Today's appt. with new MW

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sugspop's picture
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Today's appt. with new MW

Hmmm, I don't know where to start or what to really say. She is pretty new to midwifery. I asked her about it and she said "no, I've been nursing for the last two years because I couldn't find a job in MW, and just moved here 4 months ago and started at these clinics." So even though she said no, clearly she is new to midwifery. I'm not sure she has ever delivered a baby! Not that I should hold that against her, you gotta start somewhere, but I don't want to be her first! Nooooo thanks. She seems like a really sweet young lady, and I mean young... she looks really young... but her personality came off timid and not very confident, and that didn't make me feel great either.

So I asked her what was going on with my midwife. She said she is having personal problems but should be back in a few weeks. Sucks. It is cutting it close if you ask me! I feel pretty uncomfortable about the whole thing, but since my pregnancy is going fine and I don't really have any issues, I guess it doesn't really matter if I see this new MW for a couple more prenatal appointments. It is unlikely she will be at my delivery anyway, and I sure hope that if she was they would put a more seniored MW with her to oversee it all. I guess I can always ask for someone else if it comes down to the delivery and she is there on call. I'm not even sure what protocol is for putting new MW's on call...

I'm not happy about it all, but I'm not sure there is anything I should or could do.

In baby news, I'm still measuring a couple of weeks ahead. After hearing Krystal's news, I was probing her on the baby being big and all that jazz, and even though she doesn't think it is amniotic fluid, she isn't worried. My son consistently measured 2 weeks ahead too, and I had him at 38 weeks but he was only 6 lbs 13 oz, so I'm not going to worry over that.

BP is good, baby's butt is pointing out and head is still down in the pelvis. I really think I only have about 4 weeks left, so now it is starting to feel like it is going fast! And my weight, well, whatever, it is fine. I will still probably be under 40 total even if I went to 40 weeks, so whaaaatever! Wink Now I am on to every week

OHHH, I also asked her about the GBS and if you can take anything to help get a negative result. She said no, it is bacteria that is in your anus and sometimes gets in your vagina and there is nothing you can do to prevent it or kill it off, like with probiotics. I assume they do a vaginal swab for this test? I can't remember. Anyway, I'll get it at 36 weeks.

So here we gooooo! Weeeee!

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I would probably feel the same way you are feeling after that appt, but it sounds like it is all pretty much under control & that is great!!

You seem to be satisfied & happy w/ the way things are going! Good for you Jules!! I can't believe how close you are!

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I think I would feel the same way!! I saw a resident once for an appointment. She didn't look a day out of high school, plus she was maybe 80 pounds and not even 5 feet tall. She looked like a child. It was strange. Plus she was REEEEEEEALLY hyper!!!

Call me old fashioned but I am way happier with someone well over 40 lol. Especially if they seem timid.

I hope you get someone you are more comfortable with for the birth. The GBS swab is vaginal and rectal. I asked my midwife about it... more like probed! She said in theory sex could affect it if your partner has GBS as part of their normal bacteria, but they don't recommend abstinence because if your partner has it you could contract it again anytime after the swab and before the birth. Interesting!

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I wonder if you can call the manager of the MW office with your concerns with the new MW and her seeming inexperience. I would be concerned too. I'm sure she capable but it would be nice to know if there is a more senior MW to assist at least.

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I would hate this part:

her personality came off timid and not very confident, and that didn't make me feel great either.

We saw a dr with DS at the ER and he was like that. I had no confidence in him. He acted scared to be talking to us, the parents. I hope she isn't on call when you go into labor and if so I hope someone else is with her.

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I'm sorry your appt with the new MW didn't go as you had hoped. I would definitely voice your concerns to whoever is in charge there and let them know how important this whole experience is to you (like you should even need to remind them!) and that you don't want her by herself. I'm with you on the measuring ahead! I'm just hoping that I'll have him around 38 weeks (which would put me in the vacinity of the 22nd, which is where they're trying to move my date anyway)!!

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I am also getting a new Dr. I meet him next visit, in two weeks . I am nervous. I hope you find someone you are confident in.

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Sorry you didn't click as well with the MW as you had hoped. Is there anyone else there you can voice your concerns too? I mean if she seems nervous by just talking with you how comfortable is she delivering a baby!

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"PAmom2boys" wrote:

I wonder if you can call the manager of the MW office with your concerns with the new MW and her seeming inexperience. I would be concerned too. I'm sure she capable but it would be nice to know if there is a more senior MW to assist at least.

I totally agree with this. It would be nice to know you could get some better support during labour, and for me I know it would ease a lot of anxiety leading up to it. I'm sorry it didn't go better for you!

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Bumber about the MW changes! That would bother me too.

Scary to think only 4-weeks! :yikes:

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"sugspop" wrote:

I feel pretty uncomfortable about the whole thing, but since my pregnancy is going fine and I don't really have any issues, I guess it doesn't really matter if I see this new MW for a couple more prenatal appointments. It is unlikely she will be at my delivery anyway, and I sure hope that if she was they would put a more seniored MW with her to oversee it all. I guess I can always ask for someone else if it comes down to the delivery and she is there on call. I'm not even sure what protocol is for putting new MW's on call...

I'm not happy about it all, but I'm not sure there is anything I should or could do.

!

You have the right to have or not have anyone you want in the delivery room with you. Of course, if there is no else around then you have quite a decision to make. You are delivering in a hospital, right? I can tell you that the nurses are generally VERY experienced, and many of them have delivered countless babies on thier own, due to doc being tied up, etc.... so I am sure you will be in good hands, no matter what! Smile

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How bizarre.

I'm giving birth at a birth center again, and I generally go with the student midwives. They're not allowed to practice unsupervised, so there's always an experienced midwife available; they need to get a certain number of births under their belts before they're allowed to "graduate"; and then there's the testing on top of it before they're allowed to go off and practice unsupervised and independently. With DS1, I had two student mw's and the birth center's main mw present to help us with the actual birth.

Maybe things are different in TX than in NM? Don't know... but in TX, there's no way a mw can be a mw with no experience and no clue. Hopefully things go back to normal for you! Good luck!

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"midori_" wrote:

How bizarre.

I'm giving birth at a birth center again, and I generally go with the student midwives. They're not allowed to practice unsupervised, so there's always an experienced midwife available; they need to get a certain number of births under their belts before they're allowed to "graduate"; and then there's the testing on top of it before they're allowed to go off and practice unsupervised and independently. With DS1, I had two student mw's and the birth center's main mw present to help us with the actual birth.

Maybe things are different in TX than in NM? Don't know... but in TX, there's no way a mw can be a mw with no experience and no clue. Hopefully things go back to normal for you! Good luck!

Maybe that is how it works here? It sounds like the best way to go... I mean a hairdresser can't become a hairdresser without actually cutting and coloring people's hair before graduating, so I would hope they do that for all midwifery programs nationwide, but I'm just not sure if the policies vary.

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