WTH with people?!

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Jenn0113's picture
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WTH with people?!

So obviously everyone could beat this topic to death but I have to bring it up for the sake of my sanity. Do people seriously think that all pg women fit into a perfect cookie cutter mold and we should all be a certain size each week?

I have gotten the "any day now!" comments so often lately and then when I say I have 2 more months I get this look :eek:

One person asked me how old DS is and I said "he will be 3 next week!" and she said "oh wow, so you will have the baby right around his bday hu?" Um, no, try 7 weeks later. RUDE

I know I'm not tiny...but I also know I'm not done growing so WTH with the comments?! I now catch myself saying I only have 6 more weeks (I'll be 37 weeks) and started using my "full term" date as my due date because I am so self conscious about my size.

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I do that too. I'll tell those nosey strangers I'm due in November so i don't get that :bigeyes: look.

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I don't have the pleasure of running into random people as often as you, but I have heard a couple of, "Any day now!" type comments in the elevator at the doctor's office and random places like that. I'm sort of enjoying freaking people out by being all, "I'm due in December." True. But I don't say it's twins. In that case, the shocked looks are awesome.

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I hear ya sweets. I recently just started saying "in a few weeks." I get far less looks or comments that way.

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Yep, the "wow, you're really huge" and "YOU'RE NOT DUE UNTIL DECEMBER!?!?!" comments are starting to really tick me off.

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Yep. A couple of weeks ago the lady who was cutting my son's hair asked me when I was due and then proceeded to ogle my bump and say, "wow, that baby is going to come early" and "she's going to be a big baby!" I was like, "Um, lady, you can stop anytime." :rolleyes:

WHY do people think they can say anything that comes to their mind regarding OUR stomachs.

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I agree, I get the same kind of comments. I feel like they all ignore the part where I say "3rd" and just hear "December"....then they give me this look :eek: and then make comments about how I better make sure my baby gets a birthday AND Christmas celebrations. WTH indeed!!!!!!!

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oh man you are going to hate me. I ran into a co-worker on Friday who didn't even realize I was pregnant. At the end of the conversation I mentioned having a baby in 6 weeks and he was like "Whoa wait... you are pregnant?? right now??" Granted I was wearing scrubs... and he is a 50 year old guy who probably doesn't notice things like pregnant bellies, but it sure made me feel good!

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I'm having a problem similar to Carolyn in that I don't appear to be that big. However, I have a huge baby already (5.5lbs) and an overabundance of amniotic fluid, so people tend to think I am exaggerating when I talk about how uncomfortable I am. I get comments like, "Oh, you are going to get much bigger!" The size of my uterus is putting so much pressure on my lungs and other organs that I can't even make it through the grocery store without getting dizzy and stopping to take a rest. Whenever I talk about how uncomfortable I am, people say, "But you're not that big." Ugh.

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Yup Carrie I'm the same way! Our babies and uterus's weigh just as much even if they don't show the same... The heartburn and leaky bladder and shortness of breath. I'm big on the INSIDE lol

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Yeah I am so over going out in public and having people stare and me. Have you never seen a pregnant lady before?

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Hey, as long as they keep thier hands off my belly, they may survive!

I almost got escorted out of a Jimmy Buffet concert, until the female security guard heard my side of the story.....

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:lurk:

I get the opposite and it is really starting to make me mad. I get the "are you sure you're actually pregnant?" or "there is no way there are twins in there?" And I want to be like, "Thanks, jerk. I'm already worried that these babies are too small and you are making it worse." Sighhhhh....

Sorry to intrude on your board, just wanted to say I understand and I hate it.

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Yeah, I'm starting to get that kind of comment too.

Somehow when I'm at home and comment on how big I am and my husband points out that I will get bigger - that doesn't help either.

What's always bugged me, though, is how people are always "How are you?" "How are you feeling?"

How am I supposed to answer that, anyway? They don't really want to know the details.

Sometimes I just want people to behave like I'm normal instead of "the pregnant woman."

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"hopin2bpreggermeggers" wrote:

I get the opposite and it is really starting to make me mad. I get the "are you sure you're actually pregnant?" or "there is no way there are twins in there?" And I want to be like, "Thanks, jerk. I'm already worried that these babies are too small and you are making it worse." Sighhhhh....

Sorry, that's gotta bug. The weight gain thing was most obnoxious for me ... constantly hearing advice about how I shouldn't gain too much weight and at that point (20 weeks-ish) I was down about 15 lbs and at the same time reading about how important early weight gain is in multiple pregnancies. Grr. But anyway, I just wanted to say Meg that those little buggers grow FAST and SUDDEN! Have you seen my belly pictures? It wasn't much to see at 20 weeks. Then BOOM!

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"hopin2bpreggermeggers" wrote:

:lurk:

I get the opposite and it is really starting to make me mad. I get the "are you sure you're actually pregnant?" or "there is no way there are twins in there?" And I want to be like, "Thanks, jerk. I'm already worried that these babies are too small and you are making it worse." Sighhhhh....

Sorry to intrude on your board, just wanted to say I understand and I hate it.

Welcome and post away! I would hate that too. Funny how the twin mommas get the whole "you are so small, are you sure its twins" and us singleton mommas get 'are you sure there is only one in there?" I've even been asked if it was triplets.

"**tess**" wrote:

Yeah, I'm starting to get that kind of comment too.

Somehow when I'm at home and comment on how big I am and my husband points out that I will get bigger - that doesn't help either.

What's always bugged me, though, is how people are always "How are you?" "How are you feeling?"

How am I supposed to answer that, anyway? They don't really want to know the details.

Sometimes I just want people to behave like I'm normal instead of "the pregnant woman."

Ha - just bust out your list of aches and pains and shut them up.

When I complain about my size to DH he is so awesome....he just says "but its all baby, you aren't gaining anywhere else" Love him!

And here is a new one...I just had some coworker whom I really don't know ask me if she can deliver my baby and I swear she was being serious. W.T.Heck!

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"Jenn0113" wrote:

When I complain about my size to DH he is so awesome....he just says "but its all baby, you aren't gaining anywhere else" Love him!

Way better than, "I'd hit that! If sex didn't cause preterm labor..." :rolleyes:

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"triplespiral" wrote:

Way better than, "I'd hit that! If sex didn't cause preterm labor..." :rolleyes:

Very true. I just told DH that the night of his company Christmas party we will be DTD to hope to induce labor and he said "you can have sex still?!" LOL Um...only this once babe - don't get out of hand there!

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*lurk*

I just started agreeing with people! I started getting "any day now" comments when I had 10 weeks to go. (OK, I am enormous) When I had 6 weeks left I just started saying, "Yep, any day!" just so I didn't get the LOOK. Works well with strangers at the grocery store Biggrin but I guess not so well with people you will see again!

People think they can say anything to a pregnant woman. :rolleyes: The other day I was loading groceries in to the back of my SUV and some man in the parking lot said "Wow, quite the LOAD you've got there!" :eek: I politely smiled. He then proceeded to say, "It's going to HURT, you know that, right?"

I said, "It's my 3rd child."

Seriously, you're a MAN. How do YOU know it's going to hurt?

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"sandraleigh" wrote:

*lurk*

I just started agreeing with people! I started getting "any day now" comments when I had 10 weeks to go. (OK, I am enormous) When I had 6 weeks left I just started saying, "Yep, any day!" just so I didn't get the LOOK. Works well with strangers at the grocery store Biggrin but I guess not so well with people you will see again!

People think they can say anything to a pregnant woman. :rolleyes: The other day I was loading groceries in to the back of my SUV and some man in the parking lot said "Wow, quite the LOAD you've got there!" :eek: I politely smiled. He then proceeded to say, "It's going to HURT, you know that, right?"

I said, "It's my 3rd child."

Seriously, you're a MAN. How do YOU know it's going to hurt?

Yep, exactly! I just agree with "any day now" or "yep, just a few weeks left." Shuts people up and I don't have to hear their ignorant comments.

And what a total jerk! We carry and delivery the babies bc men couldn't handle it! And he has the gall to say something like that! How about, "it will hurt when my fist hits your face" as a come back hehehe. We can think it anyway, right?!

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lurker from Nov 11...
people are a-holes. one co worker here kept making twins comments!!! All the time. I am 5 foot tall and yes I am big but I have not gained more than a couple lbs than I did with my first. I actually gave him a fair warning last week "make that your last twin comment or I won't be so nice next time". He backed off. And has been too nice this week.

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"sandraleigh" wrote:

People think they can say anything to a pregnant woman. :rolleyes: The other day I was loading groceries in to the back of my SUV and some man in the parking lot said "Wow, quite the LOAD you've got there!" :eek: I politely smiled. He then proceeded to say, "It's going to HURT, you know that, right?"

WHAT?!?!?!?!? Wow I don't know if I would have been able to contain my rage at that comment. YIKES!!!

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I agree that using the "weeks" countdown instead of your due date does help... it just sucks that we have to do that! At work, now that I'm in these last few weeks, the guests look at me like I'm crazy to still be here, and it doesn't help that I look like I'm 40 weeks along!! It really does blow my mind at the stupid crap that comes out of people's mouths. I would never say any of these hurtful and senseless things that have been said to me to a pregnant woman!

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"sandraleigh" wrote:

People think they can say anything to a pregnant woman. :rolleyes: The other day I was loading groceries in to the back of my SUV and some man in the parking lot said "Wow, quite the LOAD you've got there!" :eek: I politely smiled. He then proceeded to say, "It's going to HURT, you know that, right?"

:jawdrop::bigangry:
I would have been so pissed if someone said that to me! This is the exact reason I refuse to have a male OB (well, one of many reasons lol)!! I would not handle well at all a man telling me he knows how much it hurts!!! Are you FREAKING KIDDING ME??!!! I would have been a total smart @ss and said something like, "Oh really? How many babies have you pushed out of your vagina?"

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That's hilarious. I have a male OB who told me exactly that about the "quite a load!" and I saw it more as like hey, at least someone recognizes this this really sucks ***! And because he's a man I can totally say things right back at him about his not having popped out any babies without sounding like a total witch. I guess it just makes it easier to joke around.

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"sandraleigh" wrote:

*lurk*

People think they can say anything to a pregnant woman. :rolleyes: The other day I was loading groceries in to the back of my SUV and some man in the parking lot said "Wow, quite the LOAD you've got there!" :eek: I politely smiled. He then proceeded to say, "It's going to HURT, you know that, right?"

I said, "It's my 3rd child."

Seriously, you're a MAN. How do YOU know it's going to hurt?

You are so much nicer then me! You should have responded with "Yes it will, would you like for me to break your right leg, or your left leg first?":cool:

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"sandraleigh" wrote:

People think they can say anything to a pregnant woman. :rolleyes: The other day I was loading groceries in to the back of my SUV and some man in the parking lot said "Wow, quite the LOAD you've got there!" :eek: I politely smiled. He then proceeded to say, "It's going to HURT, you know that, right?"

Wow - I would have seriously told him to go to hell. What a complete a-hole!

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