Sex during pregnancy

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Sex during pregnancy

My husband and I DTD today for the first time since we got pregnant (which was around March 17th). I've been super scared to do it because last time we were pregnant and had sex, I started spotting and found out I was m/c three days later. I know that the sex and m/c happening were totally unlrelated but that just sticks in my head, ya know?

Anyway, now I'm kinda freaking out wishing we hadn't done it at all....but my DH has been driving me CRAZY wanting to do it....especially since he's been at the last two appointments when my OB said that sex was perfectly safe. So I caved and gave in.

My next appt is next Thursday...i wish it would get here already so I can know that everything is okay in there! I wish I wasn't such a worrier!!!

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Just stop worrying! Biggrin (As if it's that easy.)

Do it a whole heck of a lot more and you won't have time to worry about it. It's safe. Smile

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I totally hear you! We aren't doing it either, and my dh is fine with it. I know he'd be up for it as soon as I say I will, but I'm not taking any chances. Plus I'm so tired these days, who the heck wants to do that!?! Lol

ETA: last time around we dtd at 7w. At my 8w u/s we found out the baby had stopped growing at 7w1d. So, very similar to your m/c as far as the sex+timing of m/c goes. I'm just way too nervous.

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:bigarmhug: I'm sure everything will be ok.

I'm trying to enjoy now while I can. I remember towards the end of my 2nd tri into the 3rd my belly was getting in the way and it wasn't as "fun" Smile My friend and I are convinced that lots of sex makes for very happy babies so I'm trying to make sure my babe is a very happy one just like Nicholas LOL

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I have a pretty hefty DH so sex during pregnancy is really uncomfortable. Last time around we were still DTD until I was about 38 weeks and it was painful every time. I don't know what makes it painful but I really just can't stand it while I'm preg at all. Between my belly getting pushed and feeling hideous I get the physical pain of it too. I'm just a mess.

So if it isn't painful for you, I definately say enjoy it while you can. When that belly comes in, it makes sex a whole world different and a lot more uncomfortable. haha

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I am to tired for any of that! LOL!

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"AshnBill" wrote:

I totally hear you! We aren't doing it either, and my dh is fine with it. I know he'd be up for it as soon as I say I will, but I'm not taking any chances. Plus I'm so tired these days, who the heck wants to do that!?! Lol

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"jeepbaby" wrote:

I am to tired for any of that! LOL!

And this.

I have been falling asleep within minutes of DH getting home every nigh - so I don't know how we would even fit it in. LOL Poor guy. I think after my first OB appt when I see/hear the HB I will feel more comfortable. As I may as well do it as much as possible b/c pretty soon my belly will be getting in the way.

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lots of sex in the second and third tri help labor to go faster and less chance of being overdue from what I've read. After going overdue with both boys I am willing to try it! Not doing anything right now though, just too nauseous.

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Lol you girls make me feel like a total perv... I can't get enough sex! I swear I am a guy in a girl's body and always have been! Thankfully I've never m/c so I don't have those worries, but I can understand why you do. Like others have said on here, sex had nothing to do with your m/c, that was just a coincidence. Even your doc said it's perfectly safe. In the end you have to do what makes you comfortable... but for me that's DTD pretty much every day LMAO! :lovebed::yahoo:

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Try not to worry about it so much. Sex is good for you and fine for baby as long as your pregnancy is going smoothly.

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Ugh sorry you are woorying about that.

I havent been up to DTD at all. we have done "it" only 2 or 3 times since the BFP and that was very early on.

I just take care of him other ways that dont make me gag Wink I think that leaves only one option Lol

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Krista, my hubby is a big boy too Smile My husband has been bugging the heck out of me. I know he wants it but I am just exhausted and I am not even in the mood. The thought of sex grosses me out. I hope this passes soon.

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I've been meaning to post on here again but DH and I went out of town for his birthday, and that stupid GMC ad thingy is bugging the heck out of me so I haven't been getting on as much. I use an iPad and that ad covers up half the posts so it's hard to read stuff on here.

Anyway, DH and I DTD one more time, mainly because it was his birthday and I felt guilty, haha. He thinks I'm crazy for not wanting to do it more, but I just don't feel like it. Besides being worried, I just feel yucky! I am just really ready for Thursday to be here so I can see the doctor again.

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I am having no problems in this area. Sometimes I need half an hour to talk myself into it, but I am always happy after!!! It is better than usual! And usual is awesome. Wink

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anyone noticed that it's alot more "sensitive" now? (not just with sex...)

Last night DH woke me up because he couldn't sleep and he knew i had been having bad cramps so he figured he knew the "treatment" ROFL hahaha Well, it was 10x better than it would have been before pg. DTD is still a painful task, but I'm game for other activities now for sure hahaha

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i told DH we could DTD if he cleaned the kitchen for me!!! this is the first time i have ever used sex as a bartering tool lol.

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"thenamezkrista" wrote:

anyone noticed that it's alot more "sensitive" now? (not just with sex...)

Last night DH woke me up because he couldn't sleep and he knew i had been having bad cramps so he figured he knew the "treatment" ROFL hahaha Well, it was 10x better than it would have been before pg. DTD is still a painful task, but I'm game for other activities now for sure hahaha

After I had DS my experience improved drastically! Pregnancy really perked things up for me in that area. ROFL

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DH and I have DTD only twice since I found out I'm pregnant. The first time was great but this last time was kind of uncomfortable for me (and I never have that problem!) I have been feeling too crappy to initiate lately, but I should probably get on it soon. I feel kind of guilty for neglecting him.

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I'm too afraid to do it :confused: We have only done it once since I found out, and I think I was 6 weeks or so? I bled bright red immediately after, but it stopped just as quickly so my midwife was unconcerned, said it was probably just my cervix getting irritated. I haven't been able to bring myself to do it again though, I'm too worried! DH has been really understanding but I do miss our intimacy.