When do you plan to tell??

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When do you plan to tell??

Just wondering when everyone was planning to tell family/friends?? We had a miscarriage at 11 weeks with our last pregnancy, so we are a little hesitant to tell. We were thinking about telling family only on Mother's Day. I'll be 8 1/2 weeks by then. We're just going to order out youngest a big sister shirt and see how long it takes everyone to figure it out!! Smile Then we will wait until the 1st trimester is over to tell everyone else.

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"ashb325" wrote:

Just wondering when everyone was planning to tell family/friends?? We had a miscarriage at 11 weeks with our last pregnancy, so we are a little hesitant to tell. We were thinking about telling family only on Mother's Day. I'll be 8 1/2 weeks by then. We're just going to order out youngest a big sister shirt and see how long it takes everyone to figure it out!! Smile Then we will wait until the 1st trimester is over to tell everyone else.

I love your idea. We are waiting until at least 12 weeks for close friends but probably 20 weeks for family/Facebook.

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I've already told some of my close family/friends - the rest of my immediate family I'll announce to on Monday after what I hope to be a very good ultrasound. I plan to post my u/s photo on Facebook (visible to only those in my 'close family & friends' group) that the Easter bunny left me a special little jelly bean. Biggrin Everyone else I probably tell at the end of May (once I'm out of the 1st trimester).

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Cute idea about Easter bunny. Let us know how it goes!

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Love the ideas! If we get pregnant this cycle, I want to just tell family and closest friends (ie no facebook) until we're out of the first trimester just so I'll be feeling better over all.

If we do get pregnant this cycle, I'm tempted to wait to tell family for Mother's day weekend too. I'd want to wait to tell my Mum until we go to visit her (in FL). We go down May 10th and I was thinking of putting DD in a Big Sister shirt like Ashley mentioned. We come back Mothers day and will go right to a party (also to celebrate MILs bday) and I was thinking of signing the card from DH, myself DD and Baby #2.

ETA: We would probably try to wait to tell our extended family until at least memorial day weekend as we go down to visit a lot of them for a picnic then, but if they found out before it'd be okay. We probably won't tell anyone besides family/closest friends until around the end of June/early July.

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I told my parents. Just couldn't keep it in. Then my brother was going to visit them the next day so I told him - I didn't want my parents to have to lie to him. Then had to tell my sister b/c didn't want my whole family to know except her. Anyway - we haven't told his parents yet and not sure when we will. He said he wants to wait a little. I did tell 2 close friends of mine. Will hold off on the rest of my friends until my first U/S appointment. And I'll wait to tell my extended family until a wedding 6/9 when I'll be 14 weeks. (God willing)

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I told DH right away and soon after I told mum, I would never even dream of not telling her as we are super close. I told dad a few days later once we found out that HCG levels were increasing appropriately. Since then I have told my BFF, my cousin and my aunt who I am also very close to. I figure if I m/c I will need the support from them, they often babysit for us and we often babysit for them. I have told everyone who needs to know, I guess.

I intend to tell everyone else around 15 or 16 weeks Smile

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We are having a birthday party in May for my kiddos and will be about 10 weeks. Then we will be at a wedding a couple weeks later and I am sure it will be known then. We will share then with the family that is there. It was hard enough already this weekend being around family and even having dh's grandpa and then grandma make a comment about us having another one. We also need to let someone else in the family know who we pass clothes off to, so they start saving the clothes for us again.