For Those PG After Loss

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_Jessicah_'s picture
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For Those PG After Loss

We lost a baby in early August last year at about 4-5 weeks. With every little cramp or twinge I get with this baby I start to get feelings of anxiety and worry that it's happening again. I know that its totally normal to worry about this after you've experienced losing a pregnancy. How do you guys cope with this? I think once I get past these first few weeks I will be able to relax. Right now I just grab myself a bottled water to hydrate myself, prop my feet up, and take some deep breaths for about 10 minutes or so. I just hate feeling so afraid and worrying about every little thing. It's conflicting feelings being so happy about something but being terrified that my happiness is going to get taken away. That just feels better getting that off my chest......

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First, I want to say that I am so sorry for your loss.

I have never experienced a loss, but I can relate to the feeling of having it all taken away. This is my first pregnancy and it took me 6 years and a lot of heartache to get here, so part of me is definitely worried in the back of my mind that it will all be over tomorrow and I will be back at square one. Mostly I just try to remind myself that it is in God's hands (hope not to offend here) and that we will get through anything that comes at us and I try to focus on how happy I am in this moment, right now. I know that isn't always easy to do, but it sounds like you already have some good relaxation techniques in place.

Sending lots of sticky baby vibes and hoping you'll be feeling better soon.

Starryblue702's picture
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I have never m/c but I know what you mean about feeling nervous with any cramps you may have. I have had more cramps with this baby (#4 for me!) than with any of my others, so it's made me wonder. Just remember that as long as they're not too horrible and there's no bleeding that it's perfectly normal to have cramps. That's just your body adjusting to your newly growing uterus! Congrats to you and welcome to December!

_Jessicah_'s picture
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Thanks ladies! And Carrie I take no offense at all to that comment about this being in God's hands. When I start to feel myself get anxious I just say a little prayer that He helps me get through it and I know that no matter what happens, it was meant for it to happen. Thank you for the encouragement and kind words.

JuneorJulyBaby?'s picture
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I've never had a loss but I just want to give you ladies a :bigarmhug:

Unfortunately, I know a handfull of ladies that have had losses and that makes me paranoid too. I just try and take care of myself as best as I can for the baby so I know I did everything I could do.

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I had a loss last August, too. I am SO NERVOUS about another one. Last time around my body showed no signs of me having a loss. I had a tiny bit of spotting early on, but my hcg levels were fine. I went in for my first u/s at 8w1d and the baby had stopped growing the week before and there was no heartbeat.

I was sick up until a few days ago. This is the third day in a row I haven't thrown up and I'm really nervous about it. I just don't understand how I can be pregnant and not sick. I know it happens to some people, but I was SO SICK with my son, and sick right up until I passed the baby that I miscarried. So now I'm so sure that something is wrong. I go next week for an u/s and I am praying we get good news. I haven't been able to get very excited at all this pregnancy because I'm worrying about all of the what-if's.

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I know how you feel Ashley!! I have not been sick at all with this baby. But MS with my daughter didn't hit until 8 weeks. But I "feel" pregnant if that makes sense. I am just taking this one day at a time.

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"AshnBill" wrote:

I had a loss last August, too. I am SO NERVOUS about another one. Last time around my body showed no signs of me having a loss. I had a tiny bit of spotting early on, but my hcg levels were fine. I went in for my first u/s at 8w1d and the baby had stopped growing the week before and there was no heartbeat.

I was sick up until a few days ago. This is the third day in a row I haven't thrown up and I'm really nervous about it. I just don't understand how I can be pregnant and not sick. I know it happens to some people, but I was SO SICK with my son, and sick right up until I passed the baby that I miscarried. So now I'm so sure that something is wrong. I go next week for an u/s and I am praying we get good news. I haven't been able to get very excited at all this pregnancy because I'm worrying about all of the what-if's.

I've read a lot of articles that actually associate severe morning sickness with misscarriage. They say that's a bad sign if you're overly sick all of the time, which was probably your case last time around. Don't worry at all. I'm one of the small percentile that NEVER have morning sickness. This is my fourth baby and not only have I never thrown up during a pregnancy I've never even been nausious (knock on wood lol!). You and baby are going to be just fine! Dirol

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"Starryblue702" wrote:

I've read a lot of articles that actually associate severe morning sickness with misscarriage. They say that's a bad sign if you're overly sick all of the time, which was probably your case last time around. Don't worry at all. I'm one of the small percentile that NEVER have morning sickness. This is my fourth baby and not only have I never thrown up during a pregnancy I've never even been nausious (knock on wood lol!). You and baby are going to be just fine! Dirol

Thanks for the reassurance Smile It's nice to hear that not being sick can be totally normal.