I'm 20 weeks with my second now-due in June. With DD (my first) I nursed on demand- and actually still do. We tried to use a paci in the car because she HATED the car and would scream, scream, scream any time we were in it for more than a few minutes (which unfortunately, was often). It took her a long time to take it (like we offered it for about a month before she actually started using it), and then when she did, she only ended up using it for about 2-3 mos. After that she completely rejected it again- and she pretty much would never accept it when what she REALLY wanted was to nurse. She mostly would only take it in the car.
I am lucky enough (well, I think) to be a SAHM- so I have always been able to nurse on demand. I don't own a pump (I bought one when DD was born just in case, never opened it, and returned it), and have never used one. When DD was small I used to try to hand express now and then- especially when I was feeling quite full, and I'd get like 2oz at a time. I ended up with about 20oz in the freezer that never got used AT ALL (we moved continents, and so it eventually got tossed). DD never had a bottle in her life.
As you can imagine though- this also means that I have never been away from DD for more than say 6 hours in her life. And even that didn't happen until she was over 1 year old. Now, the truth is, I never WANTED to be away from her for longer. It was honestly over the summer when she was about 15 mos old that for the first time I said something like, "Gee, it'd be nice if I could leave her with a sitter tonight!" Call me co-dependent or something...but that's just how I felt. My husband however, doesn't like that we've never been able to leave DD at bedtime because of the need to nurse/no bottles thing- we have been on a very rare date now and then, but mostly only in the afternoon. His parents are coming to visit in a week, and we will finally probably go out on a proper night time date for the first time since before DD was born- and the lord be with them when it comes to dealing with DD at bedtime!
Anyway... I'm babbling...
My questions are these:
1) Does/did your EBF baby take a paci? When did you introduce it if so? Do you feel like it ever interfered with nursing?
2) If you are a mom that doesn't otherwise really NEED to pump (like cause your kid is at daycare)- do you pump anyway? Did you introduce your child to bottles just so you could do things like go on dates or use sitters? When did you introduce bottles in this case? Was it hard for you?
Thanks for your experiences and opinions and advice. I know it may seem silly to some, but these decisions feel like a very big deal to me- which is why they are on my mind already 5 mos before my baby is due to be born!