Sooo many books I read all give advice about how to keep your LO from falling asleep at the boob. My DD rarely falls asleep on the boob (like maybe once over a 24 hour period), there is no advice for that one. Most of the time it is not a problem. During the day I can rock her to sleep, engage her in her awake time, or put her in a sling and that usually does the trick to get her to sleep. BUT at night it is not so fun. Our feeding times (or rather her awake times) are lasting anywhere from 1 1/2 hours to 3 hours. She is doing anywhere from 2-4 hour sleeping stretches, but still the nights are hard.
My son was not the sleepy newborn either! About the only times he would consistently fall asleep from nursing were at night with cosleeping and keeping all the lights off. Wake ups were longer when we had to change his diaper throughout the night due to him pooping (which was definitely happening at 1 month). At this point it really is all about survival still. I just did what worked at the time taking it day by day. It's common for them to still not have a clue about days and nights too, but you can work on keeping lights going and not worrying about noise during the day and keeping it dark and quiet at night. ((hugs)) I know it's rough right now but eventually it will pass. I'm sure you're doing a great job mama!
I think it will get easier when we don't have to change her at night as much. Right now though she is a peeing and pooping machine. I do co-sleep and keep it pretty dark, but we have a night light and it casts shadows which she finds truly interesting-
any advice on still being able to see her a little bit to get a correct latch, but not a lot that it would be a big distraction for her?
we also keep it pretty dark in her room, where we change her, using a night light- that way she is never exposed to that bright of a light at night.
Getting that correct latch in the dark becomes easier the older they get - rather than me helping DS latch on he found his own way and latched himself on! I did do lots of practicing with side laying nursing during the day when there was light so that I was more sure of myself at night. If you need a light, turn it on and get her latched, and then turn it off. We weren't too good at this at a month since I couldn't get myself comfortable side laying for nursing till after 2 weeks due to my c/s.
I agree with Jackie, its all about survival right now. But that doesn't mean there aren't things to try. I needed light to latch Teagan on until she was 4 months or so. I threw a few baby blankets over a light on my nightstand and just turned it on when we nursed. We have a humidifier in our room for white noise, I think you said you have one too? Are you swaddling her in a onesie or just a diaper? Maybe she's getting too hot? Are you talking to her? If so, maybe stop? If not, maybe try singing to her? Teagan responded really well to me singing to her. Try changing her in your room. Have a stash of diapers in the co-sleeper pouches and just change her in bed on a little change pad. I totally feel you on the poop machine. Teagan pooped 10-12 times per 24 hours, easily. That was our challenge for sure. It stops eventually. I wanna say around 3 months? Once they quit pooping at night you can switch to a night time diaper setup that might help her sleep longer stretches.
And take not falling asleep at the boob as a blessing! It might seem like a nightmare right now but its going to make things a lot easier in the long run. She's only going to be a newborn for a few short months but she's going to need to go to bed for the rest of her life. The moms I know who've had an easier time with bedtime are moms who have been able to have their DHs put LO to bed. Izzy's only been able to put Teagan to bed in the past few months. Imagine being the only one who can put Vivian to bed every night for 18 months!
I noticed last week that Vivian takes really long naps during the day. I might try to do one of two things. 1) Take a nap yourself, woman! 2) Gently encourage her to shift those stretches to night time. I would not go so far as to wake her up. Maybe try putting her down for naps in her crib where its nice and bright. After an hour, go in and just rustle around. Only do that if you're absolutely losing it though. Babies really need their sleep and in all honesty you've got a great sleeper. Too much meddling could turn her into a true nightmare baby.
I'll add that we use a red light bulb for a nightlight. It doesn't cast shadows in the same way that a regular night light does.
My DD never fell asleep at the boob either. It is nicer later!
She might sleep better when you don't have to change her diaper everytime. We found that helped with sleeping when that stage was over.
hang in there!
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