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The Secret

Have any of you told anyone? Everyone? Still have your secret?

How do you plan to tell people your pregnant, if you haven't already? What about gender, any ideas?

We're definitely keeping this secret for a while. No one knows except this board and my other BB's, not even my BFF knows.
We are planning to tell our older boys once we have our dating US. We aren't planning on telling anyone else until we know the gender. Hopefully I can hide it until then.

I was looking at Pinterest and YouTube last night and there are so many cute ideas out there for pregnancy and gender announcements. Some super cute videos, too!

So...what are your plans?

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I have told my 3 closest friends but no one else. I plan to wait to tell my family and everyone else until after the first trimester. I think I'll check out those ideas on YouTube and Pinterest for fun ways to tell them!! I'm thinking I'll probably end up showing in my workout clothes too much for people at work not to notice before then though. LOL

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I can't even hardly hide it anymore myself with my big ole bloated belly. Half the immediate family know knows and my dept at work will know soon. I will be in maternity pants in a few weeks. I am getting sick of trying to find things to wear to hide my belly. Have to do some shopping soon! Part of it though was after I lost some weight I had gained some back and so I got rid of a lot of stuff after I lost it. I guess I shouldn't have done that. Now with the MS I am eating all the time to calm my stomach Sad

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I have only told my 2 close friends and one of my coworkers/friends. That is all I've told and I plan to keep it that way until I get to 14 weeks. I hope that I don't pop out until after that. I have luckily been losing weight because of my M/S so at least there is one upside to throwing up and feeling like crap all day long. I haven't really thought about plans or anything yet either. The only thing I have thought about is names and the fact that I will need to put my Christmas tree up on Thanksgiving this year in case I go into labor soon after that.

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We've told our best friends and a couple in our family that's due a month before us knowing they'll all keep quiet. We want to wait to tell the rest of our friends and put it on FB until after the first trimester. A lot of my friends have done it that way recently and I thought it was cute that those who got an NT scan used the picture to announce it on FB.

We are thinking of telling our family soon. We're going to put DD in a Big Sister shirt for when she sees my Mom on our trip next week and we'll probably tell the rest of our parents around the same time. I could announce it to family on Mother's day for DH's side as we have a big mothers day/MIL's bday party but I don't want 600 questions then.

YT and Pinterest do have awesome gender reveal/pregnancy reveal ideas! I love when people have a gender party and have a cake baked with either pink or blue frosting inside so everyone (including the parents) find out when the cake is cut. Biggrin

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I usually don't pop too much in the beginning, at least not usually. A friend saw me at 20 weeks with DS#5 and asked when I was going to start looking preggo. I can only hope it goes the same this time. I do think you'll be able to tell in my workout clothes, earlier, though. Luckily none of our families live close by so I *think* I can hide it from them.

Mia, the cake/cupcake idea is super cute. There are some funny fail ones on YT. One had a white cake and white icing. Another the lady got super exciting thinking the cake said girl but after they took the piece out, it was boy. Too funny!

One couple gave their sealed envelope to a GAP clerk and picked out a boy and a girl outfit. The GAP clerk had to open the envelope and then wrap the proper outfit and gift wrap it. The couple then opened it over dinner, just the two of them. I really liked that idea. I'm not sure DH will go for it but he liked it when I told him about the video.

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PG.org is the only place we have told.. We'Ll probably tell close immediate family if all looks well next week after our first appointment. Everyone else including employers will be after first trimester.

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Yep, we're still keeping it quiet IRL as well. With my previous pregnancies, my coworkers figured it out because of all the m/s (I never have it first thing in the morning, always happened once I was at work!) and then I told my family because I hated that work knew before people I actually loved!

This time it is a toss up whether I'll be outed by morning sickness or by my oldest sister, she and her son come over for playdates a lot on my day off, since I work PT, and she's pretty observant. But once one person finds out, it is time for the nine million calls of doom - I have 7 siblings, and we need to tell everybody the same day! Exhausting.

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Man! I must have the biggest mouth in the world! Everybody I know knows....ha! My family, my friends, Facebook. I guess cuz it took us soooooo long to get pregnant my mouth just runneth over. Kudos to you ladies for keeping it quiet. I'm amazed!!!

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5 at most know. Didn't even tell the kids yet. We want to make sure I'm having a healthy pregnancy before we go telling everyone. I keep complaining of different things and both mom and mil have asked me if I was preggo. Had to lie.. I'm not ready to tell the world yet.

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We are keeping it a secret from everyone for now. I don't like to tell the kids for a while. The only people we will tell will be one SIL and prob my bff. I am just a little worried about this weekend--we have tons of family coming to town and someone is bound to bring it up...just don't know what I will say yet--maybe I will just turn it around on them and ask if they are instead.

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We have told our immediate family only so far. More people are starting to find out though as I honestly look so sick with this pregnancy and more and more people are asking what is wrong with me. I am trying to hold out as long as I can though before broadcasting it on Facebook.

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"lby_mommyof3" wrote:

We are keeping it a secret from everyone for now. I don't like to tell the kids for a while. The only people we will tell will be one SIL and prob my bff. I am just a little worried about this weekend--we have tons of family coming to town and someone is bound to bring it up...just don't know what I will say yet--maybe I will just turn it around on them and ask if they are instead.

My MIL was in town the weekend I *thought* I might be pregnant. My DH made a wisecrack about who is growing and she immediately caught the jist. I had to change the subject REAL quick! Luckily she started talking about how close together her #3 and #4 were because I said something about Nash being too young. Little did I know I WAS preggo or I'm not sure I could have recovered that quickly.

I feel so bad for those of you who get outed by your MS. You must feel terrible! B6 and unisom, I hear works wonders. Also SeaBands? I've been very luck to just have some nausea that I can pretty easily cover from my older boys. Luckily they are clueless! Since they are 18, they really don't have time for things other than school and friends. Wink My 20 yr old is out of the house so I don't have to worry about him noticing.

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We have a hard time keeping it to ourselves - the day we found out we ordered a "big brother" onesie for Alex and it was hard enough keeping quiet while we waited for it to come in the mail! Thursday night we took Alex in his new outfit to both our parents houses and told them and then last night my best friend was here from out of town so we were out for supper with about 10 close friends and we told everyone there as well.

It was sooo funny with the t-shirt because neither of our moms read it right away.. it took my mom like 15 minutes before she said anything. Then we sent pictures of Alex in the tshirt to Troy's siblings who live out of town. His sister got it right away, but his brother was like "cute pic, Alex looks drunk" (he is sticking out his tongue in the pic).

To tell my friends at supper I just ordered a virgin drink - they all caught on pretty fast and asked straight out if I was preggo, to which I was happy to say "YES!"

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It's not a secret anymore, most of my family and DH's family know now as do our friends. I was super nervous about letting people know but I just figure if anything goes wrong I'll need the support either way. Around Easter I posted a pic of my dating u/s and said that the Easter Bunny left me a special little jelly bean - only people in my "close family and friends" group could see it so I didn't announce it publicly yet.

I think we'll announce to everyone after we find out the sex, I'd LOVE LOVE LOVE to do a gender reveal party but we'll probably just make due with a gender reveal pic (I'm thinking blue or pink balloons in a big box - we'll let DS open the box and take photos)

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More of my friends found out about my pregnancy on Cinco De Mayo. We met at our favorite Mexican restaurant and everyone was ordering their fantastic margaritas except for umm... me. So they were all staring at me very strangely (LOL) and someone said, "What are you pregnant or something???" and so I nodded and everyone was super excited. I told them to keep it quiet from the rest of the group but these gals are the chatty type so I doubt that will last long! I at least wanted to make sure everything was ok at my first appt (tomorrow!) before the big reveal. I'm thinking of telling my mom on Mother's Day. Maybe making her a dinner of baby back ribs, baby corn, baby carrots, etc. and seeing if she picks up on the HINT! LOL