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Super upset/pissed (non baby related)

So for a few years now I've wanted to have my son Maximus tested for autism/asperbers syndrome, but have put it off because I don't want him to be "labeled" by anyone. Don't get me wrong, if he does have one of these problems, it's at the very end of the spectrum, as his symptoms are miniscule. He's highly intelligent, but just has some behavioral problems that are especially coming out now that he's in school all day and around others besides family. So in keeping with trying to make a long story short, this year, by the grace of God, he was put with a wonderful teacher. I'm telling you girls, she is a blessing, and is so wonderful and patient with him. She used to nanny for a child that had a slight form of autism, and recognized some of his signs right away. Since school started she has been very open in communication with us on ways she's helping him in class, from rubbing his back to calm him down (he rocks and hums without knowing it sometimes) to getting him a squishy stress release ball to hold in class during reading times to keep him calm. She is just the most amazing teacher I've ever met, and I couldn't be happier. Well, yesterday when I showed up at school to pick up my boys and I ask her (as I always do) how he did, she started crying. Turns out, her and another teacher have been let go (not fired, but are being transfered to another school... because they were the last hired so they're the first fired) and I am furious. I hate hate HATE this "last hired, first fired" rule, I think it's absolutely ridiculous. I know for a fact that there are teachers in that school that couldn't care less about the kids, and think that they all should fit in to this "cookie cutter" make believe child form that all behave the same and are smart. My oldest child is fine with a teacher like this, because he's very bright and always makes straight As, behaves perfectly... no issues. But every child is different, and some kids are born with behavioral issues that they just can't help, and so many teachers just label these kids, like my Max, as the "trouble-makers." I started crying right there with her, telling her that I wanted to go and scream at the principal, the school district, and anyone else that had anything to do with what happened to her. I can't believe that this is happening, that my son who has fallen in love with his teacher the past 6 weeks of school is going to have his class split up and just shoved onto another teacher that knows nothing about the work that we have been doing with Max to get him comfortable in the classroom. I'm seeing red I'm so pissed off about this, and more about the fact that there's nothing that I can do about it. DH called the school district superintendent and spoke with them a little bit yesterday, but they said that these are administrative calls (the principal at the school) and that the best thing to do is to talk to them. So he made an appt with the principal for Monday morning. I'm sure it won't do one bit of good, but at least we can get our points made... that we are outraged that something like this could happen, and how we do not want her moved anywhere else. This November there is a new question on the ballot that supports letting go the "bad" teachers first, no matter how long they've been employed, instead of the first hired. And like I said, it's not like any of them are fired, just moved around (which I think is ridiculous as well, if they are consistantly bad and not teaching the students anything, just freaking fire them!!! Sorry, that's a whole other debate entirely...). I'm sorry this is so long, but I can't believe this is happening, especially to my six year old first grader who needs Mrs. Aguirre.

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I'm sorry that he has to be moved to another teacher, especially after you guys have had the experience of a great teacher. I hate the last hired/first fired rule too. My Dh works for an oil and gas company and they are ALWAYS talking about mergers and layoffs, since the day he started. Its just common in that industry. You have no idea how stressful it is when we wonder if he will be let go because he was the new guy. Fortunately now he has seniority. But I totally agree, you need to look at the performance and reviews when doing layoffs, not hire dates. This stupid policy just makes it easier on the higher ups that don't have to make any hard decisions. They are told to let X amount of people go and they start at the bottom, count up and start handing out pink slips. They SHOULD start reviews and make the real decisions that would be best for the company (school). Why let an amazing employee go just to keep a slacker that has fallen under the radar for longer?!

I hope your husband's meeting with the principle does some good.

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Oh Krystal, I am so super sorry that you & your family are going through this right now. I have been around people w/ learning disabilities/behavior differences my whole life & completely agree w/ what you are saying.

I hope that it works out as well as it can & I think it's great that you are fighting so hard even though you think it won't cause a change.

KUP on how monday goes & what the principal says.

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I'm sorry Krystal, my education is in helping children with different needs and I worked with several wonderful teachers and I agree the first hired is completely outdated. I think too many times people rush to get a label on a child and it follows them for the rest of their life. I hope your son can get another teacher who will be able to help him without putting a label on him.

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This post made me so mad for you and so sad for your little boy!!! I agree, first hired first fired is a RIDICULOUS rule! Sad I hope there is something, anything that can be done after your appointment on Monday! KUP.

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OMG!! Your post made my momma bear come out!!!!!!! I would be so Pi$$ed too!!!
How can they do that this time of year???? It's one thing to move teachers before the school year begins, but at the beginning???

My little guy has auditory processing disorder and is on an IEP. so I know how you feel having to switch him like this!! If my son has the wrong teacher he can be "labeled" as not listening or paying attention. So we are very careful those who are in authority over him (teachers/coaches/babysitters) understand his hearing issues up front.

Poor Max! Poor mommy!! I am so sorry this happened! Good for your hubby for talking with them, even if it does nothing, they should get an earful! Why were they so unorganized that they did not make these types of changes BEFORE school started???

And I agree the bad teachers need to go!

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I'm sorry to hear this Sad My nephew has ADHD and it takes a very understanding teacher to be able to work with him. It's so hard when your child is "labeled" and that's exactly what happens. I am sorry this teacher who has obviously been so amazing with your son is being taken away from him. I wonder if there is anyway the teacher can speak with his new teacher and let her know the therapies she has used that have been so vital with your son. Or maybe you and your husband can sit down with the principal and new teacher and tell them exactly what you expect from them since they are taking his current teacher away. I'd make sure they know you aren't going to put up with sub-par education.

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That is all super frustrating. I don't know if this is even an option there, but do they do those vouchers, or whatever they are called, to allow you to transfer your child to any school in the area? Might be worth moving him with her if it is available... So sorry to hear this!

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The reason for the whole last hired/ first fired rule is so that they don't tick off the teacher unions and groups. In most states, a teacher does not have continuing Contract status until after year three. Until then, you are at the mercy of the system. (And sometime's even after that!) It is to help protect the older teachers who make more money, so they don;t get fired for thier rate of pay.

As for firing the 'bad' teachers first.... well don't get me started..... If all teachers got classes that were equally proficient in every subject and skill at the beginning of the year, then I might be able to see it. But, when some teachers get whole classes of kids who are below grade level by years, and others get all the gifted kids, it is hard to tell who the 'good' teacher really is....

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KUP after your DH's meeting today!