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Ok, so I know it's probably more common for men to buy gifts for their wives who just gave birth, but I really want to do something special for my DH to celebrate the arrival of our little one. He has been so incredibly patient and wonderful with me all through this pregnancy and I want to do something special to let him know how much I appreciate him. Anyone have any ideas? I seem to be at a loss. I mean, I can write a sentimental card like nobody's business, but that just doesn't seem like enough.

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Oh this is such a good idea. My DH deserves something too. I am going to think on it...I will post back when I come up with something Smile

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I have been thinking of the same thing. And I'm actually bummed b/c I know Ed won't even acknowledge my hard work. *rolling eyes*

What about something to do w/ his hobbies or something? What does he like? What makes him an individual?

For instance, when we found out we were having this LO I got Ed a pretty pricey book regarding Moto GP. He is really into motorcycle racing. I told him that I didn't want him to lose himself when we become a family.

Some women will give their husbands utility belts w/ baby stuff. =/ Or what about his own baby bag that he can use for Evelyn, but when you give it to him it can be filled w/ things more dedicated to him?

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"lesleynka" wrote:

I have been thinking of the same thing. And I'm actually bummed b/c I know Ed won't even acknowledge my hard work. *rolling eyes*

This! I've casually mentioned "push gifts" to him before but he don't even flinch. His gift to me is going home to watch DS while I am at the hospital - LOL!

What about a sweet Daddy frame that you can later add your Lo's picture too? He can put it on his night stand or on his desk at work. At first my Dh would have been like "oh great, let the dad gifts begin" like that was lame, but after DS got here he really changed. Now if you go to his office its filled with pictures of DS and framed artwork that Deacon does at daycare. He couldn't be more proud.

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I would be so touched if he got me something! I was hoping he would with Luke. A little necklace or something that id always remember from that day... But I want him to think of something like that on his own, not because I asked.

How about a watch, or cuff links?

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"Carolyn85" wrote:

I would be so touched if he got me something! I was hoping he would with Luke. A little necklace or something that id always remember from that day... But I want him to think of something like that on his own, not because I asked.

I feel the same as you Carolyn. I don't think we are getting it though. =/ I'll get you one if you get me one. lol.....

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"Jenn0113" wrote:

This! I've casually mentioned "push gifts" to him before but he don't even flinch. His gift to me is going home to watch DS while I am at the hospital - LOL!

What about a sweet Daddy frame that you can later add your Lo's picture too? He can put it on his night stand or on his desk at work. At first my Dh would have been like "oh great, let the dad gifts begin" like that was lame, but after DS got here he really changed. Now if you go to his office its filled with pictures of DS and framed artwork that Deacon does at daycare. He couldn't be more proud.

This is so my DH (the part about the "dad gifts") I think the picture frame is a good idea. That's what I'm gonna go shopping for this afternoon Smile

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"lesleynka" wrote:

I told him that I didn't want him to lose himself when we become a family.

I really like this sentiment. He was 40 when we got married and it's his first marriage (and first child), so I know he's set in his ways to a certain extent and I definitely want him to feel like he's still his own person, even though I know he is going to be a wonderful family man. Great ideas from everybody...keep 'em coming.

Incidentally, I probably won't be getting a gift either. We've already talked about not exchanging Christmas gifts and I am in charge of the finances, so he would have to let me know if he was planning to spend any significant amount of money...kind of ruins the surprise.

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"mlle_carrie" wrote:

We've already talked about not exchanging Christmas gifts and I am in charge of the finances, so he would have to let me know if he was planning to spend any significant amount of money...kind of ruins the surprise.

we've talked about the same thing too. We budget really carefully and our finances are all joint, so there's literally no way to surprise each other...we talked about setting a $100 limit each or something, but then that just seemed kinda weird and almost like giving a gift for the sake of giving a gift? Kinda sad I guess :confused:

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I plan on taking 8x10 cardboard stock paper and having DH hand and then in the center of his a print of Connor's. I'm going to frame it and have it for him to take to his office. I'm also making one for his Mom for Christmas too.

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This actually never crossed my mind about buying gifts for each other for having a bay.

To me, the baby that comes is a gifts to both of us- we become parents again to a baby we made together. Nothing more special then that. I don't expect anything- I think he did bring me flowers after dd and ds, which is thoughtful enough for me as I didn't expect anything. The joy we will share that day is a special feeling that no gift could ever beat.

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"shankay" wrote:

I think he did bring me flowers after dd and ds, which is thoughtful enough for me as I didn't expect anything.

Simple & sweet!

I can't wait to share this moment w/ Ed. I'm expecting to cry the first time I see him holding his baby girl.

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"shankay" wrote:

This actually never crossed my mind about buying gifts for each other for having a bay.

To me, the baby that comes is a gifts to both of us- we become parents again to a baby we made together. Nothing more special then that. I don't expect anything- I think he did bring me flowers after dd and ds, which is thoughtful enough for me as I didn't expect anything. The joy we will share that day is a special feeling that no gift could ever beat.

I agree with this too. For me, the greatest gift I could receive is the baby that we've created and I certainly don't expect anything from my DH except for him to be there holding my hand through the delivery and loving his daughter as much as I do.

At the same time, I think that one of the reasons couples don't stay together anymore is because they take one another for granted and don't show appreciation for each other. People are always wondering what their spouse can do to make them happy instead of thinking about their spouse's happiness. My DH has been wonderful to me through all of this and I know I am blessed to have him. Not everyone can say the same. I try to thank him every day for everything he does around the house (cooking, dishes, laundry, bringing me anything I ask for). No gift I buy at the store could really express how thankful I am, but that doesn't stop me from wanting to find a way to show him how much it means to me.

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"mlle_carrie" wrote:

At the same time, I think that one of the reasons couples don't stay together anymore is because they take one another for granted and don't show appreciation for each other. People are always wondering what their spouse can do to make them happy instead of thinking about their spouse's happiness. My DH has been wonderful to me through all of this and I know I am blessed to have him. Not everyone can say the same. I try to thank him every day for everything he does around the house (cooking, dishes, laundry, bringing me anything I ask for). No gift I buy at the store could really express how thankful I am, but that doesn't stop me from wanting to find a way to show him how much it means to me.

:clappy: So true!

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What about something for the baby that has to do with something he does as a hobby? Or tickets for him and a friend to something he would like to see/do but wouldn't ask for because of the baby?

I got our LO a Star Wars onesie and the Robot Chicken set of Star Wars shows for DH and gave both to him together a little while after we found out. Nothing super special but he loves Star Wars and has already said he can't wait until she is old enough to watch the original movies with him so I think it was a perfect gift for the situation.