I agree, you have to STOP listening to other people. Do what works for you and Julianna! If you want to continue nursing, then do it. There is nothing wrong AT ALL for nursing to a year or past a year or for several years.
I've had several comments lately about weaning Kaylin because she is almost "a year old" but I put them right back in their place by telling them that Pedi's actually recommend nursing to two + years as it's the most healthy option.
BTW - as far as pumping, some women just do NOT respond to a pump. It took awhile for my body to adjust to pumping vs. nursing during the day.
Oh Bonnie... it makes me so sad to read your posts!! ((hugs)) ((hugs)) and more ((hugs)). You are getting so much pressure from your dh and the family.. and that coupled with your boobs feeling smaller is making you think you 'should' stop nursing. I agree with pp - do what feels right for YOU! You'll regret it and resent it later if you cave in to dh and others and wean her when your gut is telling you that she's not ready.
Nursing strikes: don't let that stop you. She could be just adjusting her schedule, or going through a brief 'strike'.. my daughter did 3x when she was 9 months, 11 months and once I think just after 1. She went right back to normal after a few days or a week. Julianna may do the same. But if you give her milk or formula, you won't have the opportunity to find out because your milk will probably dry up.
DH putting her to bed: GET OVER IT DH!! Sorry, but it makes me feel mad because it seems so selfish on his part. (sorry if I'm offending.. I don't mean to.. I just want to say what my gut feelings are...). Maybe you could compromise in some way: change her routine so that he does all the lead-ups: bath, story, snuggle etc and then he hands her to you for the final nurse (if she's interested). At least that gives her the option..
The family: AARGH!!! I can't think of a single other thing to say! How dare they wade in on something so intensely personal between you and your baby??!! &*%^*#!! Don't they know how healthy it is for her.. and you.. and she's having problems adjusting to milk.. and you're feeling torn and sad... the whole thing just plain stinks and they need to shut up and let you listen to your own little voice that will tell you when the 'right time' is to wean her.
Again.. I really apologize if I've offended you Bonnie.. but I felt so upset after reading your posts. ((hugs)) to you and sweet Jules... I really hope you find the strength to do what YOU want to do.
Bonnie, I am SO sorry that you are having a hard time. But like the others said, try not to let people sway your decision. Only you can decide what is best for you and your family. HUGS honey!
It's been like 4 weeks since I last pumped and today I had oatmeal for breakfast. I had been staying away from it since I know it can increase your supply. I didn't think just one bowl would effect me, and with it being 4 weeks since I last pumped but OMG are the SORE today!!!!!!!!! I have NO idea why but they are sore and hard as a rock. I don't wear pads anymore, but I should have today. Good thing I have on two shirts and a sweater so hopefully I will be able to make it home before they leak too much. Is is possible for just one bowl of oatmeal to do this to me? I wanted to switch to eating oatmeal for breakfast to cut back on calories, but maybe that isn't an option right now. UGH
Ouch, Tara! I bet the oatmeal was the culprit. I get an increase when I eat it as well.
Hope the pain and soreness goes away soon!
We're still chugging along here. She is so attached to the boob, I see it lasting for awhile. We are still nursing several times at night. It's exhausting but honestly I wouldn't trade it. I really enjoy the closeness of it all.
Still trying to get her to drink regular milk...I've been home with her for 2 days so she goes back to the sitter tomorrow. We're going to do the mix between breastmilk and organic milk to see if she'll drink that.
Well I'm still nursing her at night, and I've just decided that I'm doing the nighttime nursing until shes one, nursing still on occasion in the morning also, I'm happy that I can rely on my body to make milk on demand for her, when I go a while without nusing her, In between the morning and night though shes getting formula, and I'm slowly mixing it with whole milk, to prevent the horrible butt rashes she gets, thanks for your words of encouragment, I know I shouldn't let people sway my decision, but I can't help it, I had a hard time at DH moms house this weekend, Cause I knew she was going to expect to put julianna to sleep with a bottle, and have "grandma time" but I was so worried about losing my supply, and it was making me emotional, on friday night I was crying, and my DH was being very supportive and felt bad for me, but he just can't understand the emotional hardship of all this, Hes a man...And this was going to be 2 nights in a row, without nursing, that was really worrying me, The following night on saturday though I left her formula at my SIL's house....so I got to nurse, his mom was pretty sad, But I was secretly super happy...I understand my DH though, He wants me done at a year, He misses having me more to himself, He loves the kids to death, But he wants his wife back at nighttime, The nursing kills my sex drive, well I hope its that and while nursing I'm not willing to part with her for a night or two, and hes got plans for some romantic nights alone and away, So I understand....while he wouldn't be mad if I kept going, He just talks about wanting me back....all of me...and while I love nursing her, I love my DH and his feelings to.
Kirsten I took your advice to heart also, And decided that I'm going to continue to nurse her everynight..............It did not go over so well, My DH was actually mad at me last night, When I told him I was putting her to sleep, He does not get mad very often, but he was last night......So then I felt really guilty, I feel more now like I'm being selfish on my part, He really wants to put her to bed every other night.........so maybe it is selfishness on my part, I'm sorry I'm sure your all getting tired of reading over my struggles.......Everytime I make my mind up on something, Something changes or goes wrong....and I have to get it out somewhere. I just get scared that if I don't nurse her everynight I'll lose my supply.
I am trying to wean down to pumping 1x a day - so today I pumped at 11 instead of my usual 10 / 3. My boobs are hard right now! Ugh!
I asked the sitter to start whole milk cold turkey today for one sippy cup for Kaylin. I am sure it'll tick her off, she's so attached to breastmilk...the kid still nurses 3-4x a night. I hope we can continue at least nursing at night for awhile...I really enjoy the bond.