Neither of my Dr's take medicaid, and I can't afford to pay them as self-pay. The other thing that worries me somewhat is, if DH gets a job really quickly (don't get me wrong...I want him to bc we can't even pay all of our bills on unemployment wages) that would then disqualify me for medicaid, in which case, I would have to pay everything out of pocket unless his insurance gets going VERY quickly....and they usually have a 30 day or 90 day wait....if it was 30 days it might would be in time to cover all the hospital stuff (supposing he gets a job very, very quickly!)...but 90 days I'm outta luck for all of it!! Getting a job that quickly is not at all unheard of in his industry, so I'm hoping that's what happens. I'm just trying to figure out what to do about Dr bills if it does happen. The problem is, we will go under much, much faster w/o a job because we can't afford to pay our school loans and we really don't want to have to do back-pay on those of all things. Our school loans amount to as much per month as our mortgage. I think we can cover our house and vehicle, food and gas, electricity and water. All the necessities will still be covered by unemployment + the pittance that I make. But not paying school loans gets nasty fast.
It will all work out! The Lord is on our side!
And to answer you Maddie, yes we have the option of COBRA, but are weighing out whether it would even be worth it to go with that because it is so incredibly expensive.
Just wanted to say I love you all and I love the feeling of community on our board!
Feeling sentimental tonight.
Home come your feeling sentamental tonight Jana. I love this board also and the women we have come to know.
I got my gift buddy gift tonight after I got off work. Soooo cute.
Jana - We love you, too
I'm sorry... Maybe talk to Medicaid people and see if as soon as he gets a job if it would rule you out.. I don't know how it works exactly.. My husband makes practically nothing for a family of four so... I don't worry about that :/
Glad you liked your gift Kati! It was fun to get some girl stuff... lol. Since I'm having a boy. I just absolutely loved the white onsie with giraffes... I think that's what was on it? I can't remember... darn preg brain.
How did the Stroller shopping go Roxi?
I might bring up some personal stuff that I really need to talk to someone about.... and don't have an appropriate person IRL to talk about it with....
Stroller shopping is still ongoing but we came across a really promising new option. DH is really into all the different specs and stuff. I just want to make a choice and be done with it.
Maddz: you can tell us anything, via private message even...
Maddie yea the white onesie had the giraffes on it. Its way cute. I took more pix then the one I posted maybe will post a couple more. That blanket is so soft and cute. Go ahead and share away and I agree with Roxi either here or pm you know we will all listen.
Good luck finding a stroller Roxi. Ive been through a few but LOVE my double stroller. Its going to be weird not using it or not as much lol
Roxi - I understand wanting to be done with the shopping. There's only so much research I can handle before it all says the same thing. And I'm a research junkie.
Kati - Yes more pictures! Always, more pics
Maddie - You can share anything. Heaven knows the rest of us are pretty open. No judgement, only love. *queue the cheesy music*
Speaking of love . . . Jana, how are you doing today?
I give up on trying to post the pictures tonight I can not get them to resize at all and they are huge for some reason when I try to post them.
So TMI but found out today that no matter what no more sex till I have this baby or I want to put myself into labor omg I freaking hurt. Seriously think she has moved down more. I knew she was head down but omg this hurts
Oh Kati, I'm sorry to hear that. But it's not long to go...
Ever had such a horrible dream that you wake up crying and it sticks with you for hours after waking?.... I had one in the early hours of this morning and I just don't know how to shake it.
Oh yes I have dreams like that all the time. Thankfully not in awhile though. I am having weird dreams lately the last one was Friday and was about turbo snakes a couple of my kids and then a bunch of bugs.
I've had a few spider related dreams but those don't stick with me for so long. My dream last night was about a young girl shooting up her school with a shotgun and I couldn't do anything but watch it happen. I woke up crying and still feel like I want to burst into tears (and it's a good 6 hours since I woke up). Feel really crappy today now and I have to try and study - URGH. Not a good combo. I just want to lie down and try think about nothing. Real crappy mood today.
Thats not good. Kind of sounds like some of the dreams my ex had or has. Very strange dreams. Ive had dreams where I wake up crying because they seemed so real and like it was happenng to me right then. Those usually mess me up for the day. Most the time I have those they involve my kids or someone else that I know.
Hopefully you are able to get some studying done and you can shake that dream.
Yeah, usually the dreams that stick with me or make me cry involve my sister and her kids...
Amazingly I have managed to revise 2 chapters so far. I still feel Meh and have been crying on and off all day but am hoping tomorrow will be OK. Even chocolate didn't make me feel better!!
Oh no thats not good. But atleast you got 2 chapters done. I made a batch of brownies today and had to toss them out. IDK what went wrong but they were HARD as rocks. So crappy.
Darn, about the brownies! I could so have done with a couple (dozen) of those today. Managed to get another chapter revised AND had DH test me some so even though I was feeling horribly depressed it was a good day for studying. Let's hope I can keep it up for the rest of the week. My exam is on Thurs.
So ms Sophie has decided to be in my pelvis now which really hurts and makes walking really difficult. Well everything really difficult. So Im thinking that if she doesnt move back up and the pain doesnt go away by tomorrow Im going to call. Its still from Saturday. So idk what to do. She is still really active so no issues there. Just ALOT of pain and pressure. Its like a few months back and she was like this for a week or so and moved again. I just hope it doesnt mean she is getting ready to come way early.
Sorry I haven't been on in a few days ladies. My laptop chose to die (or so we thought) on Thursday during school. Thankfully, it was actually only the charger that died, so I ordered a new one today. Yay! Much cheaper!
My niece moved out last night, so now I'm trying to move my DS to his new room (her old room) and get what is to be the nursery ready and sorted so I can figure out what we even need still. Idk what we even have, or what my SIL has. Its nuts.
DH is still job-hunting. I applied for pregnancy medicaid, so hopefully that all goes through because there is no way in this world we can afford this otherwise. W/o pg medicaid we will be waaaayyyyy over our heads in debt b/c of the high-risk status and probably NICU stay on top of the c-sec, and all that comes with any reg birth. I have a dr appt with a u/s on Wednesday with the high-risk dr. I learned my high-risk, MFM dr does take medicaid afterall (WooHoo!!!!) so I don't have to change from her, and while I can't stay with the same reg o.b. they do at least have another dr in the office that takes medicaid, so I don't have to change offices. Truthfully though, I may change anyway just b/c I'm not so comfortable with him. We'll see I guess.
We got a TON done this weekend. We cleaned out DS's closet (which was been another place we filled with junk when we first moved in 5 yrs ago and haven't touched since.) It was literally an all day undertaking, but we felt soooo good to have it done! Only one closet left in the house to clean out! Yay!! Beginning tomorrow a.m. we are going to start walking every morning around the block. I'm hoping that will help me keep my weight down the rest of the pg and also help with my energy levels, the swelling, the blood sugar numbers....haha, sounds like I'm looking for a magic bullet, huh? LOL Actually, from previous experience I know it does help with all of the above, I'm just usually too lazy to do it. How's that for honesty? :/
Aarilyn is now moving so much you can see it from the outside of my belly and DH finally got to feel her kick for the first time. All day Friday and then part of Sunday she was in such a painful, awkward position I literally had to bend over and breathe deeply when she would move, it hurt so badly. I probably looked like I was in labor. LOL But she has since found a better position to stay in and I'm quite thankful!!! She is still super duper low. I'm looking forward to finding out how much the u/s thinks she weighs! I can't wait to meet this little girl! The Christmas season is usually my fave anyhow, but somehow this year is just that much more special b/c of Aarilyn's arrival. I'm ready to start decorating already!! LOL
Ditto Jana... Ditto
I have been lately also. Doesnt help getting up between 330 and 530 every day. But today I was able to go back to sleep after the couple times I woke up. So I got more sleep finally and got up around 6am instead. Im excited.
That's always nice. I didn't get out of bed until like 9:45 today. I sleep absolutely terrible at night so i'm glad I'm able to stay in bed for a long time and get some extra time/sleep. When DS is here I don't get to stay in bed that late but still pretty late (usually about 8 or 8:30). Except it's switching so I'll have to have him to school on Wednesdays starting at 8:50 or something like that next week. BLAH. It's at least 20 minutes to his school. and I try to get him there early to play with his friends. Not looking forward to Wednesdays!
Ugh. I did a ton of homework last night... Just finished a couple of hours more... Have more for the class I just did. And I have more tonight to do with DH. I HATE SCHOOL. I wish I could be done with it already. I'm thinking about next semester and having a new baby and thinking I might just not do it.
You can do it Maddie. I started college in 09 with 2 kids and dating my youngest daughter's(for now) dad and then I got pregnant with Sydney while I was going. I thankfully timmed it right and had her while on summer break so was able to just take the summer semester off with her and she was 6+ weeks old when I had to go back. I graduated with my AA when Sydney was 6 months old. I was a single parent during most of it. I was also working my last semester also. Its doable and you will only have 2 kids. Just think how much better things will be after your done with school.
Roxi - So sorry about your nightmare! I have really weird dreams right now, but a few nightmares here and there. I hope yours was a rare occasion, and you'll have better dreams now.
Kati - Mmmm now I want brownies. . . .
Jana - Yay on the charger and not the laptop! How's all the house cleaning and organizing and de-junking going? Good luck with the Medicaid. It has been a great blessing in my life for this pregnancy. If you decide to change the OB, do you have referrals of where else to look? I'm excited to have a Christmas baby, too. I wasn't happy that she'll have to share her birthday with the holiday season, but this year will be great.
Are you guys planning to take your newborn to all the holiday activities? I am terrified mine will catch something (like pertussis), even at a family event and it will be bad bad bad. At this point, I'm planning to skip most of the events, even family events, and stay home with her. I'm just so scared, and I don't know what other option there is to protect her from illness when she is so tiny and new.
So we had ANOTHER daycare issue. What is the problem? Why can't I find a good daycare? I'm getting so frustrated. We ended up pulling DS out within hours of the incident, and as soon as he was out I reported it to the licensing agency. At this point, a friend of mine is going to watch DS until I have the baby. After that, I'll figure out what to do (depending on how I'm doing with a new baby all by myself, if work ends my contract, etc). I don't even trust licensed daycares right now- I've had to pull my son three times in the last year, twice for injuries and negligence. I just can't take it anymore. I can't handle seeing my little boy go through this crap and drama. So, I'm going with a friend, someone I know and love and trust.
Marie Im sorry your having major issues with daycare. Its really hard finding someone you ca trust with your lil ones. I was lucky finding the one I have now. She is awesome and my kids love her and I totally trust her. She will take the baby after shes born well atleast after 6 weeks I might have to go back sooner than that but will get to it when we get there. Have you tried an inhome daycare? They are more personable. I had major issues with our last inhome and Taylor required staples in his head so I pulled the kids specially since her story has changed multiple times. Horrible that your DS got injured. Some people are horrible.
I will be taking Sophie to all our family stuff. Between my 2 brothers and me we have 10 kids between the 3 of us. Most are 6 and under but as long as noone is sick Im ok being around them. They will all come see us in the hospital (other then one of my brothers 2 girls unless he has them that weekend). Im not really paranoid about the kids getting sick or taking the baby out first born. I have 3 other kids besides the baby and Sydney has siblings at her dads house plus both my brothers kids so she will be exposed to alot of things. All my kids have been really healthy.
As for me today I fell asleep at my desk. lol Had both my headphones in and was just sooo tired. When I woke up I got up and went outside with a couple co workers and talked to them and walked a bit. Was fine then. lol I so wish I could nap in the afternoons. But can not. Blah. But on a good note I have been able to relax again when I wake up in the middle of the night so I am no longer getting up between 330 and 530am for the day. Which is nice. So getting a lil more sleep. Tomorrow I am 34 weeks.
We don't have any family nearby so no events to worry about...
Marie: I'm really sorry to hear about the issues with daycare.... I've been thinking about daycare lately and am wondering when we should be making a decision? We're planning to move in march and won't necessarily be in the same neighborhood so I'm wondering if its feasible yo wait until then before looking at daycares. I'm worried that the wait will then be longer and I'm not sure how long we can survive on one salary. I need to bring this up with DH....
YAY! I wrote my first exam today. It's a major hurdle for me: that time period leading up to that first exam.... Even tho I still have 3 more to write it feels good to have one under the belt. And I felt better about my answers this time compared to May. I still don't know if I passed but I think I will have at least improved my grade. Next one is on the 13th so I'm taking tomorrow to do some baby shower arrangements (food and decorations). My baby shower is a week from Saturday.
We have been getting lots of gifts ahead of the shower in the mail. Its really making things feel more real, having so much baby stuff in the house now. And I ordered the mini crib, matress and sheets yesterday! We're getting there
Oh yes! My cousin is visiting and brought some gifts from the families overseas. So spoiled!
So far this week I've gotten precious little done on the de-junking and moving DS projects. Beginning Tuesday I have swollen up like a balloon by the end of every work day and my feet and legs are killing me! Ugh! Too early for all this! At least with the back pain I can sit down or find a diff position to relieve it a bit. NOTHING has worked to take down the swelling. Ugh.
Marie, I feel ya on the daycare stuff. I worked my way through college in daycares, and having worked in them, no child of mine will ever go to one if I can possibly help it! We did a home daycare lady. She was a sweet little grandma type that only kept 4 or so kids. It was really nice! But even with home daycares I'm pretty picky. I want a "home-y" feel to it. I want to feel like my babies are getting another piece of family when they are there!
My baby shower is next weekend the 2nd. Excited, kinda nervous. I don't like being the center of attention!
roxi- glad you got an exam done. As for looking for daycare,......it took me a good solid month with lots of interviews and checking out the places. You want to go with someone you can trust, etc. I would check out the places myself, ask my questions, etc and if i liked them and they liked me then the next step was for them to meet O. I only had her meet 2 people and interviewed about 7.....we ended up going with a lady a friend had reccomended ----
Marie - sorry to hear about your daycare issues, i'd also have to second what Jana mentioned about doing in home daycare. I also worked in daycare centers pretty much from high school through college and i would also NEVER send my kids to a center..... i knew it'd be a at home daycare. Licensed or not, in my job we see a lot of reports from licensed day cares come through - so i think it really matters on the person you leave them with and if they are trustworthy.
Yay roxi on the exam! That's exciting. I'm not looking forward to all my schooling. and yay for getting baby stuff. It definitely makes a difference. I bought some baby laundry detergent yesterday so that I can start prepping. Good luck at your shower
marie- sorry about all the day care issues. I hope that everything works out with your friend watching him and that you get everything sorted for when the baby is born.
Kati- crazy how tired we are becoming huh?!
jana- good luck with the dejunking and such. sucks that you are so swollen by the end of the day. DH was rubbing my feet last night and asked if they were swollen.. I was like... "Do they feel fat? uhh I'm pregnant so probably" lol. Good luck at your shower too.
So.... I think I have bronchitis.. The neighbors grand daughter had it and then DH got sick and now I'm sick. My OBs office has me going to a doctor (my ob is outta town for the next week). My primary dr is closed on fridays so i have to go into Docs on Call. :/ It totally sucks feeling awful. I cough and i end up peeing my pants. I had to change undies twice today even though I put a pantyliner on GAAAAH so embarrassing.
It's a bummer because we were supposed to take DS to the pumpkin patch today and I really want to go. But DH might end up taking DS without me.
My dog got a much needed grooming today. They thought he was a girl (not sure how you mistake his pee pee but oh well). He got bellbottoms and they stuck a pink/orange feather on his ear. he looks absolutely adorable. HEHEHEH. I was supposed to take him but DH got up and took him instead for me.. He's being real sweet.
I hate being sick. I have a terrible cough... it's not constant but when I cough it's really deep and it hurts really bad. I have a heaviness feeling on my chest, my ears tingle and I'm just blah. I don't "feel" sick though y'know. Like I could keep functioning I think pretty easily for a bit... But I know it would make me worse and it's important for me to rest. OB offfice said DOC might give me an inhaler to make sure I get a good amount of oxygen and such if I have a hard time breathing. And they will probably prescribe a cough medicine. I am definitely looking forward to getting better!!!
DH has to work all weekend (Sat, Sun, Mon) and I will have DS all to myself. Not very fun when i feel awful. and I dont' want DS to get sick... but chances are he is going to. I might need to talk to my dad or someone to see if he can come help me out or something.
Sorry, Maddie. I hate it when you're sick but don't feel sick "enough". It's frustrating.
I think I made a very bad choice in deciding to watch "The Business of Being Born" today....
Hope you get better soon Maddie.
Roxi what is that movie? Ive heard of it never seen it though lol
I have a feeling I will be having this baby in the next 2-3 weeks. Today I have been hurting soooo bad. Alot of pain in my crotch and had some *TMI* blood earlier. Was only once otherwise I would of called my dr or gone to the hospital. I had a couple contractions today while I was at work.
Its a documentary about the maternity medical system in the US and is very biased towards home births.... You gotta watch it with an open mind and not get caught up in the almost "scare tactics" side of it that tries to convince you that doctors don't ever have your best interest at heart.
Maybe your bloody show?? I hope baby bakes for a few weeks more.
mmm sounds like its not something I want to watch lol. I have had 3 hospital births and my second was very uncontrolled. I have friends who have had major issues with hospital births and know a few that have had homme births. I will still stay with hospital births with my dr. I know that he wont do anything that would hurt me or my kids. Hes our family dr so he sees us for everything and delivered my last daughter. He missed my sons birth because my mom chose to call her family in davenport inseatd of calling him. He saw Trinity after I had her but it was at a different hospital than he likes so he only discharged her. I prefer drs like that then one where I have to go to multiple different drs for everything. Not all people like male drs but he is an awesome dr and will fight to keep him if I move again lol. Alot of movies like that are very biased and use scare tactics. I hate them. I think thats part of why I didnt want to take a birth class or any of that because I know alot of those are biased and try to change your views on things. Your body in the end will do what its supposed to unless your not ready or your body isnt able to have the baby like its supposed to.
As for the blood it was just a little bit nothing like the bloody show that I have had in the past. Im thinking it was just something from DTD that morning/night before
I am also having a hospital birth but I am rethinking my potential choices regarding the drugs and interventions, which is why I decided to watch it. We've been going birth education classes and I'm very happy with them because our instructor/coach doesn't seem biased or judgemental. She is all about making you aware of your choices and the possible effects of those choices on you, the baby and your birth experience. (can you tell I'm a first-timer )
My birthing class too was very unbiased. which was really good. I am however an all natural kinda girl. but I would prefer to have a hospital birth than a home birth. I feel better about having a doctor there and all the supplied needed available. I hemorrhaged with my son and I was happy to be at the hospital.
Today I feel ultra-sick. I had to have my dad come pick up DS so that I can avoid getting him sick as much as possible and so I can rest and not feel like I'm abandoning him.
I went to DOC yesterday and they think it's just a viral infection and didn't really do much at all... go figure. I got an inhaler just in case it changes into pneumonia though. and then if I feel like I need it it'll be time to go in again.. Luckily today its mostly just throat pain and less coughing... although when I cough it's awful I'm definitely ready to be better already. the dr did said that today I would probably peak out and then over the next week I should start feeling better. So... hopefully I get better. my OB appt is on Wednesday and if I'm not better by then I'm definitely talking to the ob office to see what to do.
I am all for the epidural with both girls I had one and it was great. No effects on me or the girls. Taylor we had no time to get an epi and the nurse shot me in the leg with pitocin after I had him to keep me contracting. I was pissed because she didnt say anything just did it. Not something I would want again. This time I want an epidural if I can. With Sydney I was up and moving just fine not long after(had a few visitors right after I had her and then got cleaned up and had more visitors and was sitting on the floor with her and some of the other kids. Im just hoping that after my water breaks my contractions wont stop like they did with Sydney. Every birth has been completely different, also with how many people were in the room lol. Im starting to really talk to my parents and a few other people about this time so we will see what happens this time. I need to talk to my parents about them watching the kids while I am in the hospital otherwise idk who will watch them.
Today was a long morning with my kids since Taylor wanted to act up. He took a nap by 1030. Part was because we had to go out of town for my nephews 2nd birthday. This afternoon was nice. Was so fun having most the kids together.
maddie i hope you're feeling better....
I never felt that my dr, midwife or the education birthing classes were biased or forced me to do something i didn't want. Even with the flu shot - they educate me, answer my questions, but NEVER have made me feel pressured to get it or not get it.
I went in, wanting to see how things went regarding being medicated or not. THere is no reward for being "superwomen" during labor.... but if it was toleratable, then i felt why get the meds. I ended up getting the epidural after DD so kindly kept banging into my hip bone....that was THe most unbearable pain i have ever felt. I was nervous about getting the epidural, but i still felt pressure and the "ring of fire" they talk about - that's how i knew she was RIGHT THERE and that i was almost over.....so i don't know if they turned down my epi or what, but i still felt things but it was bearable. I had complications after delivery, so i'm also glad i was in a hopsital..... this time i'm going in with the same mind set of lets see how it goes and if i need the epidural, then i'll get one....if not, then that's okay too....
I got an email today that me and my kids(Sophie included) got adopted by my oldest daughters school and their partners in education people for christmas. I think its an awesome thing and will actually really help since normally I shop all year round for christmas and their birthdays (Taylors is New Years Eve and Trinitys is Jan 12) so I get hit with all three right in a row but this year I realized that I had been slacking totally and have very little and had no clue how I was going to do it since Im going to be on maternity leave and have to pay the bills first. Its a very nice gesture. So one less thing I have to worry about this year.
Nice, Katie! That was an awesome email to get!
Jules: I am also taking the "wait and see" approach. I feel like it is my rite of passage to see how much of the pain of birth I can handle but if I want an epi at any stage I'm not going berate myself for it. But if I manage to get thru the whole thing without it then it will be a huge personal accomplishment.
Maddie: how are you feeling??
That will really help you out Kati! I'm sooooo thankful bc we had already put all of DS's Christmas gifts on layaway on a whim, which we NEVER do. We always just buy it whenever, as we want to. I know that sounds totally spoiled, but we could afford it before, even when it stretched us a bit, it didn't bust the budget or anything. But about a month ago he went fast asleep in the buggy while we were at the store and we looked at each other and said "Christmas shopping w/o having to pay a babysitter!" so we went ahead and got what we were wanting to get him and the nephews and put it on layaway all at one time, and paid part of it. I'm sooooo glad because with hubby's layoff I'm not so sure he would be getting Christmas otherwise!
Hope you are feeling much better Maddie! Sickness on top of pregnancy majorly stinks!!
Kati and Roxi, I'm of the same "we'll see how it goes" mindset. I know I'm a c-sec and some people think that means everything goes a certain way and you get to plan everything out ahead of time. Well, I don't. I'm the "come in tomorrow, we're taking this baby early whether you are ready or not" patient that NO ONE likes to be. So, flexibility is GOOD! If I'm ready beforehand, great, and if I'm not, I already learned with DS that I will survive that just fine too. We were in the middle of tiling a house, had just taken in a stray dog that we were trying to find a home for, who then tore up the nursery while were at the hospital having a baby. My MIL had to come clean for me before we came home from the hospital. And I really wasn't expecting to go in the hospital to have the baby then, so I ended up trying to do a month's worth of lesson plans and all of my end of year testing for my students in one afternoon. It was crazy! I know it isn't the same at all as what ya'll were talking about, but it made me start thinking about my own experiences. Sorry for the rambling.
Today I'm having some crazy vertigo issues! Not the best feeling! Sooooo dizzy! Anyone know of any remedies?
Hey Ladies. Thanks for checkin' in on me. I haven't been on my computer much. I am still sick unfortunately. Today I'm feeling better than I did yesterday. I actually nearly fainted yesterday while going potty. It was awful and scary. But the doctors said to just keep riding things out.
I'd write more but I'm just not really feeling up to it. I'll be back around again soon.
Aw sorry to hear that, Maddie keep hydrated! And don't forget to eat...