things get easiere for you soon! I can't imagine how stressful it must be to make a big move like that with two fussy LO's hugs to you!
Hi Carolyn!! Wow, you moved across country!? How stressful! Hope you are doing ok. This sounds miserable. Sounds like colic to me and at least it should pass by 3 or 4 months, but I would probably take him to the pedi if it were me just to discuss. I am ok with some crying. I have realized that the more sleep M gets during the day, the more sleep she get during the night... but she fights naps! So I am doing a little ferbering with her to get this under control. I have no experience with colic, but if he cries for 5 hours in your arms and 10 mins in the crib, I would say that is the best option! A little crying is ok! Hang in there. This too shall pass. HUGS.