Alright POAS addicts! Time to fess up!
Does your DH/SO/BF/partner know how much you obsess over TTCing?
Mine does not. Well, I mean, he knows it's upsetting me, and that we are on our way to the specialist obviously lol But, I try not to show him how much it upsets or affects me. He gets very concerned about my mental well-being and I don't want thim to think i'm stressing so much I'll have a breakdown. He has said over and over that if we get there, he will want to stop trying because it's not worth my mental health to keep stressing and upsetting myself over what might never happen. That might sound harsh, but I have a depressive disorder, so a low spot for me is REALLY low and very hard to come out of.
Susan, how sweet of your hubby to be so concerned about your well being. Like Bonita, I am hoping that you get your baby soon.
I always tried to play it cool with DH and not let on how much I was obsessing over TTCing, but I think he knows me too well and knew anyway.
My husband always knew. For a long time he was frustrated with me for it, mainly because he was in denial of our fertility struggles. But by the time we embarked on IVF he was my full supporter and living in the reality of our situation! He was even using the slang we use online. Nothing made me giggle more than when I would hear my husband say poas!! We are no longer ttc due to our fertility issues. But every now and then I still get the urge to poas. That, I don't let my husband know about. He'd probably roll his eyes at me if he knew. Old habits die hard I guess.
When I started tracking my cycles 6 mos before we got married, yeah, DH knew I was a nutter. And I started taking prenatals. He was aware. When I did the whole legs up the wall after DTD on our honeymoon, he knew. And then of course, we were so freaking lucky- he couldn't believe it when I handed him that positive test. He definitely knows I'm "on it". He also trusted my judgement when I told him that we needed to start using condoms again. It's far too soon for #3, and DS sleeps well enough that even though I haven't had a period yet, it's too late to take chances anymore. So yeah... I'd say I'm pretty open with him, and he knows.
Mara & Joel, 2009
Yes, DH is pretty aware of how crazy I am while TTC, and since it's been going on for a while now, he just rolls his eyes when I tell him he's 'on duty this week.' I've been POAS every day this week and except for the time I sent him out to buy more tests, he hasn't commented except to ask if I'm still late.