shamelessly stolen from February
i had no idea you bleed for 6 weeks postpartum
i had no idea some women vomit through childbirth, i for one vomited after EVERY contraction even with all the anti-vomiting medicine they were giving me
i realized its possible to tear, but i NEVER had thought about the weeks it would take to heal, not being able to sit on anything hard, feeling like all my insides would fall out when i walk. I basically thought you had the baby and that was it! i had no idea there was any "recovery" involved.
i didn't realize you can actually SEE your baby moving through your belly as you get further along in your pregnancy, pretty cool! i would get this huge lump in my side when luke stretched him bum out
Baby #3 due July 6 2013
I will second the tearing. I had third degree (from the front to the back if you get my drift) and recovery was horrible. It throbbed and ached down there like you wouldn't believe. Going to the bathroom was excruciating and I cried even thinking about it.
Having a bowel movement during birth. Embarrassing.
Sometimes when the baby kicks you run to the bathroom because you know it's foot just came out of your vagina.
When you are 30+ weeks it becomes almost impossible to shave your legs or anything else for that matter.
Finally, no matter what anyone tells you there is no way possible to know the true meaning of the love you feel for you child until they lay that little miracle on your chest and you see that baby take its first breath.
That you could get hemmroids and that they may never go away!
That you boobs become two large, hard, painful footballs for a couple of days when your milk comes in!
That they looks great during pregnancy but could go totally flat after...
That you lose your hair in globs for months after having the baby.
Oh yea, I definitely bled for 6 weeks (and no less!) with every delivery! I guess that would be the one perk of a c-section, if there was one. I thankfully had no vomitting during labor and delivery, but I did have two internal tears on the inside with DS #1, and yes, I cried every time I tried to sit down for the next two weeks! My fav part of the "baby moving" was seeing their little butts come all the way up and I could actually see their little crack lol (sorry if this offends!)!
Krystal & Donovan - 12/2/06
Reagan - 10/2/02
Maximus - 3/10/05
Liberty - 12/11/08
My angel in Heaven 1/7/13
Oh, here's another one that I wish I'd known before my first baby. The position you labour in really does matter. Gravity makes a difference! If you keep yourself upright, or squatting, or on hands and knees, that actually makes your pelvis larger, making it easier for baby to move down and it's head to dilate the cervix. If you're laying down on your back (like in a hospital with a monitor strapped to your belly and maybe an epidural in your spine), your body is going to have a much harder time dilating fully. It truly can slow your labour down, even stall it.
Same with pushing. When you lay on your back with legs in the air pushing, you're working against gravity, and with a narrower pelvis. Pushing in a squatting, standing or hands/knees position, with a wider pelvis, will make that baby come out much faster and easier on you both!
ETA: Oh, and there's a difference in pain levels too! Many moms will tell you that labouring on their backs was excruciating. As soon as they moved into a more upright position, the pain became much more manageable.
Yup, after 3 c/s I can tell you we bleed for weeks, too.
I think in a nutshell...the whole affair is messy and dirty. Movies, books, other people make it seem romantic but uh-huh. I mean it is beautiful but if you have a sensitive tummy you could very well lose it!
I've never had a vaginal delivery but the stories of tears, inside and outside, the hemerroids, the loss of urinary control are scary. And yes, the amount of bleeding and early clots could scare a new mom who wasn't warned.
Oh, if you lose your mucus plug...it's like you vagina is snoting. Gross! And the stretchmarks, the engorgement of your breasts, the pain with Breastfeeding in the first few weeks. Yeah, there's lots people keep a 'secret'. It's all worth it in the end, though.
Well alot of this may be true, but don't let it all scare any of you first timers! I didn't vomit any time in any of my pregnancies and either off my labor/deliveries except when I got food poisoning with my first pregnancy. Also I had an episiotomy with my first and tore very bad with my second. It of course is very sore but honestly wasn't a horrid recovery and just had to sit down slowly and gently on something soft for a week or two. That numbing spray, USE it! Oh, and the peri bottle is a lifesaver also.
I had no idea about hemorrhoids. They really suck. Mine didn't even make themselves known until I was 3-4 months postpartum with my first and (sorry TMI) it felt like I was passing shards of glass. Stool softeners and lots of water definitely help.
I had no idea about how intense pushing is. It literally felt to me like trying to push out a bowling ball.
Can't think of much else, but I really didn't realize that I got a say in how everything went. With my first, I thought I was just supposed to do what I was told and hated how I felt afterwards. They took him straight from my hoo-ha to the warmer and there wasn't a thing wrong with him or a reason to do that. I asked them not to give pacifiers or formula when they insisted on taking him at a day old to be put under lights for jaundice and they completely ignored my requests over and over. If something is important to you or you want something a certain way, demand it. It is your labor, delivery and your baby. I wish someone had told me that sooner.
Oh man, I already told the babies about my plans for retaliation for the morning sickness - their dad and I will be chaperoning EVERY middle school dance. But it looks like I'll have to make them pay for incontinence, tears and bleeding, too. Their dad and I will probably have to kiss on the lips in front of their friends, dance in the car right outside of their school, hmm ... any more suggestions? We have 13 years to plan.