...everybody feels like they have to tell me the most horrible labour and birth stories they have ever heard with all the gory details? I have yet to hear one positive story :(. This includes people I know, people I don't know, people that have many kids and people that have never given birth!!! (Those just creatively draw on stories they have heard from others). This usually includes helpful tips like: "Make sure you don't give birth too fast because I did and ripped all the way from A to B and couldn't walk properly for a month". Thanks, I'll keep that in mind and keep my legs crossed so baby doesn't come out too fast!
As a FTM I am already scared of the whole birthing process and this abundance of terrifying stories has made it much worse. Sometimes when I lie awake at night that's all I can think about. I have started asking people politely to please stop as soon as I notice where the conversation is going but sometimes they sneak one in before I can say anything. It would never occur to me to think of a horrid story to tell someone about a condition they have or a situation they are in... don't people realize it is scary???
My favorite was when my SIL (who has never been pregnant) told me about her friend who tore horribly and then said it was her own fault because of how the girl handled her labour (she wanted to be free to move around and labour in various positions - all good things in my book).
This is starting to really bother me - anybody else experience this?