LOL I understand Kati! That's why I said "boring" days! For several years either one of our neighbors or a close friend either died or was buried on my birthday. NOT the best thing to have a birthday associated with!! Its been a few years now since anything has happened on my birthday, but I'm telling you, I'm always so grateful still to get through a HAPPY day on my birthday, even if it is boring!!
Monday Monday (anybody else listen to the Mamas and the Papas?)
Had a pretty good time camping. It was rough getting up there. I was stressed. But it was good once I was there and could chill out. I got some weird bites while there. Checked them out a few minutes ago, and they are getting worse. I'll put some ice on them tonight and hope they go away.
Need some feedback about names. I am loving MacKenzie, McKenna, and McKinley. Any others that would match in that pattern? For a middle name, I had a random thought. My mom wants me to use the family name Victoria, but I want to use a family name (from FH side) of Diane. What about using Vivian? It's kinda sorta Victoria and Diane together, right? I know it's a stretch. But would it work?
Had an argument with FH this morning. He missed a meeting at the daycare last night, even after I reminded him two hours before. I sent him two emails today, one about his parent time this week (wanting to confirm he was taking it) and the other about which preschool for our little boy. He responded all frustrated, and I ripped into him. I was already ticked that he wasn't at the meeting last night, but then he got all pissy that I made the decision about preschool by myself? If he had been at the meeting, we would have been able to talk about it! That led to a bigger argument, and on and on. By the end, I think we both made our points, and we are trying to work through it again. He asked for an email with everything about the meeting last night and why I made the decision I made. I told him I couldn't get everything from a two hour meeting into an email, but I would tell him why I felt the way I felt, and then we could talk about it and decide together. I also got on his case for always ignoring my emails about the baby, and saying he would either have to start responding or he was simply going to have to live with whatever decisions I make for the rest of the baby's life. The decisions have to be made, and although I'd like his input, I can't put off the decisions just to wait for him. (Example- picking her name, some specifics about her care immediately after birth, etc). He asked me to email him those things as well, and give him a day or two to read them and think about them. I think I'd rather do that conversation over the phone, but I'll at least try in email. It would be really nice to have his help, so I'll try whatever he asks for. I am sometimes so confused how to handle things with him. During our argument today I told him I was upset with him. He played the victim with his "I know, I'm a screw up, and never get anything right." I really laid into him then, telling him that I was so frustrated because I know he's a better dad than what he's been doing. I know, he knows, everyone knows he's better than this, and it's no secret. I think that got to him. I DO know he's a good dad, and I'm tired of him dropping the ball. It wasn't a pretty argument, but here's to hoping we both do better in the future.
lol Well that was a lot longer than expected. But thanks for letting me pour all that out!
Single Mom parenting my kids the best way *I* know how
FH - My former husband and the man that blessed me with both my kidlets
DS - My May 2010 Moonbeam born
BG - My baby girl expected in Dec 2013
Im glad you had a good time camping. How was it meeting everyone? Id watch your bites and if need be get them checked out. I like MacKenzie and McKenna best. Are those the spellings that you would be going with on them? I would use Diane over Victoria or Vivian but I know a horrible person named Vivian. lol
Im sorry your ex is being a butt. He seriously sounds like my last ex(this babys dad). What was his excuse on missing the meeting. If hes not going to be there for the meeting then I wouldnt let him help with the decisions that came from it. You should not have to explain yourself to him on what was decided. My ex's (at least the ones I have kids with) accept my decisions that I make on the kids. Also helps that only my youngest(for now) is the only one that sees her dad the others stopped seeing my kids and talking to me so whatever. What about the babys care right after birth? What do you have to decide on for that? My ex and I text now to talk about the baby or facebook. Although for awhile I had him blocked on facebook because he got real stupid when I broke up with him. You should not have to give him a day or two to think about things. He should be able to talk to you (maybe meet him somewhere without your DS) so you can talk without little ears and maybe have a list of things you want to talk about with you. Dont let him frustrate you or make you angry. I know its hard and when my ex does it to me with his constant whinning I stop talking to him or switch subjects, mostly just ignore it. Since your doing ALOT of your communication by email I would keep it as a record. No offense but Ive read and delt with alot of nasty divorces expecially where kids are involved. I would document every time he misses a meeting or pick up or calls you. Document everything that you can because it can be used against him if needed. Trust me you will need it when it comes to court. Ive been a single parent for too many years I know enough of the bs when it comes to dealing with your childs father. Its gonna get worse when he finds someone to be with. If you ever want to chat or something message me I am more than willing to help.
Today I took cookies to work since my birthday was Saturday and I skipped work on friday because of the pain and pressure. I got a card from the people I work with. Had some nice things written in it from them. My boss even signed it which he NEVER signs the cards that go around. Work really sucked today because I was in alot of pain. Think i need to get a cushion to put on my chair. I had to get up and walk around alot more today because of the pain. But sitting here in my chair at home Im in less pain then Ive been in all day.
Ok ya'll...this is gross...
A large mouse just crawled across my floor, obviously sick, and DH had to go dispose of it. Ugh!! Now, I'm really not wanting to get off the couch! I'm hoping that was the only mouse in residency (though we do have out bait just in case bc I found evidence last week)!
Does that make me a 'fraidy cat????
Im actually making a registry for my baby shower. Not totally sure why since the last time(when I was pregnant with Trinity 7+ years ago) noone bought off it but he it works. Getting closer to having a date. The one that was tossed out today is the day of my nephews 2nd bday party and I said no. So shes working with me on the next day to try.
lol I'm too tired to not sleep!
I'm soooo glad tomorrow is Tues!! This has def been a Monday of Mondays! DH's car quit and despite all his work tonight it still isn't running, we each had a rougher day in general, the mouse happened, then my garbage disposal quit and I had to clean it out tonight...
BUT, in spite of it all, I've still got joy! I'm thankful for all my blessings! God is still good!! I can't complain!!
Great minds think alike Kati! I've actually been working on my registry tonight too! I figure, who cares if no one buys, I'll at least get a coupon to get the things I need cheaper! And I'm realizing how much I don't have as I continue on through it. LOL So,I'm registering for the stuff I need and the stuff I just want...I want to at least get it cheaper if I decide its something Aarilyn just has to have!
Exactly thats how I feel to. Im doing things I need and some other bottles/paci's that I dont have already or ones I LOVE and want more of. I have a date for my shower November 10 at 2pm is my shower and I did the event on fb tonight so its real already have 3 other guests, one is my mom, the other two are friends of mine including my oldest daughters brothers mother. lol follow that one? Im excited