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Thanksgiving

My family has decided to come stay at my house for Thanksgiving. Literally yesterday!!!!!!! I really did not want to clean my house more! I really want to be able to wake up at 3:45am if that is what I need to do. I told them no and they are asking again. So of course I have to say yes....DH will not let me say otherwise. Sigh! A packed house for about 4-5 days. I wish I could go stay in a hotel! They are making the excuse that they want to "help" get the house ready for the baby. Well in a lot of ways that is true because I have to clean just to have them over.

Sorry for the whining session. I am so tired and cranky Wink Poor me!

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It sounds like you're going to have to ACTUALLY get their help. What worked for me was to write up the giant list of everything. When people come over they know they're getting some duties to take care of. "Hi! Empty the dishwasher." "Good to see you! Sweep the kitchen."

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Not a bad idea! I will work on my list while I work on the house. I am sure if I did not have 3 other kids this would be so much easier. Also my mom staying at my house and she is not neat by any means I clean after her all day long.

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It's so hard to put your foot down to family but is there any way they can shorten their stay? I like Sheila's idea of a long list and I wouldn't worry about cleaning besides making sure the bathrooms are clean and maybe run a vaccuum if it makes you feel better.

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Wow. I'd be mad as heck! Theirs be no way I'd be hosting thanksgiving even if they offer to help before baby gets here.

Well, if it's something you have to deal with, be sure to leave them lots to do!

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How many people are you talking about when you say family? I personally would have said no freaking way and if my DH insisted then I would have told him that he is responsible for every bit of the housework that I felt would have to be done before they arrived and for any messes they left while they were there. Do you think they will actually pitch in and help you get things ready?

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I am not hosting Thanksgiving....thank God! They will come Wed night and Leave Saturday. We will be going to a different house for dinner. It will be two people, plus my mom, three kids and me and DH. If I lived in a large amount of sq footage that would be fine but we are in about 1900 sq feet. NOT big enough IMO!

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When you said "family" I imagined at least 4 extra people! Two might not be too bad. Tell them to bring an air mattress and they will just have to camp out in your living room floor....lol

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Okay, so that is my problem, when I wake up at 4 which is when I wake up right now everyday, where will I go? I will have people sleeping in EVERY room in my house!

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Oh yeah, that is an issue.

We have an extra bed at our house in the babies' room and I've been making my friends stay in it together when they come over because I need to be able to move around the living room and kitchen in the middle of the night without having someone asleep on the couch.

Hmm ... I have no potential solutions to suggest. I hope something works out for you.

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"joyjim" wrote:

Okay, so that is my problem, when I wake up at 4 which is when I wake up right now everyday, where will I go? I will have people sleeping in EVERY room in my house!

I hear ya!

I would be mad too! It's tough sometimes with family to say no.

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Just give them fair warning that baby wakes you up at 4 am.

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I would be furious...and I would put them to WORK! If they are going to invite themselves (even after you declined), then they will just have to suck it up. This far along, none of us should be hosting long term guests!

I agree, I'd have a list of chores that need to be done to get the house ready for baby, and I would just tell them that you wake often in the night and TOO BAD if they don't like it. If it all inconveniences them, they can go find a hotel.

Yikes I sound really mean and I know they are family......but honestly! :confused:

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I would say that you wake up at 4am and that is when the day starts for you now. If they want to move to a different room (maybe the floor in your room?) they are welcome. If not, it will just be an early day for them too.

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Maybe they could sleep in one of the kids room in the floor? If you're comfortable with them being in the same room as your kid...lol

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Ugh ... I had someone over today being legitimately helpful for EIGHT HOURS and it just about killed me, I was so super annoyed. Anyway, I'm back to say, even if they're helpful, say no! I don't know about you, but I just want to be left freakin' ALONE right now!!!

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If your DH won't take no for an answer, then you tell him that he has to do all of the cleaning! How totally ridiculous!

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Well after my FB message they have decided to stay at my aunt's house for the week. They will come visit and hang out, but stay at my aunt's. Huge sigh of relief!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I want to see them, but ummmm I have been in my livingroom since 4 this am. There is no way I could have just stayed in my bed. Anyway crisis averted!!!

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That's great they're going to stay elsewhere! That would have been annoying.

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I'm glad to hear they decided to stay at your Aunts house.

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Oh good!

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So glad to hear it!

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**happy dance**

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YAY!!! Glad to hear!