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I think I have one of those babies who may need to co-sleep :eek:
I have no idea on how to safely co-sleep & it scares me a little.

Jonah has been sleeping no more than 3-hour stretches in his crib and the past few nights when we lay him in his crib asleep, he wakes up after a few minutes fired up! I'm the only one who can soothe him too. Last night, after trying to get him to sleep for 3-hours, I put him in bed with me. He was out in an instant! DH tried to move him after an hour and Jonah let him have it until he put him back with me.

Well.....the kid slept 7-hours straight last night :eek:AND I had to wake him up to eat and he was so relaxed that I didn't have to use the nipple shield because he didn't clamp down on me. He also didn't scream bloody murder when we were changing him. His sleep was very calm and relaxed, too.

DS never co-slept with us and was always fine in his crib. I'm the kind of mom where I think everyone should do what works for their family but I have no experience with co-sleeping. I worry that it's not safe for him. I think Jonah is just that kind of kid who loves being with mamma! I usually wear him during the day and he is in heaven!

Anyone have any experience with this? Thoughts?

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I co-slept w/ Violet & am willing to do the same w/ this LO if that's what she needs. First I am going to try to have a sleeper right by the bed. I'm crossing my fingers that she will sleep in it.

I understand your concern for safety. My husband worked nights w/ Violet so we had the bed to ourselves. This time I will be more concerned b/c Ed will be there w/ us.

Have you looked it up?

What I did was I just bundled her up in a sleeper bag, footsie, etc just like I would w/ her in a crib & then I didn't use any blanket w/ her. I would have my own blanket, but didn't share it w/ her. I think mothers have an instinct w/ their babies that keep them safe.

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"lesleynka" wrote:

I co-slept w/ Violet & am willing to do the same w/ this LO if that's what she needs. First I am going to try to have a sleeper right by the bed. I'm crossing my fingers that she will sleep in it.

I understand your concern for safety. My husband worked nights w/ Violet so we had the bed to ourselves. This time I will be more concerned b/c Ed will be there w/ us.

Have you looked it up?

What I did was I just bundled her up in a sleeper bag, footsie, etc just like I would w/ her in a crib & then I didn't use any blanket w/ her. I would have my own blanket, but didn't share it w/ her. I think mothers have an instinct w/ their babies that keep them safe.

What type of sleeper did you use? Does it attach to the bed?

Yes, I have been looking it up, as I did when DS was little. It sounds like it can be done safely just like cribs can be done unsafely.

As far as the instincts go, you are 100% right. I knew where he was all night. I'm actually pretty for it, but DH is really afraid he'll roll over on him.

Thanks for sharing your advice! After seeing how much this helped Jonah, I really think it may be best for all of us.

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The sleeper we are HOPING she will use is a pack & play w/ an infant sleeper. We will have it right by the bed & hopefully she will go for it. They are all so different in their personalities so it's hard to know what you're going to get.

I think I will make sure I am in the middle & the LO is on the outside. That may mean that dad has to get up & go to the other side of the bed a few times a night as you change breasts.

It is tricky & nerve-wrecking when the LO's are still so small. It gets to be easier as they become a little bigger & you all adjust to it.

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I agree with Lesley, I think we have an instinct that makes us sleep differently. I prefer cosleeping, but DD did not. Malachi seems to be interested so today we will be buying a sleep nest, they have them at Target. I like them until the baby is a bit bigger. DH sleeps very deep on this shift. He is up at 4:30 and it worries me. So that is why we are buying the sleeper. I have been holding him every night so far, with my arm propped up on my maternity pillow.

Don't worry. I do really believe that it is more natural to cosleep than put the baby in another room. Anyway all that goes out the door if you are taking drugs or drinking IMO. Even pain pills make me nervous.

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The way I do it is.. I sleep on my side with my arm out and baby in/on the crook of my arm/elbow. I can NOT roll over on baby with my arm under his head. I feel much more safe that way. It works for me. I don't put any blanket on him. He has a sleep sack. We both sleep better this way. I do agree that it is much easier when they aren't so tiny.

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"gaidinsgirl" wrote:

The way I do it is.. I sleep on my side with my arm out and baby in/on the crook of my arm/elbow. I can NOT roll over on baby with my arm under his head. I feel much more safe that way. It works for me. I don't put any blanket on him. He has a sleep sack. We both sleep better this way. I do agree that it is much easier when they aren't so tiny.

yep, this is what I did last night and it worked pretty well.

He is definitely a co-sleeper! Last night DH & I put the bassinet next to my side of the bed, put him in and did our best to soothe him to sleep in there. He was so stressed! He chomped his binki and was clenching his jaw and whimpering. So we placed him next to me and in seconds he was out for the night! He only got up once because DS is sick and came in our room. He nursed and fell back to sleep quickly.

This will be tough to get used to I think but will be better. DH is not a big fan thought, he wants to transition him to his crib asap!

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We had our daughter in a bassinet beside our bed and intend to do the same with Ryan. I just couldn't imagine putting my newborn in another room to sleep. I am glad you are finding something that works for you guys.

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It's great it's working for you Amy. You should make your dh a deal.....Jonah will sleep in his crib as long as dh gets up whenever he cries & whenever it's time for him to go back after feeding.

I think he would come to love co-sleeping quickly.

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"lesleynka" wrote:

It's great it's working for you Amy. You should make your dh a deal.....Jonah will sleep in his crib as long as dh gets up whenever he cries & whenever it's time for him to go back after feeding.

I think he would come to love co-sleeping quickly.

ROFL GREAT idea!

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Arms Reach Mini or the regular size, attach to your bed so babe is literally right next to you without actually being in bed with you. http://www.armsreach.com/pages/mini-co-sleeper-assembly-instructions-pv-c10-18.html I highly suggest not buying from them directly if you choose this option. I got mine off CL for 50 (:

You can also buy mini beds for your adult bed. This is what we did with DD. She loved to co-sleep but DH was so nervous of smushing her he hardly slept. There are a lot of brands out there. http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=11537901 Again you can find this cheaper other places but this is an example.

They also make cosleep pack n plays. Graco and Baby Trend. Graco is def the cheaper option and works from NB to Toddler. http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3572949 We had one with DD when she decided she wasnt a fan of the arms reach. We just bought another since we sold hers from target [cheapest place we have found them besides CL] on sale for 90!

Good luck on your co-sleeping adventure!

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Thanks for the links. After reading Joy's post I looked up sleep nests and ended up buying the one you linked from baby'srus. We'll try it tonight!

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I just wanted to add that I really like the co-sleeper. It's great. But really, your baby sleeps 3 hours in a row regularly?!?!???? Mine didn't get that memo.

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"triplespiral" wrote:

I just wanted to add that I really like the co-sleeper. It's great. But really, your baby sleeps 3 hours in a row regularly?!?!???? Mine didn't get that memo.

lol, mine got the memo, but he misunderstood. He has no trouble sleeping 3 hours during the day, but at night it is 1.5 hours.

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I used this co-sleeper with DS and I am using it with Mayleigh too: http://www.armsreach.com/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=3_1&products_id=19&zenid=cbd2144f168863fec5ef1a32f635ebbc

She sleeps in it at least 1x during the day. That is my goal. Otherwise she sleeps in the Maclaren or the swing.

When I first got home from the hospital, it was easier and we all slept better with her in the bed. Since I got my BP under control, I've been working on getting her to sleep the longest stretches of the night in the cosleeper or the swing, and we co-sleep for a few hours each night. She is having a lot of gas and spit up issues, so unless I want to stay up with her for an hour in the middle of the night after a feeding, she can't get comfortable laying flat on her back in the co-sleeper; so I have been putting her in the swing. It keeps her somewhat upright and reduces the gas issues, and she isn't sleeping with me the whole time. I don't mind some co-sleeping, but I don't want it to become an issue down the road so I want her to sleep independently as much as possible.

7 hours is amazing!! She goes 2-3 hour stretches in the bed, co sleeper or swing. Luckily she doesn't seem to have awake periods in the middle of the night, but she does wake up to feed and change her diaper etc. In a 9 hour stretch, from around 10pm to 8 am, she is up around 4 times, but not awake if that makes sense. I think that is pretty good! I'm a terrible night parent but I'm doing my best.

Preg.org actually put an article up on FB just the other day about safe co-sleeping: http://www.pregnancy.org/article/co-sleeping-making-it-work-and-safe, and most families do it including the entire Sears family. It's natural! I plan to keep her in my room in the co-sleeper or otherwise until around 6 months. I plan to not have her in my bed at all around 2 months if possible, although with breastfeeding sometimes I will bring her to bed to feed and fall asleep. Anywho, this worked with DS so I plan to do something similar with her and hope to have her sleeping through the night by 6 months. Smile

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I swore I wouldn't co-sleep with this one (I did w/DS1 because it was so much easier w/BFing) but alas, here we are again. She has no trouble sleeping in her bassinet during the day but at night she won't sleep more than 30 min in it before grunting and wiggling awake. We have a king size bed and I'm a light sleeper and DH is not a roll-around type of sleeper either, so I don't worry about safety but I might look at those sleep nests too. She slept 5 hours last night straight (co-sleeping) :eek: I am sooo not used to that. DS1 woke up every 2 hours.

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The sleep nest worked okay! He still wanted to be right next to me, but once he settled, I put him in it so I could rest and change positions as needed (still sore from my c-section). Past three nights he's been sleeping until I wake him up (about 6-8 hours). However this morning he was farting so loud it woke me up LOL! I figured his body was clearing things out for his next feeding so I better get up.

And yes, I guess I am kindof spoiled with my boys and their long sleep that 3-hours seemed too short. DS1 slept through the night (8-hours) in his crib at 2-weeks and never had any sleep issues. With him and Jonah we found super tight swaddling is the key to long sleep. And I am sure to feed him every 2-3 hours during the day to be sure he is good and full for the night.

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"fireflies11" wrote:

The sleep nest worked okay! He still wanted to be right next to me, but once he settled, I put him in it so I could rest and change positions as needed (still sore from my c-section). Past three nights he's been sleeping until I wake him up (about 6-8 hours). However this morning he was farting so loud it woke me up LOL! I figured his body was clearing things out for his next feeding so I better get up.

And yes, I guess I am kindof spoiled with my boys and their long sleep that 3-hours seemed too short. DS1 slept through the night (8-hours) in his crib at 2-weeks and never had any sleep issues. With him and Jonah we found super tight swaddling is the key to long sleep. And I am sure to feed him every 2-3 hours during the day to be sure he is good and full for the night.

Omg so jealous! I didn't get ds to sttn until 9 months and my goal with this one is 6 months. Ds hated being swaddled but this one doesn't mind so I do swaddle which does get me the two to three hour stretches but 6 to 8 would be a dream!

Sleep nest.......... hmmmm. Have to check that out

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I did this with DD, and it was hard. I think it was my fault though, as she was my only princess and I never wanted to put her down... so she got spoiled from jump street! I have to force myself to put Trystan down because I find myself doing the same exact thing! He fusses at me when I lay him in his basinett, but sure enough when mommy is holding him he's either staring right at me calm as a cucumber or falls fast asleep! I've busted out the pacifier to quiet him down, and that seems to be helping.

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With DS I would co-sleep a lot. Dh is a very deep sleeper so I could never have Deacon in the middle of our bed. I would sleep in the middle and have Deacon on the edge with a bed rail up to keep him from falling off the bed. I can't say I got more or less sleep though since every breath he took woke me up. I've become such a light sleeper - ugh!

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"Starryblue702" wrote:

I did this with DD, and it was hard. I think it was my fault though, as she was my only princess and I never wanted to put her down... so she got spoiled from jump street! I have to force myself to put Trystan down because I find myself doing the same exact thing! He fusses at me when I lay him in his basinett, but sure enough when mommy is holding him he's either staring right at me calm as a cucumber or falls fast asleep! I've busted out the pacifier to quiet him down, and that seems to be helping.

Aww, he is your last baby.. hold him! Years from now, you won't regret it! .. oh wait.. that is what I am telling myself every time I don't want to put Luke down lol.

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"Jenn0113" wrote:

With DS I would co-sleep a lot. Dh is a very deep sleeper so I could never have Deacon in the middle of our bed. I would sleep in the middle and have Deacon on the edge with a bed rail up to keep him from falling off the bed. I can't say I got more or less sleep though since every breath he took woke me up. I've become such a light sleeper - ugh!

**sigh** yep, this is now me. Jonah was evicted last night. Yes, he slept like a log next to me, but I could not sleep at all. With my recovery I cannot sleep in one spot all night and he fussed in the sleep nest. After 3 nights of no sleep, I put him in his crib at 4am this morning. Lucky for me he slept fine there until 8am. I am hoping for the same tonight. I decided that waking up a couple of times a night is better than getting light sleep all night.