11mo Refusing Solids
This question will come back to BFing in a second. Just bear with me. My nearly one year old (:eek:) doesn't eat food. She maybe eats a few bites every day. I offer food 3-5 times per day and it all goes on the floor/in her hair/ground into her clothes. We pretty much do BLW but I offer spoonfuls of things like yogurt. I've tried everything. I've varied flavors/textures/temperatures. She just doesn't seem to like food! Sometimes she'll take to something for one meal and then reject it the next time I offer it. My doc wasn't concerned at her 9 month appt. Her anemia test came back fine. 2 months later, I'm a little concerned about her iron levels. I don't want to supplement with vitamins unless I REALLY have to (I'm not even sure how I'd get them in her). I plan to ask the doc to retest her at her one year appt coming up. I'll also readdress the no-food thing with him then. In the meantime, I'm wondering if I can persuade her to eat more by gently cutting back on BFing.
I intend to BF for at least another year if she's interested. She's still a hefty kiddo so you can imagine how much she must still be nursing. I'm totally fine with how much she nurses. That's not the issue at all. I just want to make sure her diet is well-rounded now that she's older and especially since we're vegetarian I need to know she's getting the proper amount of non-heme iron. I'm (and she's) no where near ready for any firm weaning.
I'm thinking maybe I can try two things:
1) No more bottles of EBM at daycare. We're already working towards this. She's down to one 3 oz bottle during the seven hours she's there and I plan to drop that one around her birthday. She kinda hates bottles so I don't think she's going to mind getting rid of them at all. She usually just waits to nurse when I pick her up but perhaps dropping the bottle will make her hungrier and therefore more create an incentive to eat the food I send with her.
2) Transitioning from co-sleeping to sleeping in her own room. She gets the majority of her calories at night. I'm more or less OK with this. I get enough sleep most days and I adore waking up to my sleepy monkey. Perhaps making the move will again make her hungrier and therefore more interested in FOOD.
All of this probably sounds elementary but I'm petrified that taking these steps will cause her to wean completely before I'd like her to. I would feel terrible "working mom" guilt for taking away her nursey nursey time prematurely even if it were on her terms.
Does anyone have some words of wisdom/support?
I wish I had some words of wisdom! Em can be a picky eater too. She (and some of her friends) go through spells where she wants to nurse and won't touch solids much. For us, it's usually teething related.
I found what helped get Emma to eat more solids was offering solids first and then BFing second.
I know they don't usually recommend that before the one year mark, but I would do it maybe one meal a day starting around 11 months and it helped a bit.
I hope you find something that works for the both of you soon!
Thanks Mia. I've been doing that for about 2 months now. Teagan's also pretty much always teething. She's getting her molars in right now.
Believe it or not she ate all her lunch today! Let's hope its not a fluke.
Both my kids really picked up eating around 10mo. I agree that you could do solids before you nurse even though that's not what they recommend.
I also found that my kids tend to be grazers, and would rather eat lots of little snacks throughout the day instead of bigger meals. So a few goldfish crackers as they cruise the living room, cut up bites of cheese as we read a book, bites of strawberry as she watches me cook dinner from her high chair, it all adds up.
Originally Posted by mommycarrie
I second this. My DS 1 who is almost 4 has always been a grazer. My pedi said this is totally fine.
My youngest really didn't start eating more solids until around 10mo too. I was really worried about this as well (I BF'd him). Even at 8 mo he just wouldn't take to solids. And forget about anything with any type of chunks to it - he would just gag.
He really started enjoying solids around 10-12 months. Just when I thought he was never going to eat "normal" food he turned it around on his own.
It's good that your LO ate her whole lunch! It's probably going to trend that way. Just keep trying - they really do get it eventually.
GL and congrats that the BFing is going so well!
Yeah, I honestly just wouldn't worry about it, especially if she's healthy and you're ok with how much she's nursing. My DD isn't big on food either. In fact, I think I could probably forget to feed her for a day, and she wouldn't complain, she would just nurse. But of course, I do feed her and she eats as much as she does. Sometimes it's a ton, sometimes it's very little. But she is also healthy, and her levels were all fine at her last check too (I'm also a veg, though DH isn't, and she's had a handful of chicken in her life). So yeah... I think she'll eat when she's ready. Keep offering a healthy range of stuff, and she'll do it sooner or later!
Another mom at our local LLL had the same thing happen- but her LO would eat about the same amount... at well over 1 yr old, mom chose to continue to pump for her even though she was over 1 yr old because she didnt eat much else, but given just a couple months she completely weaned (mama encouraged it because she got pregnant again) and eating just fine. just had to wait until her LO became interested in food at like 15 months old.