Anyone scared of a reaction from people when you tell them that you are pregnant?
I am scared to tell my parents. We already told DH's parents, they are super excited. My mom said to me a few months ago that "Now would be a bad time to have a baby because Clif doesn't have a job" (DH was laid off in December) But we are ok!!!! DH is doing an awesome job as a SAHD and we are not going into debt. I told them that this was my family and I appreciate their comment but I do not have to agree with it. I'm not going to tell them till next weekend when they come for Easter. Ugh....already makes me nervous.
I'm also apprehensive about telling my boss. I know I will need to tell him sooner than later because we work with some chemicals that you shouldn't be around when you are pg. I really want to wait a month or so until after my review so that I am not discriminated against (long story, I was denied promotion because I was pg with Nicholas 2 years ago). I'm afraid I will have to tell him sooner than that though. Oh well. I'll just wing it.
I'm scared of telling the boss when the time comes, we're a very small privately owned child-care centre with very little staff (we have 11 staff and 5 rooms). I just started working there about 6 months ago in the toddler room, so I'm fairly new but my seniority is pretty high already.
Here in Canada, we have up to 12 months of maternity leave but I don't plan on taking the whole 12 months, I'm hoping to go back after 6, so I'm hoping she'll take that into consideration when my time comes. The only problem now is that I just found out a co-worker is pregnant and expecting in late December so that complicates things alittle.
Other than that, we're not really scared of telling others, we know a lot of people will be thrilled for us!
(m/c 04/04/2008 & 02/12/2010)
those are very valid reasons to be afraid of their reactions. I would hope your employer wouldnt discriminate aganst you for being pregnant. Its totally illegal. I wouldnt know how you'd prove it. Although if you get a bad or less than areview than you think you should i would take note of it and your denial of promotion and talk to an attorney.
I think its great your DH is doing a swell job as SAHD. thats always comforting knowing your children are in the best hands while you work.
I really havent been afraid to tell anyone yet. there have only been a few people we have told. Mostly family adn a few friends. I wonder what some of my friends will think or say when i reveal the news to them. I'm sure it will only be nice comments and congrats but you always wonder what they really think.
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I was afraid to tell my parents, and rightly so as their reaction was awful. My dad looked strained and quickly told us we don't know what we are getting into and my mom put her head in her hands saying "oh, noooo". Not the reaction you expect when you're 26, married, and you and your husband each have successful careers!!
They eventually sort of came around and are now quite supportive, but it's hard for me to stop feeling sad about their reaction to their first grandchild. The awkwardness is still there too which I hope will pass soon.
Oh well, at least my work so far is being incredibly supportive!! I'm sorry to hear that some of you have to be worried about discrimination. I have a new manager who I'm not sure about yet, so I hope he is ok too when I tell him.
Hilary, that is a terrible way for them to react. I am so sorry.
I was scared to tell my mom, because I know she really thought two was enough for us. She is worried about our financial ability and my personal-not losing my mind- ability to have three.
She ended up being really happy for me though, just worried about how hard it will be with three.
I'm scared that when we tell a lot of people, that people are going to ask if the baby was planned since this baby and its older brother are only going to be about 21 months apart (it was...it just came on the first try instead of the 5th or 6th like our other 2 and we weren't quite expecting it)...I hope most people will recognize that is none of their business.
wow hilary... that is awful!!!! i can't even imagine. ugh. i hope they come around.
my parents were thrilled both times. DH's parents were thrilled the first time... we just told his mom about me being pregnant again. she was like "oooh boy!!!!' and didnt say much else. she asked me several times before we got married about birth control, and what we planned on doing after Luke. i think she thinks we are religious whack jobs, but i really dont care. DH and i are so thrilled to be doing this again! MIL told me in the past she only had kids to "save her marriage" which didn't work anyway. she's a piece of work!
Baby #3 due July 6 2013