To shower or not to shower?

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To shower or not to shower?

My church just suggested throwing us a baby shower, but I'm not sure whether we should accept.

We are having a second little girl, so we have nearly everything we need as far as gifts go and people hardly ever want to get you the useful stuff.

Also, it is a combined shower with two other babies (one a grandbaby of a church member) so I kind of feel like we'd be stretching people's budgets and maybe stealing the spotlight...

And with the baby coming around Christmas time, we might just get a bunch of baby stuff from friends and family already.

My husband says he's happy either way and he's gone fishing with his Dad for the weekend and so now I have to decide by myself before Sunday.

Any thoughts? Suggestions?

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I thought you were debating actually TAKING a shower, which I can relate to because I'd like to shower but I'm waaaaaaaaaaaaay too tired. Anyway, back to the topic at hand...

hmm I don't know! I think it would be hard to be invited to a shower and have to bring three gifts! You could easily be spending 30-40 bucks. If you are worried about money, what if you made it like a potluck get together. I don't know if there is someone orchestrating this, but maybe that person could just ask for 5 dollars from everyone to make each mom a basket with some diapers and a few things?

Or you could just graciously decline if you don't want to go Smile

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Girt cards rock and if that is what they all put in for that would be very helpful in welcoming your new baby. Wink

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Maybe accept on the condition that it's made clear you prefer just a pack of diapers instead of other baby stuff. I think we are going to do a "diaper shower" as we have all the big stuff that baby will need other than his car seat. It's an option.

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I like the diaper shower idea. If people want to be nice and include you in the shower, I personally wouldn't say no.

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"_Jessicah_" wrote:

Maybe accept on the condition that it's made clear you prefer just a pack of diapers instead of other baby stuff. I think we are going to do a "diaper shower" as we have all the big stuff that baby will need other than his car seat. It's an option.

This all the way! Just let them know that you would be honored if they did that for you, as long as yours was just a diaper shower, as you don't need anything else. My mom and her best friend are throwing mine for me and that's what we're doing!

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"JuneorJulyBaby?" wrote:

I like the diaper shower idea. If people want to be nice and include you in the shower, I personally wouldn't say no.

Agreed. Or if you do decide to skip it then people that want to give you a gift will do so anyway.

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I also agree with the diaper shower idea. That way you don't seem a little rude or ungrateful by denying (not that you really would all that much anyway), but you're not stretching people to bring three gifts!

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Good idea girls. I decided to accept the offer only because I appreciate that they all want to celebrate with us.

And I asked the organizers to encourage either no gifts or diapers. They have some super-cute artist series bum genius diapers that I really like (and put on my amazon wish list), but I won't get my hopes up.

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I think its nice that you accepted.

Where I live its just common to have multiple baby showers. I do feel a little weird having a shower for my 2nd and especially when they are so close together, however, the invitees are the ones to decide if they come or not. So whether I have 1 person show up or 10, they want to be there. When is the shower? Take lots of pictures!

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Well, the shower at my church was today:) And it was lovely because it's so nice to have so many people that care about us.

I didn't really have time to take pictures. We got someone to take a family picture after it was all over and I'm sure someone took plenty of pictures and we'll get copies.

The diaper thing didn't work at all. We didn't get any diapers. A couple of small cash gifts and one gift certificate.

I think we got less gifts than the other two babies (which is what I wanted), but I can't really be sure.

Of course, the few toys that we got my 2 year old Corinna wants to claim for herself.

It is a little frustrating that we got so many clothes and very few things with gift receipts so we'll probably be donating or consigning a bunch of stuff. I think I'll hang onto stuff until Christmas in case there's a needy family with a baby for the Giving Tree...

The biggest frustration, though, is that even though we didn't really need any of it, now I've got twenty some Thank You notes to write. Argh.

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"**tess**" wrote:

Well, the shower at my church was today:) And it was lovely because it's so nice to have so many people that care about us.

I didn't really have time to take pictures. We got someone to take a family picture after it was all over and I'm sure someone took plenty of pictures and we'll get copies.

The diaper thing didn't work at all. We didn't get any diapers. A couple of small cash gifts and one gift certificate.

I think we got less gifts than the other two babies (which is what I wanted), but I can't really be sure.

Of course, the few toys that we got my 2 year old Corinna wants to claim for herself.

It is a little frustrating that we got so many clothes and very few things with gift receipts so we'll probably be donating or consigning a bunch of stuff. I think I'll hang onto stuff until Christmas in case there's a needy family with a baby for the Giving Tree...

The biggest frustration, though, is that even though we didn't really need any of it, now I've got twenty some Thank You notes to write. Argh.

Ha - I completely understand this! I do not like writing thank you cards at all and spent a good part of my day doing it yesterday. I have to do them immediately or I will put it off too long and never do it.

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I'm glad you had a nice time at the party!

I know, thank yous are unfortunately feeling like such a chore right now. But once you get going with each one it's kind of nice. I need to pressure my boyfriend to finish the rest next weekend. I don't want to embarrass myself with trying to write the ones that need to be in Spanish.

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That's too bad. People just like buying clothes so much I guess! When they outgrow them so fast! If there are tags, maybe some of the stores will give you store credit for them.

Sounds like a nice shower though.