True Confessions - 11/26/2012

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True Confessions - 11/26/2012

Alright POAS addicts! Time to fess up! Secret

Does your DH/SO/BF/partner know how much you obsess over TTCing? Biggrin

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Mine does not. Well, I mean, he knows it's upsetting me, and that we are on our way to the specialist obviously lol But, I try not to show him how much it upsets or affects me. He gets very concerned about my mental well-being and I don't want thim to think i'm stressing so much I'll have a breakdown. He has said over and over that if we get there, he will want to stop trying because it's not worth my mental health to keep stressing and upsetting myself over what might never happen. That might sound harsh, but I have a depressive disorder, so a low spot for me is REALLY low and very hard to come out of.

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Aww, I hope you get your baby soon!

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Susan, how sweet of your hubby to be so concerned about your well being. Like Bonita, I am hoping that you get your baby soon. Smile

I always tried to play it cool with DH and not let on how much I was obsessing over TTCing, but I think he knows me too well and knew anyway. Blum 3

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My husband always knew. For a long time he was frustrated with me for it, mainly because he was in denial of our fertility struggles. But by the time we embarked on IVF he was my full supporter and living in the reality of our situation! Biggrin He was even using the slang we use online. Nothing made me giggle more than when I would hear my husband say poas!! ROFL We are no longer ttc due to our fertility issues. But every now and then I still get the urge to poas. That, I don't let my husband know about. He'd probably roll his eyes at me if he knew. Old habits die hard I guess. :shrug:

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"dreamchaser" wrote:

My husband always knew. For a long time he was frustrated with me for it, mainly because he was in denial of our fertility struggles. But by the time we embarked on IVF he was my full supporter and living in the reality of our situation! Biggrin He was even using the slang we use online. Nothing made me giggle more than when I would hear my husband say poas!! ROFL We are no longer ttc due to our fertility issues. But every now and then I still get the urge to poas. That, I don't let my husband know about. He'd probably roll his eyes at me if he knew. Old habits die hard I guess. :shrug:

I totally understand the urge to POAS. You are talking to the lady that has taken a pg test at least every other month since having her tubes tied. Imagine my shock when I got a positive one...

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When I started tracking my cycles 6 mos before we got married, yeah, DH knew I was a nutter. Smile And I started taking prenatals. He was aware. When I did the whole legs up the wall after DTD on our honeymoon, he knew. Smile And then of course, we were so freaking lucky- he couldn't believe it when I handed him that positive test. He definitely knows I'm "on it". He also trusted my judgement when I told him that we needed to start using condoms again. It's far too soon for #3, and DS sleeps well enough that even though I haven't had a period yet, it's too late to take chances anymore. So yeah... I'd say I'm pretty open with him, and he knows. Smile

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Yes, DH is pretty aware of how crazy I am while TTC, and since it's been going on for a while now, he just rolls his eyes when I tell him he's 'on duty this week.' I've been POAS every day this week and except for the time I sent him out to buy more tests, he hasn't commented except to ask if I'm still late.

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"ajmsMommy" wrote:

Yes, DH is pretty aware of how crazy I am while TTC, and since it's been going on for a while now, he just rolls his eyes when I tell him he's 'on duty this week.' I've been POAS every day this week and except for the time I sent him out to buy more tests, he hasn't commented except to ask if I'm still late.

Veronica!!! So nice to see you! Good luck on TTC!!!

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

Aww, I hope you get your baby soon!

"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

Susan, how sweet of your hubby to be so concerned about your well being. Like Bonita, I am hoping that you get your baby soon. Smile

I always tried to play it cool with DH and not let on how much I was obsessing over TTCing, but I think he knows me too well and knew anyway. Blum 3

Thank you ladies very much! Appt tomorrow morning! SOOOOO nervous!

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What is your appointment for?

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

What is your appointment for?

First fertility specialist appointment. I had been seeing one md, then moved and have seen a second md as general practitioners. Both have given me their blessing to try health-wise, some advice, done some blood testing, and tried little things (like 18 months ago I lost 40 pounds to see if it helped my cycles. it didn't. at all.), but we haven't tried any actual medical assistance to get pregnant.

This will be a first, and I'm scared they won't help, or that I will be un-help-able!!

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Good luck at your appointment! I think it's great that you are exploring your options, and I hope that you will find a strategy that works and you are happy with.

I totally understand being nervous! When they were testing me to find out what was going on with me and why I had lost two pregnancies in a row, I was terrified that the answer was going to be that I couldn't have any more kids, or worse yet, no answers. Everything crossed that you will get some really useful info and be able to conceive quickly and easily. Please keep us posted!

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My DH didn't know how much I obsessed when we were trying to DS I think I would have driven him nuts. Now that we are TTC#2 he knows but he's not in on it he just tells me to let him know when it's time and he will BD when I tell him to!! I think it's easier for him that way!!

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"1st time mummy" wrote:

he will BD when I tell him to!!

I have to confess this made me giggle a little.

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"1st time mummy" wrote:

My DH didn't know how much I obsessed when we were trying to DS I think I would have driven him nuts. Now that we are TTC#2 he knows but he's not in on it he just tells me to let him know when it's time and he will BD when I tell him to!! I think it's easier for him that way!!

Taking one for the team!! Way to go hubby!!! Wink

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"smsturner" wrote:

First fertility specialist appointment. I had been seeing one md, then moved and have seen a second md as general practitioners. Both have given me their blessing to try health-wise, some advice, done some blood testing, and tried little things (like 18 months ago I lost 40 pounds to see if it helped my cycles. it didn't. at all.), but we haven't tried any actual medical assistance to get pregnant.

This will be a first, and I'm scared they won't help, or that I will be un-help-able!!

All the best tomorrow!! Stay positive! Biggrin

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

I have to confess this made me giggle a little.

Me too. Lol

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Funny how my dh is the same. Just tell him when to show up for sex and he'll be there! lol!

Thank you ladies for the good wishes!

The RE was awesome! He was nice and supportive. He told me that while my weight is high, it is likely not the problem as my cycles have never been normal. He says that it seems to him, the thing to do is get me ovulating regularly so that we have our fair shot of getting pg. He doesn't think i have PCOS either, but could develop it.

So. I walked out with a prescription for provera to induce a cycle. And a prescription for clomid. To try when the cycle gets here. He also scheduled an hsg for day 6-12 of my next cycle. So that's where we'll start!
I can't even believe how well it went!

I'm very excited to get going. Taking the provera starting tonight!

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Yay Susan! I am so happy that you have gotten some things to try. Hoping that Clomid turns out to be your miracle maker! Biggrin

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"smsturner" wrote:

Funny how my dh is the same. Just tell him when to show up for sex and he'll be there! lol!

Thank you ladies for the good wishes!

The RE was awesome! He was nice and supportive. He told me that while my weight is high, it is likely not the problem as my cycles have never been normal. He says that it seems to him, the thing to do is get me ovulating regularly so that we have our fair shot of getting pg. He doesn't think i have PCOS either, but could develop it.

So. I walked out with a prescription for provera to induce a cycle. And a prescription for clomid. To try when the cycle gets here. He also scheduled an hsg for day 6-12 of my next cycle. So that's where we'll start!
I can't even believe how well it went!

I'm very excited to get going. Taking the provera starting tonight!

Yay! How exciting!