I just saw your post on the spaces!! Welcome and congrats on the BFP!! I remember you from some of the other boards. I am so sorry to hear about your separation with your husband!! My husband and I have been having a very difficult time also. I asked him to move out for a few weeks in February. We only dtd one time in 7 weeks and here I am!! I have been back and forth about staying with him.
What I'm trying to say is you're not alone! I know in some ways what you are going through!
Caitlin! Hi Sweetie! Thanks for the warm welcome. I am getting so much grief from everywhere it is nice to have a friend. I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties with your husband. I'm sure you are doing all you can to make things work. If it doesn't, walk away with grace and confidence, knowing you did your best. If you are able to work through it, it will be worth it. I'm here if you want to talk. Love!
Omg!! I know exactly what you mean. Dh's family was so excited and know what a miracle and a blessing this baby is. They just kept saying that God will provide and everything will work out. As for my family and friends, I haven't even told many bc I feel like I am having to break the news to them. With DS we tried for so long and everyone knew we were going the fertility treatments and when we finally got pregnant everyone rejoiced. With this one my mom didn't even say congrats when I told her. She looked away from me and didn't talk for ten minutes!! Wth?! I get that this isn't the best situation. I didn't plan this and am already struggling with that... You would think my family would get that and would be encouraging and supportive like my ILs! Just made me so mad!!
Thanks friend for the encouragement! I agree that it's nice to have a friend in all of this. I love kids and have always wanted to have a lot... And it took is SO much to get DS... I just feel so guilt ridden that I'm not more excited about this baby. I'm afraid the baby will sense it or feel betrayed or something! I just wish the circumstances would be better so that I didn't feel so ambivalent about the situation.
How are you doing?? Have you told DH? What did he say?? Hang in there girl!!
Hi ladies! I just wanted to offer some support and possibly an ear to bounce your situations off of. My first pregnancy, six years ago, was extremely unexpected as my husband (at the time) and I had been on and off separated for months. My family was not thrilled at all, and though I tried to make it work, ultimately left him in my fifth month. It was a challenging time, but one that I do not regret. In the end, I feel like I am a stronger woman because of it and my daughter and I have an amazing relationship. Please feel free to contact me at any time. Mine is a long story, but I'd be happy to share it with any of you. Congratulations on the positives! Let's hope the good keeps coming for all of us!