anyone thought about this??
i am sooooooooo much more at ease with #2 than i was with #1! having your first baby is so scary, at least it was for me!
for Luke my plan was to try a natural birth, but be open to an epidural if needed. AND if i needed an epidural to wait till I was at least 7cm so i could avoid the complications of stalling labor, epidural fevers, and being stuck in bed. i spent the first 10 hours walking and squatting. i was so tired! but i had alot of back labor and it was so painful to lay down or sit on my birth ball.
I also had the misconception that the pain would be better once i got to push. I had heard that if you can get through transition (supposedly the hardest part) you will be fine and you will actually get relief with pushing. In my mind the pushing stage = less pain. When it was time to push and it still hurt horribly i panicked. Once you lose control mentally its game over. I got the epidural for the last hour or so if my 12 hour labor. I have no regrets. i had an awesome epidural. I could still walk, squat, move my legs, and feel my contractions, but without pain. and i didnt have to feel my tearing or the repair after. my epidural experience was wonderful!
my plan for number 2 is going to be the same. This time i am more prepared though. I know the pain wont get better with pushing. I imagine my labor will be even faster this time. i think 12 hours for the first baby is pretty quick! i did spend three hours pushing though. I will get through transition to the pushing stage with nothing, and then get an epidural if i need it. I'm no hero when it comes to pain, I'm just worried of the complications of getting an epidural too early in labor. Once its time to push, it would be like stopping a train. that baby is coming no matter what
i did a hospital birth with a midwife. im planning the same for this one