DH is alive!!

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CaityA83's picture
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DH is alive!!

Wow!! Yesterday was the craziest day ever!! I just have to tell you guys this story! Sorry it's kinda long.

So it started on Thursday night. DH got a text around 7 from his friend Jeremy. Jeremy is an ex marine sniper who DH met working in the ER. They don't work together now but are friends. Jeremy is somewhat unstable though. He is a really nice guy but just deals with a lot from his years in the service. DH said he was worried about Jeremy and felt like he should go over and talk to him for a while. I was against this and wasn't happy about it bc DH and I share a car and I had to work the next day and I knew if he went over there he would end up drinking and stay the night there and I'd be stranded the next morning. So sure enough DH decides to stay the night. I texted him a bunch on thurs night saying make sure you are home by 6:30 am for me to get to work. I knew he wouldn't be though so when my alarm went off at 6am I just called into work sick. So the hours tick by and I don't hear from him and he never even reads my messages. At first I figure he is just asleep and hung over... But as it goes from 10 to 11 to 12 to 1:00 and I still haven't heard from him, I'm starting to get worried. This is really out of character. Even at his most drunk or in our biggest fight he would still message or call or at least read his messages.

So I test FIL to see of he has heard anything and explain the situation. Also text BIL to see of he knows anything. So fast forward a few hours and we decide to call the non emergency police to have them go check it out. This is around 5:00. So at 5:30 I get a call from DH. Basically he says he is only just now leaving Jeremy's and he has been stuck there for hours pleading for his life. DH comes home and is completely shaken up. After a few more hours I find out that his friend just totally snapped and lost it. DH said he was laying on the couch watching a show and he fell asleep. He said he woke up on the floor and Jeremy is strangling him and beating him up. Mind you DH is about 5'11 and 145 lbs. not big at all! So for 1-2 hours Jeremy strangles him and punches him all over his face and is just freaking out while DH is pleading with him to let him live. Saying he has a wife and son and another baby on the way... All the while Jeremy is crying and just keeps saying he is sorry. Eventually Jeremy loosens up enough that DH is able to jump up and run out the door. No shoes or anything though! DH got the SH*T beat out of him. He has strangle marks and lacerations all over his next. Both eyes are cut and black. His nose is bloody and swollen. Both ears are swollen and have cuts on them. He has some weird mark on his upper arm that is all bruised and cut up.

There was more that happened throughout the day but this is the main thing. DH said he was sure he was going to die. So scary!!!

mom2robbie's picture
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OMG that is so scary. Glad your DH is ok, hope his friend gets some help.

lizzib45's picture
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Omg. So glad he is ok. Did Jeremy get arrested ?? What a scary situation. I hope the friend gets some serious help

CaityA83's picture
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No he didn't get arrested. We were hoping that DH would press charges but he refused. He has misplaced loyalty bc of the years Jeremy spent serving our country. I'm just afraid for the next guy he snaps and attacks like that. He might not make it out alive! And what about that guys wife and kids... Sad

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Lurker... How terrifying! I hope that your DH reconsiders and at least tries to get him help if not pressing charges. I can't even begin to imagine what must have been running through your DH's mind!

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Caity, I hope your husband reconsiders - it's not about loyalty - it's about getting the guy some help. In the meantime, glad he made it out mostly intact!

CaityA83's picture
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Thanks ladies! It was very scary. I try not to think about how close I was to losing him. I hope he reconsiders also! We have been trying to convince him that he needs to for Jeremy's sake...

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Oh, Caity!! I'm so glad DH made it out alive!! That is terrifying!

I hope you guys figure out a way to get Jeremy the help he needs.

KET_2010's picture
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That is so scary! I'm glad your DH made it out alive. At first I thought it was kind of a joke about him making it out alive and he just got really really drunk.

I really hope he reconsiders. It sounds like Jeremy is suffering from extreme PTSD. A guy in my husband's unit killed himself after he came back from deployment because it was so bad (also Marines, about 2 years ago now). If he feels loyalty to him, that he needs to also look out for Jeremy's life too because he may end up taking his own instead of someone else's. I really hope Jeremy also gets the help he needs.

Sad and scary situation. Sad

CaityA83's picture
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Yes I think he is definitely suffering from PTSD! I know that he struggles a lot also bc he is getting older now (close to 40 I think) and he isn't married and doesn't have any kids. He recently found out he has testicular cancer and so he is struggling with knowing he won't have children in the future... It's such a difficult situation. DH is really struggling with everything that happened. He is mad at Jeremy bc they were good friends and he feels like Jeremy ruined that. He obviously can't trust him now. DH always wanted to be a marine but couldn't bc of his health issues, so I think he put Jeremy on a pedestal of sorts bc of his service. Hopefully after a few days when DH calms down he sill be able to see what he needs to do...

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OH MY GOSH!!! That is SOO Scary! I'm so glad he is okay Caitlin! I would be sooo terrified. :/ I'm glad that he made it out. I too hope that he presses charges. HE NEEDS TO. The Man needs help. Sad I feel awful for him. Sad I feel awful for all involved. Sad KUP okay?

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Woah that is crazy!!! I'm glad he's okay

PhysicsNerd's picture
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Wow! So glad your DH is okay. Tell him its worse if he doesn't press charges since his friend won't get the help he obviously needs.

KET_2010's picture
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How is your DH doing? I'm sure he was shaken up right after it happened, but is he doing okay? And how are you?

I don't even know what I would do if that happened with my husband. I still really hope your DH gets him the help he needs.

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Holy cow! That is insane!! I am so thankful he made it out of there. I hope your DH decides to press charges or at least get him into some help. Wow, I can't imagine how much you were going out of your mind!!!

CaityA83's picture
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Sorry I was MIA yesterday ladies. It was a rough MS day!

DH is doing better. He has been very shaken up. He said it has really affected his outlook on life and his priorities. Which is a good thing in his case! He is still trying to sort through the whole thing though and he just can't believe it happened. Physically he is doing better. He has a lot of cuts and bruises but they are looking better everyday.

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I'm glad he's healing well.

KET_2010's picture
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Hey I was wondering how your DH is and if he decided to let anyone know what happened?