The old midwife switcheroo

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The old midwife switcheroo

So, I'm not entirely sure what is going on, as they are being a little secretive about it, but my next 3 appts have all been rescheduled to some new midwife at the practice (I don't like the only other midwife at that facility... I saw her for my first visit and quickly changed). I asked the receptionist if they were changing all my appts up to my due date or something? She said we might be and the new midwife might deliver your baby. WTF!!!??? What are you talking about???? I asked her what was going on and she said they won't know for sure (yea right) for a few days but will probably know more when I come in next week for my appt with the new midwife.

Anyone else find this alarming? Not only alarming, but stressful! I went through a lot to find the right person and here in my last month or so they pull an old switcheroo??? If that is the case I'm going to see about going to my old midwife. It's a much further drive (she moved facilities), but at least I know I like her. Problem is, she may not even have any appts. available on this short of notice. My DH says not to worry, but that is easy for him to say. I don't think he understands how important it is to have someone you trust and are comfortable with. I'm stressing out about this. Dang them!

What would you do in my shoes?

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I think I would be freaking out as well!! That does seem a little odd to me and I hate when they pretend like they don't know what is going on. Maybe you should take the appointment with this new midwife next week and see how things go. She may surprise you and you'll really click with her. I guess it's one of those things I would just wait and see how it goes. How frustrating that it happens right as we're about to have our little ones!

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My situation is a bit different but I've really had to give up on any ideas on how I want things to go since finding out I'm having twins. But I really just wouldn't stress too much over it. Ask if you can see the midwife you want and if you can't that means there's some reason for it and just go with it. Stress makes babies come out early. So if you can just go with it, there will be a healthy baby here some way or another.

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In my case...I don't care who delivers my baby...my OB doesn't have to be there for all I care, unless its a csection then maybe I would prefer him. Smile

In the case of a midwife that's a bit more personal than an OB so I would either call my last midwife and try to get fit in and switch to her or I would make it known that you want a certain midwife because that's who you feel comfortable with.

I hate it when people act oblivious - why not just say "we are in transition right now and once its all finalized we will post it" or something like that. Saying you don't know is STUPID!

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Were you guaranteed to have that midwife anyway? I'm not sure how your practice works. Where I am whichever midwife is "on call" when you go into labor is the one that delivers you, not necessarily the midwife who has been following you. I schedule with a different midwife each time. I have met all 6 of them now. They all have different strengths but they're all great.

maybe give the new one a try? I don't think I have ever met lousy midwife, although I'm sure there are some out there!

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Did this midwife deliver your son as well? If not, can you go back to that person if you had a good experience with them? I would be totally pissed off at this as well!!

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I'd flip out. It seems weird they would reschedule you like that. They need to be upfront so you can either find someone else or get used to the idea.

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Yes, sadly there is such a thing as a bad midwife. My old midwife changed locations so I tried out this other lady. The first visit was so awkward and she made it seem so, i dunno, unspecial if that makes any sense? I think she has been doing it so long she just didn't really care to make it special and make me feel comfortable. So I switched to the other midwife in the office for my 2nd prenatal visit and I liked her a lot more.

And no, there is no guarantee that MY midwife will be on call and deliver the baby. I was SO lucky with DS that the same midwife was on call and delivered my baby! She knew my issues, knew my wishes and the delivery went so well and I think it was bc of her! I do know there is a chance I won't have this midwife at my delivery, and there is also a chance that my old midwife will be on call when I go into labor and I may luck out with her again! But I just can't help but feel a little blindsided about this... especially when I'm entering the phase where the prenatal care counts the most.

I think I will check out this new midwife next week and see how I feel about things then. Maybe I will like her?!

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I would be flipping out! It's a little different in my case - my midwife is always "on call" except for one weekend a month. So I can call her at anytime, and if it's her weekend off, I call her backup (and I have a few appointments with her backup towards the end so I get to know her). So unless my midwife is on her weekend off call, or is at another birth, she's the one I get. So if this happened to me I'd be furious. We spend so much time with our midwives and getting to know them, of course we want them there for the big finish and the hardest part!!

Since it seems like there isn't much you can do unfortunately, I'd try out the new midwife - maybe you'll love her! If not, maybe give your old one a call ASAP. I'm so sorry this stress was put on you at the end...it sure sounds like the midwife practice isn't handling it well at all. Sad

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I just found out my fav doc 'retired' due to breast cancer. They of course said nothing about it until it was official but try to stay focused and calm and get all the info next week. You may really love the new MW. As much as you want to know what's going on, her privacy may be why they are being so secretive.

If you're not comfy with her, and the other is out of the question, then I'd call the old MW.

Hopefully it's nothing like that. And maybe, if she is switching practices or something like that, you can find out where and follow your fav MW.

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"sugspop" wrote:

I think I will check out this new midwife next week and see how I feel about things then. Maybe I will like her?!

I think that's a good idea. I only say that because when I was picking a pedi for DS I had a bad first experience with one dr but when I saw her again I liked her. Now we have seen her for almost 3 years and DS loves going to the dr and I love our relationship with her. Hopefully the MW was having a crappy day that day and is much better now.

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It's actually a different one than the one I first met with. This one is new to the practice, so I have my fingers crossed! But you have a point about giving people a second chance.

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The one you are used to seeing may be having some personal issues or may be leaving the practice. I didn't find out a dr. was leaving my OB practice until I showed up the day of my appt and they are like "oh your appt is with Dr. X now" and I asked about the old one and they said he "moved on". I wasn't too upset just because I had never met him before but if it was someone I was seeing for a while and they knew they were leaving, I would be a little upset that they didn't say goodbye to me.

Hopefully this new MW meets your expectations. Good luck.

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"JuneorJulyBaby?" wrote:

The one you are used to seeing may be having some personal issues or may be leaving the practice.

Hopefully this new MW meets your expectations. Good luck.

This was my tought, too. Maybe she is going on leave about the time you are due or something, too. Try calling the pratice, ask to speak with her and ask?

Hopefully you like the "new" lady. Is she new to MWing or just new to the ptrctice? I would want to know that!

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"jeepbaby" wrote:

Hopefully you like the "new" lady. Is she new to MWing or just new to the ptrctice? I would want to know that!

I don't know! Good question! I will definitely ask her next week...