My little guy was born last Thursday, and we're having a nursing issue I could really use input on:
Generally, things are well. In the first few days, he was cluster feeding and you could tell he was hungry, so I was really glad when my milk came in. It made a big difference at night: instead of waking me up every 20 minutes to nurse, he would sleep a few hours in between. My supply isn't quite up to demand yet. I am drinking tons of water, and I also started taking fenugreek. My supply was a little wimpy with DD too in the beginning, and I don't think we could possibly nurse more to get it established. He is a long nurser, like DD, he'll stay on each breast for half an hour or much longer.
Our big issue uually only occurs in the afternoons and at night, we don't seem to have this problem so much during the day. He is a very impatient nurser, and so sometimes he will get so angry if he wasn't able to latch on the first time, he will turn red and start screaming and flailing his arms around. It's impossible to get him to latch on after that, no matter what I try, and so we have to work really hard to get him calmed down. Then when he's calmed down, we put him to the breast, and a lot of times, he's right back to screaming again, once my nipple is within 3 inches of his face, because it didn't happen soon enough, or on the first try. Then if we can get him nursing, he's still kind of worked up, and moving his arms about, and often one of his arms will hit me in just the right way to break his latch, and then the angry starts again. It's REALLY frustrating, especially at 1 in the morning! It's also kind of scary, it's colic-like crying, very intense. What to do? And when will it end? And is it common, or does it mean anything? Last night I was worrying about it... does this mean he has autistic tendencies? Does it mean he's going to be an angry, violent person? Sigh. Worries, and baby blues have kind of got me about lots of little things, but I am trying to have a sense of humor about it. But I really could use some advice/reassurance about this one.
We've tried changing nursing positions when this is going on to get him to latch, and sometimes that helps, but often it doesn't. We have definitely tried swaddling, but if you swaddle him when he's in one of those moods, it makes him even angrier. So far we have not been able to successfully swaddle him where his arms stay down. They are perpetually bent up like a boxer, near his face, and swaddling him is hard, even when he's calm. He always works them out. If I could swaddle him and get him to stay swaddled, he'd sleep better, too, because often it's his arms breaking free that wakes him up.