So we have not been able to start the nursery because DH's "friend" was staying with us. We will call him deadbeat. (Long story, we were taken advantage of, and I am miffed- STILL have not recieved the last rent check)....Anyhow.... Well he moved out last Friday. BUT, he left the furniture that we gave him- we just want it out of the house. He says he would let us know if he needed it by last Sat. We heard nothing. Go figure. We can't start painting until it is out (it takes up the whole room, and the other rooms are filled with the baby stuff that is supossed to go in the baby's room). Ughhh,
So DH was planning on just moving it and painting this weekend. BUT he is a chronic Kidney Stone former, and low and behold, he has a HUGE stone that are operating on on Friday. So no painting this weekend. Wahhhhhh! Is my baby ever going to have her own room?!?!?!? (not trying to sound callous about DH, but we averarge about 1 surgery a year, so it is routine now.) I feel more crumby by the day, and am losing all hope of ever getting it done, even though we have bought everything we need.
Here is the question: We have not heard back from Deadbeat about the furniture. Dh has called and texted him about it. A Really, super good friend of ours mentioned that he needed bedroom furniture for his spare room. Would it be innapropriate for us to give it to him instead, even though we offerred it to Deadbeat first? (I really want to, but it just does not seem right....)
Furniture: It was generous to offer the furniture to Deadbeat. To be extra kind, you could leave him a message or send him an email saying, "Hey Deadbeat, we need to get rid of that bedroom furniture by Friday evening at the latest, are you still interested? Let me know if you are so we can save it for you until Friday." If you expect Deadbeat to be slow or stupid about it, just let the Other Friend know that it's pending but you might have some furniture to offer him. If I were Other Friend I would be happy to hear of the offer so I could be ready to make some moving arrangements in a hurry. And with the caveat that it's pending an understandable previous offer to Deadbeat, I wouldn't be at all upset in the least if you couldn't follow through.
Baby's Room: Will the baby be sleeping in the extra bedroom from the first night home? Will the baby care about the color of the walls? I know it would be nice to have it all done in a hurry but (coming from a place of having had to give up on these types of preparations...) I'm guessing a newborn really won't care about having her own room painted and gorgeous immediately. However, you should absolutely continue to whine about it, I won't try to take that away from you!!
As for the nursery - that sucks! I would probably feel the same way as you. Of course you want it ready to go when the baby gets here so its understandable. I hope your DH has a fast recovery and get get it done soon for you.
As for the furniture - if deadbeat hasn't responded, didn't tell you by his own deadline of Saturday and DIDN'T pay the last rent check - I'd say your other friends would be more appreciative and you should definitely just give it to them. You shouldn't have to harass someone to give them something - you know? Give it away and when he comes looking for it tell him its in the same place as his rent check perhaps. LOL
Sheila's right, if baby's room doesn't get done now it can wait until after she's here. Plus you still have 6+ weeks right? Try not timstress about the room. It can get done in a matter of one weekend. 2days to paint and one to arrange everything.
If you've given deadbeat the opportunity to claim the furniture multiple times I'd say there's no need to offer once again.
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I'm with you on the nursery! We have to move DS into our guest room/office BEFORE we can even start on the nursery. Needless to say, I'm writing this post from my still, very-intact office
I vote you give the furniture away! If he calls and says he wants it, I would just say, "since we never heard from you, we assumed you didn't want it."
Last edited by fireflies11; 10-18-2011 at 11:27 PM.
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Wow you are way more tolerant than I would be - I would have given the furniture away or sold it a long time before now. I say give the furniture to your friend - deadbeat had many chances (and still owes you money which you will likely never see).
About the nursery: I can understand that you are stressed and anxious to get it done. I hope your DH recovers very quickly and you can get him to make it his first priority to finish as soon as he feels better. Admittedly, there is nothing he can do about needing surgery.
I explained to DH just how much it stresses me out that we aren't further yet in preparing baby's room and buying gear, and he has since made a real effort to get things done. Maybe that would help?
Sorry to hear about your dh! That's gotta be miserable, I've had stones before and they are not fun!
And I agree -- screw deadbeat! He owes you money, and told you he'd let you know by last Saturday. Give it to the next people in line...they'll be more grateful for it anyways.